June Baby Angels

[Middysquidge]

Hey Vegas, so glad you had a lovely break! I'm trying to take a break from bnb but tbh it's not really working I'm still coming on here all the time! I've definitely chilled out with the ttc though, just focusing on the move atm!

Funnily enough, we got our dd a portable dvd player and headphones for Christmas, it's been great already, just for getting our tv back! DH is loving having the footie on!

I'm sorry your af hasn't arrived yet, totally rude. I was tempting and using opks so I could see I ovulated so I knew when to expect my af but I'm glad we're having a break ttc this month as I explained I want to get a heavy af first!

OH is off to Vegas on Thursday, we had some of our best mates over yesterday and they have been to Vegas, they were telling us about 'ASS juice' from the porcelin toilet cups! Minging! I'll let you know how his trip goes, he might give ass juice a miss! ha x

Glad to hear from you anyway! So, will you be ttc around March then? x x x

 

[Meli_H]

Hi Jasmine!

today I am 13-14 dpo. The last time i tested was yesterday, BFN of course. that's why I didnt even bother to test today, why waste more hpt's! I am so sure that I am not pg, it's just a gut feeling I have. I agree with you-either way is a positive thing-either being pg is good, or not being pg and being able to donate liver is good too, however, that bring on another issue--dh is NOT in agreement at all with the possibility. I am already stressing out about the whole thing-i really dont need to add another facet to stress out over--it's horrible enough without him not being supportive AT ALL. I have no idea how long a ttc break I would need to take-all i do know so far is that i would be hospitalized for 1 week, and required to take off at least 4 weeks
from work to recuperate.

I think you've got a good plan in place--take the baby aspirin and build up your uterine lining. As far as the digital opk's, do you have any dollar tree stores or 99cent stores in the UK? Those opk's aren't digital, but I have been using them and have been very satisfied. These give you 36-48 hours notice of O.

Today I bought a first response fertility test. yes, more poas!! you're supposed to use it on the cd3, and it's supposed to tell you about your egg reserve levels. "It detects FSH, and can indicate the status of a woman's ovarian reserve and her pregnancy potential".
I was curious, so I thought, why not, and I bought it!

btw, I am totally going to google 'ass juice' and 'minging' as I have absolutely no idea what it is and I'm curious!!

vegas,

welcome back! glad to hear your trip was nice. I think if I was in a car with a toddler, dvd or not, I would be about stir crazy at the end of the trip lol! FX af shows soon!

Hello to all the other ladies, and happy NY to all!

 

[vegasbaby]

Jasmine: I never had ass juice while in Vegas. As a woman I could never order a drink with a name like that! I don't plan on TTC until at April or May. My doctor doesn't want me to start TTC until July (I'm supposed to test monthly for six months from my first negative hcg blood draw which I hope I get this week). I have no intention of waiting until July, but I don't want to start too soon and make my doctor mad, nor do I want to get pregnant during the first few months of my new job as morning sickness, fatigue and productivity do not mix.

Meli: I've never heard of those first response tests. Sounds interesting. Sorry your dh is not on board about the liver donation. Do you know that you are a match? Can anyone else donate if you can't? Have you talked to your doctor about how much time off you would need from TTC if you do donate or have you tried to look it up on google (though how trustworthy is google)? Just curious.

 

[StefNJunk]

Jasmine, I totally support if you want to take a break from the site, but I'm glad you haven't quite done that! We'd miss you

Meli, I hope DH comes around to whatever it is you decide you want to do with the liver donation.

vegas, hope your levels are back to normal at this next draw!

So OH was planning on waiting until tonight to give me my Xmas present, but got antsy and couldn't wait, ended up giving it to me on the 29th. He got me the new iPad with retina display, but it's special. When I opened the card attached to it, I looked over to see him on his knees holding the case he bought for it. The card said, "Will you marry me?" The iPad and case have our names with his last name inscribed on them. True geek proposal

 

[vegasbaby]

Stef: Huge congratulations ! Looks like 2013 will be a wonderful year for you. So excited for you.

 

[Middysquidge]

ARRRGGGHHHH Stef! CONGRATS! That is fantastic, I LOVE the proposal but I'm a total geek too! Hope you said yes!' hehe!

Meli, sorry I didn't realise you wouldn't know what 'minging' means! It just means 'horrible' or 'disgusting', it's just slang really! I have my fingers crossed for your bfp and also that you can't take too much of a break from ttc! I hope OH comes round too and starts supporting you! I hate it when OH isn't supportive, ot's like you can't function properly!

