"impatiently waiting and complaining" IVF November/December/end of the year bumps

[michelle01]

loch - Yep, that would be me, I am POAS addict If you had a 3 day transfer on Saturday, today would be 3dp3dt, so yes you are 3 days past your transfer My transfer was on Nov. 27 and it was a 5 day transfer, so today I am 7dp5dt and my ER was on thanksgiving, so you that would make me 12DPO. When is your beta?

 

[Afamilygal]

hiya friends! lots of posts!
firstly, I would like to say to KChope how sad I am to hear your news... I know what it is like to go through the is it isn't it pregnancy betas (did it for 2 weeks with the ectopic) and it is just so hard. I really feel for you and hope you are being extra good to yourself. *hugs*

loch- as for the NHS not freezing the eggs, that is criminal!!! I lived in the UK for a while (I'm half english) and the NHS is great for a lot of stuff but that is clearly not one of them! booo.... its good that you feel more relaxed this time around, maybe cause you know what to expect? I would have thought it was harder so that is interesting to hear.

as per your question, I haven't done almost any moving around. I mean I cooked last night but that's about it. I took time off work and told DH that since this may be my one and only shot I need to be able to say that I did everything I could if it fails. I know my tendency to blame myself so I felt this was in my best interest. I haven't left the house since the transfer last Wednesday. I suffer from horrible environmental allergies so leaving the house while not taking any antihistamine would not be a good thing anyways but now I'm feeling stir crazy.

I am still gassy and also nauseated quite a bit. not sure if its the estrogen and progesterone combo I'm on but ugh.. I feel really gross a lot of the time. since I also have allergies, the yucky stuff drips into my stomach and makes me feel sick so It is likely to be that too. allergies are the worst.

Michelle- hiya! doing fine, thanks. Im avoiding the HPTs altogether this time. I'm so much happier in my ignorance. obviously I want to know but I want to know that what Im reading is 100% accurate. I don't think I could take the POAS rollercoaster this time around. Beta is next Sunday.

Sandy- will you have to do the injections for the whole 3-4 weeks?? or just til AF?

Anx- 7 grade 3 sounds great! isn't grade 3 still really good embryos? and I'm sure in 7 of them you will get at least one gorgeous baby!

snow- GL with your biopsy today! let us know how it goes!!

L4- I've got a lot of hope for you girl! This time will hopefully be different and a bunch will fertilize!

Kirs- YAY!!!! congratulations!!!! so so exciting!!!

sept- sorry for my comment, I don't know how it feels to go through this and it not work and to do it again... I can only imagine and it makes me what to cry my eyes out. you are right, whatever you can do to feel safe is the right move.

 

[michelle01]

Afam - That is great you are taking it easy And it is better to not poas; I am already going bonkers! My beta is next Monday; they don't do them on Sunday...UGH! Sunday would have been my beta day, but I have to wait one extra day. At least I know my testing will tell me whether it worked or not, I hate surprises. Keep resting and we have less then a week now

 

[septbride]

Afam, no need to apologize, honey girl! I wish I was more positive, but I'm a negative little pissant right now. Btw, I THOUGHT you might be English -- me too, a transplant to the U.S.!

 

[septbride]

Michelle, I would definitely be POAS too...you're almost there, girl!

I'm counting down the minutes to 12/12/12 and hoping that might be a lucky testing date.

 

[michelle01]

Sept - What a great day to get a beta They were saying to make a wish on 12/12/12 at 12:22:22 Since this is the last year we will see anything like this again! Are you planning to test early?

 

[septbride]

I'm really going to try to hold out, but we'll see how that goes!

 

[L4hope]

Holy posts ladies!! Is anybody getting any work done?!

Anx you got the WTF right...what the blank!!

Afam that's so funny, I too thought maybe you were English. However Sept I did not pick up on it with you. My hubby has family in England and we've talked about going to visit. Of course now with all of this ttc crap we aren't going anywhere. Boo hiss! Afam you are doing an excellent job staying positive!
What about you Sept...you holding out till beta?

Michelle I completely understand the urge to poas as I did it last time. It's very hard not knowing and seeing so many who get a positive days before their beta. But Im thinking this time I'm going to try and wait till day before or day of beta. I almost feel like it drug out my disappointment. Cuz you know you always have hope that the hpt could be wrong and beta will come back positive. But we all figure out how we can get through this process in what works best for us. Be that to POAS or not to POAS, think positive thoughts or tell yourself it didn't work to hopefully be pleasantly surprised. It's all such a head game!!
Snow hope things went well today!

Afm, just waiting till tomorrow! Thanks for all the good vibes of a successful ER and fertilization. This part of the process always has me feeling excited for the possibilities!

I just have to say I love getting on this thread every day! You all are so wonderful and provide so much love and encouragement!! Great group of gals if I do say so!

 

[michelle01]

L4 - Nope not getting any work done today And I am so busy too, but my mouse just keeps making its way back to bnb! And yes, this is such a head game with this process. I guess if I didn't have the booster I may not test, but if I don't test out this booster and wait to the day before my beta, I could get a false positive and nothing worse then getting your hopes up and then find out it didn't work!

 

[lochbride]

Thanks Michelle - my Beta date is the 13th of Dec - 10 days and counting!
Good luck with the continued POAS - one of these days it's just going to work I swear if I get a positive blood test I am going right out and buying a test from the high street - just so I have the pleasure of getting the thing saying PREGNANT!!

