Hello,
So... this is our second cycle of TTC.. last cycle, I discorvered that my OH was having baby making sex with me AND masturbating at least 2 times a day.... I was like "What?! That lowers your sperm count you know"... and kinda made a big deal about it. So this cycle of trying, he told me it was going to be hard to stop masturbating daily because he has been doing it for years, but he will stop so we can make our baby..
So we talk about this all the time because I ask him every day whether he masturbated or not. He says he thinks its not true that it lowers his sperm count significantly because he got his ex girlfriend pregnant before, and he was still masturbating daily, once or twice, at that time and she still got pregnant.. I said, "You cant say for sure that you were or were not at that time as it was like 2 years ago... you said she was living with you, so..." really who knows..
But as we are actually trying and we both really want babies with each other, I want to do everything we can to increase our chances...
We have had sex every other day starting Tuesday... I usually go right from AF into my fertile period because my cycles are 27 days... So on Tuesday the 4th we BD in the morning (its always the morning..), which was cycle day 9... . I wore a softcup with a little bit of preseed in it after that.. then we had sex again on the 6th in the morning, cycle day 11... Well this time we had sex, then I put the cup in, then we started having sex with the cup in like 3 hours later.. Dont ask.. LOL... So I kinda think we ruined it a bit because we may have caused some leakage..
Then Saturday the 7th, we had sex again in the morning, I put a soft cup in, he left for 3-4 hours, we took the soft cup out, had sex again and he ejaculated in me again, then I put another cup in.
I had ovulation pains starting from Wednesday night until Yesterday.. they have stopped today as far as I have noticed.. Last month I felt them around the same time, and noticed EWCM on cycle day 12... but I havent been checking my cervix this month because of the softcups...
Well I am worried that we didnt BD enough this fertile period, and I am also worried about the masturbation... I found one thing online that said it was OK from the mayo clinic.. Here is what it says
~ Frequent male masturbation doesn't reduce sperm count. Male masturbation also doesn't affect your ability to achieve an erection. Actually, not having an orgasm (ejaculating) for several days or more may lower your fertility. This is because it may lower the number of sperm with normal shape (morphology) and ability to move (motility). Both normal morphology and motility affect your sperm's ability to get to and fertilize your partner's egg. Having sexual intercourse with ejaculation several times a week will maximize your chances of getting your partner pregnant, whether you masturbate or not~
But everything else says differently.. that it significantly lowers your sperm count.. especially when TTC its not good.. I really cant know or trust that he hasnt been masturbating..
Does anyone know a lot about this? Like if he masturbates daily and has been for years, would that mean that he is shooting out immature sperm that cant swim well and is not ready to go after an egg? Im so worried about this...
Also do you think we BD'd enough? And what about the softcups issues we had LOL (having sex a little with one in, then taking one out, having sex, and putting the cup back in)... Do you think this will affect our chances?
Also, I was gonna try the egg whites thing today.. but since I felt the O pains Wednesday- Saturday, do you think I really already did O, and its too late? That I should really not even bother BD'ing anymore? I mean we will probably have sex anyways because we just do.. but I mean baby making sex? Is our window pretty much over?
How long does the egg actually live? I have heard different things... Its absurd that we can never get definite answers from doctors or anyone when it comes to these things!
Sorry for all the questions. Thanks for reading!
So... this is our second cycle of TTC.. last cycle, I discorvered that my OH was having baby making sex with me AND masturbating at least 2 times a day.... I was like "What?! That lowers your sperm count you know"... and kinda made a big deal about it. So this cycle of trying, he told me it was going to be hard to stop masturbating daily because he has been doing it for years, but he will stop so we can make our baby..
So we talk about this all the time because I ask him every day whether he masturbated or not. He says he thinks its not true that it lowers his sperm count significantly because he got his ex girlfriend pregnant before, and he was still masturbating daily, once or twice, at that time and she still got pregnant.. I said, "You cant say for sure that you were or were not at that time as it was like 2 years ago... you said she was living with you, so..." really who knows..
But as we are actually trying and we both really want babies with each other, I want to do everything we can to increase our chances...
We have had sex every other day starting Tuesday... I usually go right from AF into my fertile period because my cycles are 27 days... So on Tuesday the 4th we BD in the morning (its always the morning..), which was cycle day 9... . I wore a softcup with a little bit of preseed in it after that.. then we had sex again on the 6th in the morning, cycle day 11... Well this time we had sex, then I put the cup in, then we started having sex with the cup in like 3 hours later.. Dont ask.. LOL... So I kinda think we ruined it a bit because we may have caused some leakage..
Then Saturday the 7th, we had sex again in the morning, I put a soft cup in, he left for 3-4 hours, we took the soft cup out, had sex again and he ejaculated in me again, then I put another cup in.
I had ovulation pains starting from Wednesday night until Yesterday.. they have stopped today as far as I have noticed.. Last month I felt them around the same time, and noticed EWCM on cycle day 12... but I havent been checking my cervix this month because of the softcups...
Well I am worried that we didnt BD enough this fertile period, and I am also worried about the masturbation... I found one thing online that said it was OK from the mayo clinic.. Here is what it says
~ Frequent male masturbation doesn't reduce sperm count. Male masturbation also doesn't affect your ability to achieve an erection. Actually, not having an orgasm (ejaculating) for several days or more may lower your fertility. This is because it may lower the number of sperm with normal shape (morphology) and ability to move (motility). Both normal morphology and motility affect your sperm's ability to get to and fertilize your partner's egg. Having sexual intercourse with ejaculation several times a week will maximize your chances of getting your partner pregnant, whether you masturbate or not~
But everything else says differently.. that it significantly lowers your sperm count.. especially when TTC its not good.. I really cant know or trust that he hasnt been masturbating..
Does anyone know a lot about this? Like if he masturbates daily and has been for years, would that mean that he is shooting out immature sperm that cant swim well and is not ready to go after an egg? Im so worried about this...
Also do you think we BD'd enough? And what about the softcups issues we had LOL (having sex a little with one in, then taking one out, having sex, and putting the cup back in)... Do you think this will affect our chances?
Also, I was gonna try the egg whites thing today.. but since I felt the O pains Wednesday- Saturday, do you think I really already did O, and its too late? That I should really not even bother BD'ing anymore? I mean we will probably have sex anyways because we just do.. but I mean baby making sex? Is our window pretty much over?
How long does the egg actually live? I have heard different things... Its absurd that we can never get definite answers from doctors or anyone when it comes to these things!
Sorry for all the questions. Thanks for reading!