How much time is your OH taking off work to be home?

[Sherileigh]

I guess my hubby's 2 weeks seems pretty standard then (for the US). It still sucks though!!

I also don't like that he's having to use his vacation days. We haven't had any proper time off all year.

35 weeks?! Let's all move to Alberta!!

Lol, I'm pretty sure that's instead of her taking it? Although the top up for that long is sweet!!
We get 17 weeks maternity leave and 35 weeks parental in canada. It's just usually the moms take it.

 

[aley28]

I don't think my husband gets paternity leave either, but he's taken from December 6-December 30 off. That uses up the rest of his vacation time and all of his personal business time from his job.

And I'm still hoping I go middle of November, even if that'll leave me with a toddler and a newborn for three weeks. He can adjust his days off a little bit, but its important to him that he has Christmas off this year.

He took 3 weeks off when I had DS, and honestly, by the time he went back to work I was tired of being around him all the time. I'm hoping this time is better with Christmas as a distraction and a 2.5 year old for him to entertain, but we'll just have to see. I'll have to be sure there is enough going on to keep him busy, since 3 weeks of him sitting on his butt in front of the TV is not going to be helpful for anybody!

 

[yourstruly10]

I guess my hubby's 2 weeks seems pretty standard then (for the US). It still sucks though!!

I also don't like that he's having to use his vacation days. We haven't had any proper time off all year.

35 weeks?! Let's all move to Alberta!!

Lol, I'm pretty sure that's instead of her taking it? Although the top up for that long is sweet!!
We get 17 weeks maternity leave and 35 weeks parental in canada. It's just usually the moms take it.

Im not entitled to maternity leave as I just got off it with our first in july. So he may as well take it lol. But yes it is only because im not taking it. If I were entitled to my whole 52 weeks he would only get 3 weeks vacation days off.

 

[seoj]

My hubby actually has better paternity leave than I have maternity leave... as I've only been at my job 1 1/2yrs and he's been working for his company for 15yrs... and they accrue sick time (which I do not)-- so he is actually taking 8wks off full pay!!! He could even take 12wks total- but doesn't want to use up too much of his sick time or FMLA. I only get 80% pay the first 10wks... then the rest of my leave is unpaid (except the 5 vacation days I have left to take). Which is why I'm only taking 14wks off total... but I guess I should appreciate getting paid for any of it as some do not. So sad that we don't have better paying benefits for staying home with a new baby though...

 

[IHrtSteve]

A week, same as first time. It is his regular vacation time. No such thing at paternity leave in NJ. So unfair. More nervous this time because I will have a toddler and a newborn. Oh well!

 

[lisanicole]

I am hoping my husband takes at least 3 days off to be with the baby and I. We do not get any paid maternity/paternity time off. I have been with my job for 10 years and I can take up to 12 weeks unpaid off. I am going to get short term disability from the State of New York for 6 weeks. It does not equal even 1/4 of my usual pay though.

 

[Jellyx]

My hub is using his vacation time, since he doesn't get paternity leave..
He will be with me only like 4 days or so..

 

[penniepie]

MY husband is taking one week paid....his vacation time - but he is very lucky to have a flexible boss and company where he can work from home at times if i need him
Together collectively we can share one year in total paid - but i will be taking the whole year as he is the higher paid one and the maternity benefits for the year are not as much as my income so its best the breadwinner bring in the money!

 

[kerry0509]

With my first, my OH took a week off starting from my due date, (he wasn't allowed paternity) LO was born on his last day and went back to work the next day, so i was all alone from day 2 really.

 

[ttcnewbie123]

Hubby will be taking 2 wks paternity leave, its only 120 odd pound a week but we've got savings so it'll be fine x

 

[mummylove]

My OH will av 2 days off hopefully his a taxi driver so if he dont work we av no money nothing we can do

 

[Blah11]

2 weeks prob. He took 2 off last time and didn't really do that much to help anyway. I BFed so he couldnt help me feed or anything He ended up just getting on my nerves and i was glad when he went back He had been off for 4 weeks though cos she was born on the sunday and he was due to go back to work on the monday after the christmas break

 

[Kmx]

My OH is getting a week off which is used from his holidays as he only started with the firm in June. Im not really complaining im just so glad he has a job as he really struggled to get any so we are gonna make the most of it and look on the bright side that it will be xmas after a few weeks after baby is here so he will be around then i cant wait!!

