It's been 7 weeks since mc but still not af...when to ring the GP?

[bobster]

Still neg opk today boo Jane any signs of af yet?

 

[GI_Jane]

Still neg opk today boo Jane any signs of af yet?

That's crap bobster. Is it possible you did o but missed the surge? Any Ewcm?

No af here, it's just over 6 weeks (44 days) since my last af.

I'm wondering if i might have to go back on the birth control pill for 3-6 months to help regulate my cycle. I'll see what the outcome of this cycle is and the one after before I talk to the GP about it.

 

[mlm115]

Seems like we're all waiting right now for something... Waiting for a pos opk or af. I'm only cd 4, so not much going on but a whole lot of TTC obsessing!

 

[bobster]

Hmm Jane was thinking the same about waiting until cycles start to regulate before trying again. Maybe our bodies aren't ready yet.. I don't know. My digi opk had broken now so it has a bfn all the time and doesn't reset when u put a new stick in. Maybe this is a sign!

 

[GI_Jane]

I'm not good at this waiting game! Will you SMEP this cycle Mlm...how are your hcg blood levels?

Oh no bobster, does that mean you can't use the ones you have left? At £2 a stick you should def ring clearblue customer service and get a free replacement.

I'm thinking of doing NTNP while my cycles settle down. I've also been given a promotion at work which starts in jan so I could use my focus back.

I've lost 10 lbs recently but have another 15 to go to get into the healthly BMI range. My OH wants us/me to talk to the doctor about TTC and the PCOS but I know they will tell me that losing weight is the best thing. So there is part of me that thinks ntnp while losing these last 15lbs will be the best approach for a few months.

I still want this just as bad but I need to relax.

 

[mlm115]

Congrats on the promotion Jane! That is great. Maybe while you are focusing on that and focusing on getting yourself healthier your bfp will come. I used to think it was a bunch of crap, but maybe it's true that it will happen when you aren't trying so hard.

I think I will do a smep-ish plan this cycle. I kinda want to try to chill out a little too though. I'm going to get blood drawn again tomorrow, so will see what my level is by Friday.

 

[GI_Jane]

A SMEP-ish plan sounds good. I hope your hcg is nearer to Zero. What cd do you estimate you will ovulate?

Amazon hadn't dispatched my order so I actually just cancelled my opk's...I will get them once I think my cycle is getting back to normal. Right now I would need far too many for my length of cycle and I can't afford that. I didn't cancel the pre-seed though- a little extra lube can't hurt

 

[mlm115]

I'm debating whether I should buy opks or not. Maybe I will give them one last try and if it doesn't happen for us this cycle I'll give them a break. If my cycle stays normal, I should ovulate around cd 14-17.

Definitely keep the preseed! We always use it. I kinda have to though, things don't really self lubricate enough in my case.

 

[mackjess]

Jane, I think your plan sounds great. I was trying to lose 20lbs before I got knocked up again because they said my PCOS tests were inconclusive, and I'd probably have it if I allowed myself to gain more weight. In Oct, I did use OPKs, but I was more learning about when I OV, and what my cycles were. I get zero OV symptoms, and I thought I was out because DH was sick and we didn't BD on the right days. I had basically given up on it and Oct and thought of it more as a learning month than anything. So it seems like not being so focused on it was the way to go. I was bummed I'd only lost 12lbs by the time I got my BFP, but hopefully it was enough to make myself healthier for this pregnancy.

 

[mlm115]

Whoa, can't believe you are already 8 week Mack! That's awesome. Getting another scan any time soon?

 

[GI_Jane]

8 weeks is awesome as is 12lbs weight loss. I think any weight loss if your overweight like me has got to help TTC. And so does less thinking about/relaxation too I think. When do women start showing? Are your boobs noticeably bigger?

At my work they have someone in to do reflexology every other week so thought I might give that a go to help regulate things- its expensive though!