AFG - allergies do suck - poor thing. Sounds like you're doing the best thing for you though Stay indoors and incubate those little embies. Yep the NHS system is pretty rubbish in some ways but amazing that we've had two shots at ICSI for free - they only freeze eggs for 20% of couples, and only if the eggs are the highest grade. We had two mature eggs that just stopped growing in the lab on Sunday so not meant to be. If they'd kept going until Monday, they would have frozen for us So, this is our last free shot - and £5,000 to pay privately just isn't that easy to come by

I think I am a lot more chilled out this time because I have done it before, the pain last time was so unbearable and heartbreaking that I can't even entertain the thought this time round. It has to be positive thinking, otherwise, my brain can't cope!!

Sept - that is the coolest test date ever - fixed!!

I'm just sitting on the sofa and had the most sharp pain/ twinges on my left hand side. Really sore, just 3 or 4 over a 5 minute period. Enough to make me say 'ow!' Choosing to believe in implantation rather than progesterone

Positive thoughts to everyone!!

 

[Snowbunny]

Hey everyone - lots going on over the next week or so...ERs, ETs, POAS!!! Love following everyone's progress.

I had my endo biopsy today. It definitely hurt like a !@#@!$!!! That being said, as soon as it was over, the pain was gone. I had very minor cramping afterwards, but seriously nothing to even talk about. If I didn't have some spotting afterwards I wouldn't know anything was done today! I start monitoring on the weekend and can't wait for my transfer. Part of me will worry that it won't happen until it actually does!

 

[Afamilygal]

Michelle- that BLOWS about not being able to do it on Sun. why the heck not? mine is... I would raise hell if I were you. cant you go to another lab and get it drawn? no wonder you are poas... carry on.

Sept- fellow limey! (jk, thats what DH likes to call me.) Im only half english and I sound american but have a lot of english-isms from my mum. Where are you from?
and that IS a cool OTD. WOO!!! love it, LOVE IT!!!

L4- you knew too? clearly I DO have a lot of english-isms. I like 'bloody' too much. good grief that sounded gross. GL tomorrow darling!!!!
I agree with you about all the ladies on here, major loveliness. You are just gorgeous too!!!

Loch- Ive been having some "Ow" pains too. Its bugging me out. make sure you are drinking plenty of water. (advice from my nurse)

Snow- I was under for my biopsy but yes I have hurt it isn't a fun one. glad it stopped quickly though! I have read a LOT of good things about getting that done prior to IVF.. lets hope it works for you too!!!

this progesterone is hurting my ta tas... (yikes, even watching this is making me cringe...) maybe I should put on a bra? (I've been braless in seattle for a week. NICE)

 

[Anxiously]

Hi all, just had the WTF session with RE (now I know what that means!!!). I'm to go for a hysteroscopy after AF arrives to rule out any hostilities in my uterus, before attempting FET. I also asked him if extreme emotional stress could've caused the chem preg. He said that he can't discount the effect of stress on the risk of miscarriage although there isn't sufficient scientific studies to clearly show the link.

About the FET, his recommendation is to still use day 3 embryos. Because there's a high attrition rate of taking my 7 embryos to day 5 - I may end up with just 2 or 3 left for just 1 transfer, with worst case of having none at all. And the embryos could've died because of the artificial environment, not necessarily because they are not good quality. So in his opinion, if an embryo is inherently good, it shouldn't matter if they are day 3 or day 5. Does that make sense?

 

[Sandy83]

Anx - Sounds like you have a plan in place for moving on which is great! I had a 5 day embryo transferred and didn't fall pregnant so doesn't matter what day it is. FX'd 2013 is your year! xx

 

[Afamilygal]

Hi ladies. I had a bit of spotting this am, just a tiny amount but that is how it starts so I'm feeling sad about it. Ive been having AF cramping for days now so its just a matter of time... I would typically get AF before Sunday (if this were a normal cycle) so maybe it is just early... I hate this.

also, I found out that my little embryo that could (the 3rd one who fertilized late) didn't make it. so we also have no frozen embryos.

 

[Afamilygal]

also anx- Im with the Dr- just get those little guys back inside of you where they belong

 

[michelle01]

Anx - Sounds like a great plan and happy you get to move forward!!

Afam - Spotting is normal due to the progestrone. I would fret too much with it, although I know how stressful this whole thing is! I have been cramping a lot the past couple days too, which makes me worried as well. Hang in there, only a few more days till beta And I am so sorry about your embie that couldn't be frozen; hopefully you will not need it!

 

[Sandy83]

Afam - So sorry about the spotting but as Michelle says this is normal! Sorry to hear about your little embie not making it but FX'd you don't need it and this cycle is a Not long now too beta!

 

[septbride]

Afam, I'm sorry about your little third embie. I also found out that our other three didn't make it to freeze. Sigh. And yes, "bloody" is a bloody good word. I've already used it a couple of times in reference to the royal baby. I can't help being green with envy of that Kate. I'm fully English but sound mostly American because I moved here as a teen. We were in the Oxford area, mum is from Durham, dad from Cornwall, and now they spend part of the year near Durham and we visit as much as possible. Where is your mum from?

Loch, those twinges sound nice and promising for implantation! Fingers crossed for you, dear. And you should absolutely buy an HPT to see the positive sign flash up! I plan on doing the same.

Snow, I'm sorry the biopsy hurt so much. Sounds like it was relatively quick, at least. Bring on the monitoring and transfer! It will happen.

L4, how did everything go today? I too agree that this is a thread of loveliness!

Oh and Michelle/Afam, I'm having a tiny bit of spotting too and I'm hoping it's progesterone-related or old clumps of the progesterone gel making its way ot. Sorry, gross. Fingers crossed for all us spotting ladies. It's torture just waiting.

 

[L4hope]

Hey ladies, just a quick note. I'm back home from ER. I'm very crampy and sore this time! They were able to retrieve 13 eggs. So now I wait for fertilization reports.

Afam sorry you're feeling sad and discouraged. Hopefully it's just the progesterone effing with you. Chin up love, you're not out yet!

xxooxx