im not coping :'(

[Mummy2Asher]

im 18 weeks this week but im not coping at all.
ive been getting movements since 14 weeks, at 16 weeks he was moving non stop and then all of a sudden nothing, and i will get a day with lots of kicks and then a day with nothing and it scares me so much.
im having nightmares about the baby, i cant go into detail becuase its too upsetting but im waking up crying and hysterical.
im getting pains too and no doctor or midwife will reasure me, i just get fobbed off and answer machines.

i just cant cope, i want this baby sooo much, im so scared of loosing him.
is this normal or am i totally insane??!!

 

[millwallrose4]

It's normal to be really worried, but it does sound like you are really quite stressed. I'm sorry to hear no-one is helping to reassure you at this worrying time. Would it be worth buying a doppler so you could listen to your baby whenever you want? I hope this eases for you soon.

 

[Iris]

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[Drazic<3]

Hey girls,

Right, you are going to get queen of the crazies telling you things I KNOW but still find it terribly hard to believe. I know it isn't easy to digest but please try.

Pains at our stage are TOTALLY normal, our organs are being pushed up, our uterus's are being pushed into shapes they have never imagined and the ligaments are being forced into new shapes. This causes round ligament pains which are horrible, but so normal them. Please google them so you see what I mean.

As for movements, the midwifes say they don't approach anything like normal and regular until after 24 weeks. We are lucky to be feeling babes so early, so as scary as it is (trust me, I have cried about this too) it is spot on normal for where we are. It's so hard, I really do know. Sending love to you both

 

[NeyNey]

Honey as bub grows there is less and less space in there for him to move around. Often the movement will come in spats...Don't stress too much, Remember a calm attitude will help bub Also they are going through a HUGE growth spurt right now at this stage, so he is conserving a lot of energy for growing big and strong

 

[Mummy2Asher]

You know what hun I was about to post the same message.

In that I felt baby move at the weekend - all weekend - and nothing since Sunday night. I'm having pains in my tummy instead and noone seems interested because I'm 'past the danger' zone and EPU stops seeing women here at 16 weeks but I'm terrified. I keep thinking and it's awful but - what if somethings happened and I don't know?? I know my MMC last year was at 10 weeks and I'm way past that but still so scared.

Have you got a doppler for some reassurance? xxx

P.S Sorry didn't read post above and you was asked the same thing x

thats exactly how i feel, epu wont see me, and labour ward wont see me until i get to 24 weeks. i have a doppler and use it everyday, he has a strong hb of 150-160bpm but i just dont understand why hes not moving! and i feel the same, i read the thread of reduced fetal movements of women hearing the heartbeat but the baby being ill inside and it upset me so much. i wish someone could promise and guarantee that this baby will come out kicking and screaming but noone can. ive made an appointment with the gp today so hopefully ill get some reasurance. xx

 

[Mummy2Asher]

Hey girls,

Right, you are going to get queen of the crazies telling you things I KNOW but still find it terribly hard to believe. I know it isn't easy to digest but please try.

Pains at our stage are TOTALLY normal, our organs are being pushed up, our uterus's are being pushed into shapes they have never imagined and the ligaments are being forced into new shapes. This causes round ligament pains which are horrible, but so normal them. Please google them so you see what I mean.

As for movements, the midwifes say they don't approach anything like normal and regular until after 24 weeks. We are lucky to be feeling babes so early, so as scary as it is (trust me, I have cried about this too) it is spot on normal for where we are. It's so hard, I really do know. Sending love to you both

thanks for this, it was really helpful and reasuring. i need to find a way to believe that this baby will be okay and coming out healthy. all my scans have been great so techincally i have no reason to worry about him! xxx

 

[Drazic<3]

I know babes, but all the technicals don't help! I saw bubs on Sunday and I am already terrified again! She hasn't been moving so much and even listening to the heartbeat doesn't calm me. I laid on the floor and cried for like an hour today just because I am exhausted of being scared, of crying, of hurting. I want her to be okay so much it physically hurts, and I feel like I am going mad!

We KNOW movements shouldn't be regular until 24+ weeks, we know babes has loads of room, we know babes are quieter when they are growing - but the fear, it just eats you up. Sending huge - I'm with you darl -x-

 

[JASMAK]

I am the same. If I don't feel him, I stress. If I feel a pain, I am scared. I have had many bad dreams...so vivid too. Some of them are in such horrid detail, I don't even want to share them. I can't understand why my mind thinks up such horridness.

 

[Las78]

Hun, it's totally normal how you're feeling and understandable.

I have days where bubs kicks loads and other days where there is just no movement, it is scary I know but I think perhaps some days they just wear themselves out for kicking so hard plus the more they grow the less space they have.

The dreams hun are probably your subconcious, all those worries you have are coming out in your dreams. Just try and remember it is just that, a dream. I know how horrible they are hun and I feel for you. It would be easy to say try not to worry but I know that is near on impossible.

I also have very radom pains that startle me sometimes, just think how much your body is changing and stretching, bubs could be laying funny or on a nerve. Be aware of them but try not to worry too much. So long as your are not in agony I would say it's all ok. When I lost at 17w I had at least 3 days of contractions first and I was curled up in a ball for the pain.

Just try and hang in there hun, I hope the time goes quick for you. It is so emotioally draining, I went for a 32.5w scan yesterday, they showed me bubs face and I was in tears, just sobbed and sobbed, I think it was the pure relief at having got this far and such a release of pent up emotion.

It won't be easy hun, until you have bubs safely in your arms it will be a worry, just try and go easy on yourself, perhaps speak to your mw if it is getting too much, maybe some counselling will ease the load a little.

Take care and if you ever need someone to talk to or just listen even, please pm me xx