Mama4
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DH and I have had this exact thing happen, or similar things, SEVERAL times. Let me just say, I'm sorry you had to feel what that feels like. In our situation, it was a lot to do with communication. We are both extremely "closed" people, and it makes for a big blow up every now and again. After nearly three years of this and wanting to try for another baby, we decided in April to begin seeing a marriage counselor. It was something that we were both very skeptical of, but at least on my end, it was the last straw - that, or we were over, period. When DH found out how serious I was and how much those huge blow ups were really bringing me down beyond repair, he agreed to go with me. I thought he would sit there like a rock and not speak, but it has turned out to be the VERY best thing we could have EVER EVER EVER done. I never thought I would be such an advocate for something like that, but really, I say give it a shot. We are a zillion times stronger because of it. Again, I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. If there's anything you would like to chat about, please feel free to PM me!
Thanks so very much for sharing your experience with me! I would be willing to try anything to get him to just talk to me for the love of Pete! He and I are opposites in that I talk my bloomin head off and he barely ever grunts in response. Boy that gets exhausting - I try so hard to communicate with him honestly and calmly but I'd have a better go of it if I just talked to my wallpaper! Seriously. I suppose thats another thing that causes me to rip him a new one often enough that he's feeling fed up too. I just refuse to believe that he would really leave now...I am hoping he will spend some quality time with me this evening and at least offer me a bit of comfort for the hurt he caused that is still just pumping away in me. I really appreciate everyone on BNB taking a minute to offer a few words. Isnt it nutty how you and I have never even met and yet you've just offered me more intelligent conversation than my own DH is willing to give? Nuts! I will never understand men...THanks again for your reply...