victoria1987
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I sympathise with you but also with your SD. As a bit of background when I was 14 my mum fell pregnant with my half sister, so it was in a very similar situation as your SD. I have to tell you, it was bloody hard. Being a teen is hard enough with all the hormones and change, but to also come from a broken home with a step-parent
makes it much worse.
When mum announced that she was pregnant with her live in BF I experienced so many emotions that I did not have the emotional maturity to cope with or express and I am sure that the result was me acting like a petulant child or probably at times a full out b****!
She may feel that she is going to be replaced, not be able to predict what changes she will experience in her day to day life. I am sure that she is jealous, confused, hurt and anxious as to what her life will be like when the new LO comes. I know that these are all the feelings that I had when my mum was expecting. I felt that I was going to be pushed aside for the cute new little baby. That my family wans't mine anymore.
I am not saying that you don't have the right to be angry, I suppose that I am biased as I was the teenage SD and i'm sure I acted out in much the same way. I suggest that you and your partner have a proper talk with her. A bit of counselling may do her good too (I know it would have been helpful for me at that time). The crux of this rambling (and possibly inappropriate post) is that she is still a child, and a hormonal teen at that, this is scary for her and she is uncertain about her future and her new place in the family. Cut her some slack and let her sort her head out, she will come around... I know that by the time my sister was born I loved her to bits!!
Sorry if I come off as harsh, it's just that I've been on the other side of this and it can be very painful.
makes it much worse.
When mum announced that she was pregnant with her live in BF I experienced so many emotions that I did not have the emotional maturity to cope with or express and I am sure that the result was me acting like a petulant child or probably at times a full out b****!
She may feel that she is going to be replaced, not be able to predict what changes she will experience in her day to day life. I am sure that she is jealous, confused, hurt and anxious as to what her life will be like when the new LO comes. I know that these are all the feelings that I had when my mum was expecting. I felt that I was going to be pushed aside for the cute new little baby. That my family wans't mine anymore.
I am not saying that you don't have the right to be angry, I suppose that I am biased as I was the teenage SD and i'm sure I acted out in much the same way. I suggest that you and your partner have a proper talk with her. A bit of counselling may do her good too (I know it would have been helpful for me at that time). The crux of this rambling (and possibly inappropriate post) is that she is still a child, and a hormonal teen at that, this is scary for her and she is uncertain about her future and her new place in the family. Cut her some slack and let her sort her head out, she will come around... I know that by the time my sister was born I loved her to bits!!
Sorry if I come off as harsh, it's just that I've been on the other side of this and it can be very painful.