Natnee
Mummy to Belle
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I don't really feel like I really fit into any of the sections on this forum at the moment. I have a 4 year old but a lot of the things in the toddler section are about younger babies/children. I suppose I really fit into the losses section as I lost my baby a month ago, but there's not really a lot of activity in there, which is good I guess. But I don't want to stay in there.
I suppose I am wtt, but still awaiting details of the post mortem on Poppy and tests that were carried out on me to find out, if anything, what went wrong. Early details say there was nothing wrong with my baby. I will be needing to know if there was anything else wrong (with me) that caused her to die.
Otherwise I will possibly ttc again in a few months maybe.
I've read a few posts where people are asking how long to wait. Some people are wanting to try for another baby 6 months after having a baby but HAVE another baby to look after, so maybe thats too soon for them. But I have no baby to look after now so I guess I can try in a few months. But when are our bodies truly ready to go through a pregnancy again? I don't have age on my side, i'm 38, and just don't want to be into my 40's having babies. With both Belle and Poppy I fell pregnant straight away, I mean we only dtd once that month when I conceived Poppy, but what if it doesn't happen that quickly next time. I can't afford to be waiting months to try again, if it doesn't happen quickly again, as I said my age plays on my mind. I guess there's the psychological aspect of being worried x1000 more than usual during another pregnancy. How will I cope for 9 months worrying about things. Afterall, I sailed through my last pregnancy really well, all scans etc were fine. It just went horribly wrong at the last possible moment, for reasons we might never know. I just so badly want another baby it hurts so much.
I suppose I am wtt, but still awaiting details of the post mortem on Poppy and tests that were carried out on me to find out, if anything, what went wrong. Early details say there was nothing wrong with my baby. I will be needing to know if there was anything else wrong (with me) that caused her to die.
Otherwise I will possibly ttc again in a few months maybe.
I've read a few posts where people are asking how long to wait. Some people are wanting to try for another baby 6 months after having a baby but HAVE another baby to look after, so maybe thats too soon for them. But I have no baby to look after now so I guess I can try in a few months. But when are our bodies truly ready to go through a pregnancy again? I don't have age on my side, i'm 38, and just don't want to be into my 40's having babies. With both Belle and Poppy I fell pregnant straight away, I mean we only dtd once that month when I conceived Poppy, but what if it doesn't happen that quickly next time. I can't afford to be waiting months to try again, if it doesn't happen quickly again, as I said my age plays on my mind. I guess there's the psychological aspect of being worried x1000 more than usual during another pregnancy. How will I cope for 9 months worrying about things. Afterall, I sailed through my last pregnancy really well, all scans etc were fine. It just went horribly wrong at the last possible moment, for reasons we might never know. I just so badly want another baby it hurts so much.