Hello all - hoping this is a good place to jump in. I'm uncharacteristically needing a little bit of hand-holding, I find. Let me give you my story in brief. I'm a single, straight guy - was married for a dozen years. My ex had fertility issues and also wasn't keen on having kids anyway. After she unexpectedly got pregnant anyway (and miscarried) she changed her mind said she wanted kids and we should try assisted fertility. Two problems - first of all, she made this decision shortly after the miscarriage, and what neither of us knew was that her mind was still affected by the pregnancy hormones. I only saw this in hindsight, but it's clear that when this wore off, she really didn't want kids and only was going through it because she's told me she would and she knew how badly I wanted them. I won't detail the rest other than to say there was one more miscarriage followed by a failed IVF cycle and exploring surrogacy options. There was a lot of mental whiplash in there as well as one month she'd be saying 'Yes, let's do it' and then the next, she'd not want to. Lucky for me (and I do mean lucky) she fell in love with someone else - a woman as it turned out - and wanted out of the marriage. I'm a 'for richer for poorer/in sickness and in health' sort of guy, so I would have never left the marriage, but with her out the door, I was free and didn't have to feel the first bit of guilt over it.
Anyway, that's not all that relevant other than as background - having investigated surrogacy with her (I was the one doing all the research), I realized there was no reason I couldn't do it on my own, though it's not all that common for straight men to do it, apparently. But I didn't want to hop right into a new relationship and even if I did, the last thing you should do in a new relationship is try to have a child together. Plus, I'm in my 40's and any woman my age is either going to have children already, not want them or would have lots of trouble conceiving them. And I assure you, I have no interest in marrying someone half my age.
So I tried surrogacy but had some bad luck. Cycle one ended with a quick miscarriage and cycle two didn't reach the transfer stage because things didn't come together right, so I took some time off, did some traveling and now I'm back trying again with a new clinic.
And today is the transfer, which is why I'm suddenly all freaked out. They were able to retrieve 11 eggs from my donor of which 10 fertilized and all were still viable on day three. The 'slowest' of them was at six cells, most were 7 or 8 and one was actually up to 12. I have not heard from the IVF coordinator and the transfer is supposed to be happening now (I can't be there for logistical reasons). I'm sure I'd have been called if there was a problem and they had to cancel, so no news is good news, but damn, I'm just so nervous. For various reasons I've told nobody in my life I'm doing this right now - I mean, they knew I tried before and will be trying again, but I can't deal with people asking questions. At this stage, I'd rather wait until I have a success story a few months along.
Anyway, I've probably rambled enough - just this moment got an email from my agency saying all looks good - but wanted to talk to someone and so I posted! Best wishes to all in your journeys as well.
WOW, do the meds really affect me! I will be going to bed at 7 or earlier tonight.. LOL!
And if I am already feeling like something is going on, I can't imagine what you are feeling!! 
No PIO shots for me.. I get cooter tabs as far as I know! 
Sorry you are feeling tired today, I am right there with you!
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is amazing! What a relief and you can use them for siblings later 
I would be angry too! Just try not to get too worked up, just try to relax and talk to your little bean. Tell it to keep sticking!!!
