tinkerbelle93
2 little boys :)
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To clarify, I have a little boy. Since it was my first pregnancy neither me and my OH were particularly bothered about the gender, I can honestly say I had no preference with him at all.. but we're thinking of TTC soon and I really do think I would like a girl next time, and I'm worried about feeling dissapointed if it is another little boy.
Anyway I just wondered whether anyone else's gender dissapointment/desire is worsened by what other people say/want. Since I had my little man, 4 girls I am close to have been pregnant- 2 of my SIL's, one of my friends and my best friend. ALL of them openly expressed a strong preference to have a girl.
My SIL already has 1 child, a girl, but made it clear she was desperate for another one and was extremely happy to find out she is. She sometimes makes comments like 'Oh I know loads of people who have boys I'm lucky to have met your brother and gotten 2 girls from him' and when I was talking about future children she said; Don't worry, I'm sure you'll get your girl if you have another one or two'- even though I have not ever openly expressed any desire for a daughter!
My other SIL was pregnant with baby number 5 and, despite having 2 of each already, was very keen for another girl. She only had a girls name picked and was going on about all the cute dresses she'd seen and how she did hope a little bit that it was going to another girl. It did turn out it was boy but still. My friend was pregnant with her first baby (team yellow) and was open about wanting a girl, whenever we went round Mothercare to look at things she wouldn't even glance at the boys section, just pick up anything pink and coo over the little dresses and tights. She had her baby the other week and did indeed get her girl. Now, my best, closest friend is 16 wks pregnant and, although she insisted at the start that she wasn't bothered about the gender it seems to be the same- only has a girls name picked out, only looks at the dresses and girls things when we're out shopping etc.
Anyway, I swear that all that just makes everything worse- since everyone seems desperate for girls it feels as though everyone looking at me thinking I got second-best, and that if I do have another little boy everyone else is just going to be dissapointed on my behalf.. it just feels like an awful lot of pressure! So many people say to me 'Ooh I bet you want a girl next' and 'don't you think a little girl would be lovely?' and I just think I'm going to feel way more anxious next pregnancy then I would have been.. it just makes a small preference into a bigger issue. Anyone else feel this way? x