Intelligender test and gender "disappointment"

[utbabymomma]

So I am 10 weeks along today. I decided to try the intelligender test someone bought for me. It came back saying I am having a boy. I looked up the statistics on the test and they weren't the greatest. However, even knowing it may be wrong (50/50) I was still disappointed.

I know that sounds super awful. In the whole scheme of things I really do just want a happy and healthy baby but I can't help but want a little girl. I have just always imagined decorating a girl's room, buying cute dresses, etc.

I hate that I am disappointed and I am trying to adjust just in case the actual scan comes back as a boy. I don't want to be that mom who is disappointed with something so amazing. Just had to share.

 

[spunky84]

Don't feel bad or guilty for what you're feeling. I think it's more normal than anyone realizes.

I was in the same boat, sort of, with DD. When I first got my positive with her, I had a gut feeling she was a girl, but I thought maybe it was just because I really wanted a girl first (but also happy as long as the baby is healthy regardless of gender).

I eventually ended up convincing myself she was a boy. I actually ended up so used to the idea that I would have avoided gender disappointment had she been a boy. I did inteligender at 16 weeks and got a boy result. While I knew it wasn't accurate, I felt like it confirmed my feelings. I even bought a few boy outfits. I was absolutely shocked when we found out she was a girl.

I know it probably doesn't help, but I think you'll be okay. Just give it time. There's no length of time, but you'll get there in your time.

 

[utbabymomma]

Thank you so much for your thoughtful answer. I am "trying on" the idea of the baby being a boy so that I can get use to it.

 

[BRIT1416]

it's totally normal! I'm kinda in the same boat we have two boys and one girl and would really really love if this baby was another girl but I have a gut feeling this baby is a boy... Like you said we will be over the moon regardless and love this baby no matter what but you can still hope! But I haven't even looked at girl names or anything just in case because I know I will be a little disappointed but will bounce back because Thai baby is a precious gift and will be loved no matter what! Don't beat ur self up to hard