 

[EstelSeren]

My husband's taking 2 weeks paternity, 1 at full pay and 1 at statutory paternity pay (£128 a week). He also gets a week between Christmas and New Year's and the substitute bank holiday day (January 2nd 2012)! So if she comes roughly on her due date he'll get 3 consecutive weeks! He only works until 2pm anyway though and that's just Monday-Friday so we get all afternoons and evenings and weekends together anyway, which is great!

Beca :wave:

 

[Haack]

My husband is completely out of vacation days for the year. He will have to take FMLA. However, since it is unpaid... and we will still need money to pay bills, medical insurance, 401K (med ins & 401k comes out of his check every week).... We need to come up with $400 in advance for every week he wants to take off. We have 2 weeks worth saved up so far. That will probably be all that we try to get.

Unfortunately, he will only be taking 1-2 days right when LO is born. Then he will wait a few weeks before taking off his 2 weeks. We are trying to take advantage of his time off to go visit his family which live 450 miles away. So that means... after only 1 month of having the baby we will be driving 450 miles to stay a week with my In-Laws!!! :-/

I love my in-laws... just nervous about not having my routine down to begin with and then it getting all messed up with traveling.

 

[AnonymousMoi]

US citizen here too. I totally agree that we have a really crappy maternity/paternity leave set-up. My husband gets no paid days off - but luckily he makes plenty of money and plans to save up enough to take a few days off (the number depends on if I have a c-section or not) and my mother will be taking off the first week and then 2 more weeks after that of working half days (so she can come in the afternoon and help with cleaning and cooking.) Hubby would like to take more time off but because of his job he can't.

 

[LeeLouClare]

my fella has to use his holiday allowance, he gets 10 days ......

 

[robinator]

one week, plus he gets the week from christmas to new year's off. Since our edd is 12/18, that will (hopefully) work out to two weeks in a row! Otherwise, he's got up to 5 weeks vacation accumulated, so we'll see how much I need him home...

 

[FeistyMom]

With my first, my husband was literally JUST starting his job and could take no time off. Luckily LO was born on her due date, which was his last day at his internship job, and he wasn't set to start until the following Tuesday so we had ~4 days together. My parents visited me during the day and helped with things like meals and light housework for the first week or so. The company I work for was so small that I did not even qualify for FMLA - but luckily I was able to negotiate a decent leave plan for myself (6 weeks paid, 12 more weeks parttime paid hourly, maintaining full benefits).

With #2, hubby had no paternity leave policy, but had worked there long enough to save up sick time/vacation time and took a few days. I think it was actually just 2 days off - we had previously planned on spending most of November with his family, and he needed to save up his time for that trip. I flew 1200 miles with a 2 yr old and a newborn by myself to spend 3 weeks with my in-laws (I love them to death and am very close), because he could only spend 9 days! It worked out ok. By that time, my company actually had a maternity leave policy - that of course was not as great as the one I had negotiated for myself But I did get short-term disability, which capped at $500/week before taxes were taken out, for 5 weeks. Yay. I managed to take just about 12 weeks off, mainly paid.

This time around, hubby works for a different company and gets 2 weeks paid paternity leave! We are so excited! Especially since we have the two girls now, and the 4 yr old needs to go to school, AND because the rest of my family is no longer a reliable support system. We really can't count on any outside help at all. I plan on being off work until December, and then working 2 weeks parttime before taking the rest of my vacation time over the holidays, for a total of about 12 weeks.

 

[waiting4allie]

Mine is only taking off the day Im at the hospital, and the day we come home from the hospital. He doesnt get any paid time off since he has not been with the company long enough. He currently works nights and will be doing do when Allie arrives, but he talked to his bosses today and will be working during the day once Allie gets here. This works better because if he were working nights, he would hardly be at the hospital because I would not expect him to try to sleep at the hospital with all the company we will be getting during the day.
With him working days, he can sleep there with me and baby and then go to work and come to us when he gets off. I really wish we could afford for him to take off but we cant since I was in between jobs when I found out i was pregnant. But Im glad he can work days!