jealous of others

[mrsgibbner14]

So we have been only TTC for a month and I know it van take time but its hard.another friend from high school just posted she is due in Aug with her 3rd.its hard when I see others getting pregnat and I'm worried it won't happen for us

 

[writingislove]

I felt that way too after we first started trying, and now we're on our seventh month and I have multiple friends who are pregnant. Eventually, I had to remind myself that I'm not the only woman trying to get pregnant and I'm certainly not the only one who wants children, so it doesn't make sense to not be happy for my friends and I need to push my jealousy aside. One of my friends who's about halfway along tried for a year to get pregnant, but I didn't know that when she first announced it. When I found out, I felt terrible for not being excited for her at first. You just have to remember that your time WILL come, and how much would it hurt if someone wasn't happy for you simply because they were jealous?

 

[mrsgibbner14]

I'm happy for them and excited for them but I can't wait to have one of my own

 

[mrshan]

It's normal to be jealous, or even sad, hurt, or depressed. Because not many couples are open about when they struggle, every announcement makes it seem like it's easy for everyone else, and it can feel very lonely. Just realize that you're not alone, not at all.

 

[Angel022605]

:HUGS: I am in the same boat

 

[KatO79]

You need to remember that 1 month isn't long, very few get pregnant that quickly. They say it can take perfectly normal, fertile couples up to 1 year to get pregnant with the average being between 6-8 months.

Me and my DH (35 and 37) have been trying for 1 year and 4 months and have started our 2nd IUI.

So just keep trying and see how it goes. Hope it happens soon

 

[MrsMcCurdy]

It doesn't get any easier. Many will get pregnant in time but only know that your time WILL come, eventually. In the time we have been trying I'm not sure I can even count how many women I know have gotten pregnant, one being my own mother and another being my closest SIL. It hurts, it's discouraging but I will get my turn too... Eventually.... Chin up, you'll get there.

 

[writingislove]

I found out today my cousin's wife is pregnant and it crushed me. I said in an earlier reply that I've, for the most part, learned to stop being jealous. But this one was tough, because it wasn't planned and they haven't been married long, and they're quite a bit younger than I am. And it will be my grandparents' first great-grandchild. I vented to my mom about it, and she said something simple yet very profound: it's okay to be happy for someone, and disappointed for yourself at the same time.

Sigh.

 

[mrsgibbner14]

I found out today my cousin's wife is pregnant and it crushed me. I said in an earlier reply that I've, for the most part, learned to stop being jealous. But this one was tough, because it wasn't planned and they haven't been married long, and they're quite a bit younger than I am. And it will be my grandparents' first great-grandchild. I vented to my mom about it, and she said something simple yet very profound: it's okay to be happy for someone, and disappointed for yourself at the same time.

Sigh.

I know how that feels.my cousin and his wife got married before I did and they just had a baby my grandmothers first great grand child. She is younger then me too and I always suspected my grandmother favors them more even tho they live in Florida. I hope when we have a baby she will be happy to have a great grand kid near her