Im just so frustrated tonight. I think ovulation is today based on temp drop and ovulation cramps, which means DH and I have only DTD one time this cycle in the fertile period (O-2). He promised to do it O-1 but then he played disc golf an was too tired afterwards (and honestly so was I so I didnt persist). We promised to DTD tonight. Well, he witnessed a terrible motorcycle accident today on his way to work and being haunted by that vision isnt exactly conducive to babymaking with me. Which I understand. But Im so frustrated. I wanted to start TTC in September. I waited until he was ready (January). Every month has been half-assed trying, sometimes DTD once in the fertile period and two months not DTD at all in the fertile period because he has to travel frequently for work. I feel like its all on me to figure out and then hes geniunely shocked and upset when I dont magically fall pregnant each month (and Im crushed). Hes not doing anything to help and its all on me to figure out and Im already so sick of this heartbreak of ttc. We conceived our first after 3 months and everything was so much easier then.
Sorry. Just had to rant somewhere.
Sorry to jump in, but I know how you feel. It took years for my husband to want another baby, I have a six year old and we are just starting to try for another. He still isn't that into it compared to myself, but I have to remind myself that I can't change how he is and this is just my ego that is really getting hurt. He is a great father and a pretty good husband despite his lack of enthusiasm for this process. I think a lot of men get really nervous and kind of withdrawn from the whole thing. I don't know if you have tried talking to him without being too accusatory, but that might help. But, you might just be one of those couples where you have to put more effort into it than your husband, like myself. I think it's easy for a woman to understand the importance of timing, frequency, etc. and I know my husband has told me he doesn't like feeling obligated to have scheduled sex. I told him I understand that but it's my body that makes the rules, not me! I had my husband watch The Great Sperm Race, and I think that helped because it's interesting and you really understand how it's all about TIMING. Either way, don't let how he is acting ruin the process for you (like I have done before) and try to not take it too personal, even though it's hard. FX for you!!!!
Anyway, I am 6 DPO (+OPK 7 days ago with a temp drop, but FF says O happened 6 days ago). I have already POAS multiple times, it seems even more white than when I wasn't even TTC
I have only been preg once (very thankful for that one!). I got my BFP at 13DPO with a VFL at 12DPO.
Of course I am reaching for symptoms, but we all know you can't really tell whether it's AF symptoms or BFP symptoms, so it's a battle I will not win inside my head.
I was going to wait to test, but I honestly feel like I will feel even worse when it's BFN! Getting negatives daily really helps you not get your hope up, lol!
