It's been 7 weeks since mc but still not af...when to ring the GP?

[GI_Jane]

Seems like you handled that really well Jane, good for you! The day after I found about My mmc, one of my employees came and told me he and his gf were expecting. I did NOT take it that well, oops

I started trying in July, got pregnant 2nd cycle in August. So I guess all in all it hasn't been that long. Maybe I'm just being an impatient brat.

Trust me, if it had been the day after mine I wouldn't have handled it so well.

This whole TTC process tries my patience! It's the time it's taking to get back to normal that is bugging me now

 

[mlm115]

I know what you mean Jane. As if its not enough dealing with the loss, there are the constant physical reminders and things to deal with. I really hope your cycles sort themselves out, I can't imagine your frustration. Afm, just got another blood test and am praying my hcg is below 5 which is considered "not pregnant".

 

[GI_Jane]

When will you get your blood results? I hope its closer to 0 for you.

 

[mlm115]

I'll get them tomorrow. Will keep you posted.

Just went to talk to a therapist about this, wanted to see if it would help me deal with the miscarriage. Not too sure about it, just made me cry more!

 

[mackjess]

GL on your bloods MLM. Fx for all you ladies to get back on track with your cycles.

 

[GI_Jane]

I'll get them tomorrow. Will keep you posted.

Just went to talk to a therapist about this, wanted to see if it would help me deal with the miscarriage. Not too sure about it, just made me cry more!

Hugs Mlm.x

I had a big crying session down the phone to my mum after the Kate Middleton pregnancy stuff was announced- it just felt like everyone except me was getting pregnant. At the time I felt like crap but a few days later I felt better for having had a good cry. I wonder though when the loss stops hurting, I'm carrying around those feelings everyday.

 

[mlm115]

My hcg is now at 8. It's dropping, just super slow!

 

[mlm115]

I'll get them tomorrow. Will keep you posted.

Just went to talk to a therapist about this, wanted to see if it would help me deal with the miscarriage. Not too sure about it, just made me cry more!

Hugs Mlm.x

I had a big crying session down the phone to my mum after the Kate Middleton pregnancy stuff was announced- it just felt like everyone except me was getting pregnant. At the time I felt like crap but a few days later I felt better for having had a good cry. I wonder though when the loss stops hurting, I'm carrying around those feelings everyday.

Jane, I'm not sure the loss ever really stops hurting, maybe we just get better at dealing with it. I know a new bfp would help us move on too.

 

[MrsPhez]

Hi ladies, Had a few days off b&b, wow you all seem like you're riding that emotional rollercoaster. The waiting for "normality" is the hardest thing to cope with after the mc itself I think. You'll all be fine, hey, you've got a good 10 years on me! I had my first at 34......and pcos so anything can happen. Don't stress you've got plenty of time.
Hope your carpals are calming down a bit Mackjess.
I went to a Christmas party in London yesterday, much needed wine and fun was in order!

 

[mlm115]

Glad you had some fun mrs Phez! You deserve it!

My positive thing today is that I made an awesome grasshopper mint pie last night with creme de menth liquor in it and I ate a ton with out feeling guilty- small perk of not being pregnant during the holidays! I will probably eat the other half tonight haha

 

[GI_Jane]

My hcg is now at 8. It's dropping, just super slow!

That's madness considering you have had 2 af's so you must be ovulating.

So in an effort to get my cycles regulated I'm going to start getting reflexology done every other week....first appointment isn't until 9th January though. I hope it helps. My sister says its really helped her with her mood swings and period cramps so we'll see.

Have a good weekend ladies

 

[GI_Jane]

On Monday it will be 7 weeks since my last af, funny how I'm right back where I started when I posted this thread. Thanks for being there ladies.x

 

[mackjess]

Oh Jane, I hope your AFs speed up some for you! 7 weeks is a loooong wait.

 

[mlm115]

I think the reflexology sounds like a good idea Jane. Definitely can't hurt.

 

[bobster]

Jane, I know its rubbish I'm in the same boat. After my 18 day af which I've never experienced before I'm now cd 30 with no positive opk so another anovulatory cycle!

I have read up on this and it seems some people have a few anovulatory cycles after mc and this should rectify itself at some point. Its weird though as after my first one I have one anov cycle but my af came only 1 day late and then I caught on the cycle after so things settled down really quick. I'm wondering if this is because of 2 mc's in a short space of time. Body must be really confused or something..

