I am being horrible

[jo14]

Im just having a moan here ladies hope you don't mind, I am being really horrible to my OH I have hardly spoke to him for two days and its all coz he said he would like some time to himself on his day off as I have been off work on summer holidays for several weeks (only went back this week) and i get one early finish, his day off was today and he did not say it but i knew he ment don't take my early finish today let him have the day to himself, to do his own things, ie not much and prob watch innaproprite internet LOL LOL usually i would not mind but I have been so p**ssed off with it, he also said the other day could I talk about anything else other than the baby as it was "GRATING" so i have not mentioned the pregnancy now for 3 days and when he does I change the subject, and today i have not spoken to him at all, i just keep geting upset its so so unlike me

thanks for listening RANT OVER i shall take my early finish tommorrow and spend some time by myself

 

[DeeM73]

Hope you're ok.I guess we all have days like that and just want time to be on our own,I'm sure he will feel better for it and you too try and enjoy your time off tomorrow I think all couples need their own space from time to time,I know I do!ha ha remember your hormones are all over the place.Anyway you enjoy your time tomorrow having probes with f/b tonight will try again!xx

 

[jo14]

thanks i know i am being unreasonable really. But i am also stubborn and i just cant quit sulking lol. Hopefully tommoz will be better. And if you dont find me on fb i will give you my email when i am on laptop.

 

[DeeM73]

Here anytime for a chat oh I'm stubborn too!!ha ha Just try and relax although I know that's easier said than done.Away to bed will try it again tomorrow,take care,night xx

 

[BeachComber]

Sending you some , I have horrible days where I am so crabby and unreasonable. I think we all do from time to time hon.

 

[suzimc]

There's nothing worse than when they can't understand why we can only think about the baby is there?! My husband is fed up with me being at home, he's used to having the house to himself while I work shifts sometimes I just have to leave him to have a football and internet fix or he's a grumpy old man, thought i'd better modify what i was about to say there! xx

 

[jo14]

i know i have hardly slept a wink. And i feel so rough now. I shall try to be more pleasant today but not feeling it lol. I was gonna do all my housework this afternoon. But maybe a nap may be more in order. And he is still selfish even though i was out of order as well lol lol

 

[DeeM73]

Nevermind the housework just rest I haven't been sleeping that great since I found out I was pregnant,worrying what my husband's family will say! I know I shouldn't worry but can't help it,should be a happy time instead of all this.I'm sure you 2 having a break will help,it is a big life changing experience as we both know!!!Have a great day xx

 

[jo14]

and its his first so a big change for him. I am also worried about telling my mum and my daughter who is refusing to speak to me. I thought it would be a super happy time. But its tough going at the moment lol

 

[keepontrying]

It could be that he is feeling overwhelmed by the whole pregnancy thing. I think it is so difficult for a lot of men, they do not feel anything in terms of physical symptoms so have trouble understanding them, emotionally they are not as connected as the mummys.

Maybe he is stressed and scared of the prospect of fatherhood, maybe he feel all of sudden the pregnancy has taken over and he feels suffocated and that he has lost his identity etc?

Try speaking to him about it all rather than copping the needle because ultimately if he is feeling like this it will amplify those emotions for him. He needs to know that he can discuss his fears and concerns just as you would expect to - it is completely natural after all.
A lot of guys do not feel its real till they see it on a scan.

xxxx

 

[suzimc]

keep going girls when it comes down to it anyone who isn't happy for the two of you is being selfish. However I too am an evil stepmother and know what selfish is...and I also have an evil pre-teen jo and that is bloody hard going at times! x

 

[DeeM73]

I thought it would be a happy time too but I just don't feel it right now which is really sad,I guess when I tell our 2 kids I will feel a lot better cos I know they will be so happy and I think when I look at it that's all that matters.I have been so good to my husbands kids over the years and treated them as though they were my own and they have been so good to me too,I haven't had any problems with them at all.Although they have always lived with their mum they have always been made welcome here and also had a family holiday every year.They're grown up now and have their own houses etc but I know this will cos a spanner in the works!Suzi you are so right if they can't be happy they are being selfish thinking what the effects it will have on them.Jo think you should sit down and have a wee chat and let him know how you feel and ask how he feels.Us girls have got to enjoy these pregnancies!!!!It could be our last!! So glad I found this forum,it's great to chat xx

 

[jo14]

yeah he prob is a bit worried. But there is no way he would talk about it. Hes not that sort. I will just chill out later and try to forget it.

 

[keepontrying]

Personally i would say to him that you understand that he may have mixed feelings right now and he finds it hard to talk sometimes but that when ever he wants to you are there and will listen - i would then apologise for how i reacted and say that its because i was going going by my own emotions and not really thinking from his prospective.
The only reason i say this is because i think all relationships need good communication or they breakdown.
When you show you can consider and understand his - he is more likely to accept them and also try and understand yours x

 

[jo14]

thanks ladies its good to moan and listen to other peoples perspectives. Will go home relax and apologise when he gets in and hope for a better evening

 

[DeeM73]

Good luck let us know how you get on xx

 

[jo14]

Will do, I have also tried to be nice via text already and told him I bought his lunch for tommorrow and that we should have a nice early night tonight lets hope that makes us both in a better mood LOL

 

[DeeM73]

Hope all is going well xx

 

[jo14]

will update later but things are better today

 

[DeeM73]

Glad to hear that Jo xx