So amazon emailed, was too late to cancel the opk's and they and the pre-seed have just been dispatched! I could refuse the parcel but I want the pre-seed so I might as well just get the opk's and see what the expiry date is on them. Maybe it's a sign to tell me just to use them already and stop the deliberating!

 

[bobster]

Oh Jane well done on the weight loss thats great! I need to take a leaf out of your book and lose some weight too.

Shame about the opk's but maybe you could just save them for future cycles when things are back on track.

I hear you both about feeling like you want to relax. I'm starting to think the same as all this worrying is probably not helping things and I feel at times its starting to take over my life/relationship. I think its time for a ntnp approach for me too.

I hope your levels have gone down mlm. Its weird how you've had 2 periods now and you still have hcg in your system. Crazy. Hope it sorts itself out soon for you.

Mackjess 8 weeks! how exciting. Are you starting to relax now?

 

[mackjess]

Thanks. It's pretty exciting but nerve wracking. Since I don't have morning sickness I don't really feel pregnant so I'm constantly worried.

I have an appt on the 27th, but not sure what all it entails. Hopefully they at least listen for the HB on doppler but I don't know. I am getting a scan at 12 weeks. My office does elective scans, so I just need to figure out if they doctor will do another one then, if the insurance will pay for it, or if I need to schedule it and pay for it myself. Week 12 is Jan 8th.

 

[GI_Jane]

I'm pretty sure a lady at work is just about to announce she is 12 weeks pregnant. I am happy for her but also sad.

Does it ever feel to you ladies that your chance has gone? Sometimes it feels like I only had one chance and now its gone.

I know there is no reason why we shouldn't get a bfp again but right now it feels like there won't be another chance.

 

[GI_Jane]

Sorry I ruined the mood mackjess.x

 

[mlm115]

I know what you mean Jane. When I'm down about it I start thinking that. How old are you ladies? I only ask because I just turned 28 which I know isn't very old, but I always pictured myself with a family by now. And I will definitely be over 30 if/when I go for baby #2. I feel like if I were in my early 20's I probably would not worry as much about TTC cause there would be no rush. Sorry to offend as I know some of you are older than me, but do you feel that way ever?

 

[bobster]

I feel the same! A girl I used to work with has announced on facebook she is pregnant and she's not even 12 weeks yet. Risky! I feel like I had my chance too in a way I'm 26 but turn 27 in January. I too wanted a family by now but nurse training took priority and oh is only 27 so he's only just decided he's ready (after yrs of nagging). Feel sad about it and like its never going to happen. I guesd we hav to try and stay positive and let out bodies recover. Mackjess try not to worry ms doesn't happen for everyone and each pregnancy is different

 

[bobster]

Jane. How long were u trying for before u got your bfp before? Sorry I forget.. it will happen again love try to stay positive x

 

[GI_Jane]

I will be 31 in a couple months time, my dh is 35.

We had talked about kids earlier but also wasn't the right time for us. Travelling, education, work, health etc all got in the way and it wasn't until I got told I had PCOS and how this this would make it harder to conceive that we decided to give it a go. So I came off the pill and did NTNP for about 5 cycles (and you know how long my cycles are!). The cycle we actually timed it to coincide with ovulation I got my BFP.

So the lady at work did make her announcement- by that time I had stopped feeling sorry for myself and she had her 12 week scan pic (which she had done this morning) with her and I was really excited- I haven't actually seen one in real life before. Of course everyone who has ever had a baby in our office starts talking about their experience but I didn't mind too much as I had done my sulking by then and I didn't want to be selfish.

What about you ladies,how long have you all been trying? Bobster I think you said you've had two losses? How many months between them?

 

[mlm115]

Seems like you handled that really well Jane, good for you! The day after I found about My mmc, one of my employees came and told me he and his gf were expecting. I did NOT take it that well, oops

I started trying in July, got pregnant 2nd cycle in August. So I guess all in all it hasn't been that long. Maybe I'm just being an impatient brat.