MLM- can't believe you still have hcg of 8! Oh well not long now until under 5 at least and then hopefully you'll be in line for your bfp.

I think I may look into reflexology too

 

[bobster]

The girl who announced her pregnancy on facebook has just posted that she's got a threatened miscarriage

Bet she regrets posting it now but feel sorry for her. why is it so bloody common its cr*p!

 

[GI_Jane]

Oh that's sad. As you said before, was risky of her to announce it so early to the general public.

I only told my mum, dad and sister but then it seemed wrong for DH's parents not to know so we told them too but when we had the loss just a couple of weeks later I felt an idiot for having told the in laws- they weren't very sympathetic and quite matter of fact about it (not what i needed!). If I get my BFP again I think we'll just keep it to ourselves for a bit longer.

Bobster this no ovulation thing is really frustrating as you know. Must be confusing for our bodies with the hormone changes. Will you keep using the opk's the rest of the cycle or have you given up on them? This is partly why I don't want to waste the ones I've bought until I know things a bit more normal but then the opk's can help you tell if things are more normal so it's a chicken and egg situation!

Still no af for me and think it will come at 8 weeks again, which will be Christmas week- great! I'm hoping it will sort itself out and that the reflexology will help....at this rate I think a valentines BFP will be out of my grasp.....maybe an Easter egg will give me a BFP

How are you doing Mlm and Mrs Phez?

How is the Carpel Tunnel mackjess?

 

[mlm115]

I always worry when I see people announce their pregnancy early, especially after my own mc. Have you all decided when you are going to tell next time? I told my parents, sister, and inlaws at week 7, then had the loss at week 8. I didn't feel stupid for telling them, just felt bad for them and a bit guilty since they were so excited. I know I will wait til at least my first scan at week 8 to tell them next time.

Sorry about your cycles Jane. That just sucks. It's horrible not knowing what's going on in your own body. Same with you Bobster and your ovulation. Opks get expensive too!

Afm, I'm cd 9 today, should ov sometime between Saturday and Monday. I know I should be bd'ing soon, but I've gotten sick and feel crappy.

 

[GI_Jane]

Get well soon Mlm

 

[mackjess]

I don't know if I'll ever outright post something on FB. I'm sure friends or relatives will eventually post something, but I don't plan on announcements or putting up scan pics.

Since my first m/c was probably a chemical pregnancy and I already saw the HB at 7 weeks, I know this pregnancy is very different than the first. So I've already told more people than I intended to. Just close relatives and a few close friends, but still we were going to keep it zipped until 12 weeks. We were just too excited to not tell anyone.

I also did tell my boss, but he's very nice and he knew about my first loss since I took a few days off work to cope. I've been sooooo exhausted at work, and showing up late some mornings when I felt too queasy after blow drying and getting ready to hop in my car and drive, that I just wanted him to know I wasn't being a slacker.

AFM - I have felt crummy since I've been preggers, had a cold then bronchitis and the congestion never really went away. Finally broke down and went to my regular doc yesterday (they have urgent care out of the same building) and apparently have a really nasty sinus infection. The nurse lectured me a bit about waiting so long after I told her it was because I didn't want to have to take meds while pregnant. Apparently many antibiotics are very very baby safe, and she told me not to do that again. Hehe, I was like Yes MA'AM. So hopefully I'm feeling a bit better by the time I go to work tomorrow. I've had a forehead headache since about Weds that is finally letting up a little bit.

Jane - I think reflexology sounds like heaven. I've always wanted to try it.

MLM - hope you are feeling better soon. Is your dog all snuggled with you? The 3 of us (I have 2 dogs) had snooze fest all day yesterday since I wasn't feeling well.

Bobster - sorry about your friend. I hope everything goes OK for her. I think that is what kept my jealous feelings at bay when I saw other's getting BFPs before me. I'd feel the green envy twinge, then immediately hope it worked out since mc was so common. Thinking positive thoughts for the baby instead of being jealous of the person seemed to help me cope with it. I still don't feel like I'm prego, and I still feel like I could be someone that can never have kids. Out of 4 girls, I'm the most successful one so far in pregnancy and I've had one m/c and only at 8 weeks now. Something is going on with my family history so I don't think I'll 100% believe it can happen for me til the kiddo gets here.

Hi to everyone else I missed. I haven't been on much the last few days, prob since I wasn't feeling so hot.