Vegas, yes, the friend that told us about 'ass juice' was of course male! I'd never expect you to have ordered it! Typical eh! OH doesn't fancy it, lol!

Guess what, I just did a cheapy opk and it was a near postive, wtf? I'm cd7?

x x x

 

[angel2010]

Congrats Stef!!!!

I saw my endocrinologist and my thyroid levels are......................NORMAL!!!! I really didn't think they would be. I was so happy to hear that we could start ttc when we were ready without any worries. But, I came home and saw on facebook a post by my sil talking about being almost 5 months pregnant and how they are about to find out if they are having a "sweet baby girl or boy". Now I feel crushed. I would be about 17.5 weeks today. I want her to be happy and feel okay posting about her pregnancy, but I am so sad now and can't seem to shake it.

 

[Middysquidge]

Awww, try not to get too disheartened Angel, it's so great that you can ttc whenever you are ready just try and focus on that, it's hard I know but it's all systems go for you now too, I'm so happy for you. My angel would have been about 19 weeks this week, it's hard. Big hugs to you sweetie x x x

 

[vegasbaby]

Jasmine: Well, keep testing and make sure you and your dh bd before he goes out of town. You never know....

Angel: Congrats on your thyroid levels! I know this sounds extreme, but maybe you could hide your SIL's updates on FB, at least for a while. While I was in Memphis my sil was around every day, rubbing her belly and talking about all the stuff she can't do because she is pregnant (she has some medical issues) and they announced they were having a boy. It was really hard, but thankfully I had wine to see me through (I need to dry out in the new year).

 

[Middysquidge]

Thanks Vegas, I got a positive today, cd8, that's crazy isn't it!

Wine is a great companion but I'm on a health kick now too, it's no fun but none of my clothes fit me! x x x

 

[Meli_H]

Vegas,
Trying to conceive around April-May is a good compromise!
according to google, the recommendation is to wait 3-6 mos before ttc after donating liver.
my uncle's blood type is an extremely rare one-type 'o' blood. I am also type o, as is one other cousin (that we're aware of, so far)...
I am going to my annual physical exam and pap smear on Jan 4, I plan on mentioning the situation to my dr and get her take on it.

Stef,
congrats on the proposal!! very cool way to propose to you..glad to hear that your levels finally went down and are able to ttc whenever you feel you are ready!!!

Jasmine,
Interesting about the positive opk!!! get to hee hee!
are you going to keep testing throughout your cycle? One of the ladies here said some women o multiple times throughout their cycle...esp after a mc..which is the reason why women are more fertile after mc's?

afm,
The witch got me yesterday morning. oh well, i knew i didn't catch the egg so I really expected it..The only consolation is that my body seems to be right on schedule-af came exactly 30 days after the last one...

and I also should start to 'dry out' and substitute grapefruit juice for wine LOL
oh well, maybe I'll start drying out before I go back to work on Jan 7

 

[angel2010]

Thanks guys. Another friend posted today that they are expecting. I have sorta been having a self pity party the last two days.

 

[angel2010]

She posting again today! I don't know why I am such a mess! I can't seem to handle it at all right now! I think I may ovulate in the next couple of days, so maybe it is all the hormone changes. I have never posted about my miscarriage on facebook (a post that showed to all of my friends at least). But after I saw her post I got so mad and sad that I did. I know that I only did it to be spiteful though. It was like I wanted to burst her bubble a little. How pathetic is that....I have to get control of this.

 

[StefNJunk]

angel, vegas has a good suggestion - temporarily hiding her status updates for now. I did that with my cousin who is pregnant because it's ALL she talks about. How her parents never thought they'd have a grandchild (she got pregnant right after she started trying, idk what she's talking about), how her pregnancy has been perfect perfect perfect, how she can't gain too much weight because she has two weddings to be in after the baby is born, how her husband keeps asking the baby to come early (to which she adds "lol" as if that's cute somehow). Drove me insane and was a constant reminder (especially since the post about how perfect perfect her preg has been was when I was waiting for OH to get home to go to the u/s to found out why I was bleeding the day we found the baby had died). I didn't unfriend her, didn't block her, just unsubscribed from her updates. It doesn't alert the person that you did, and if you resubscribe, it won't either.

 

[vegasbaby]

Jasmine: My fingers are crossed that this is your month.

Meli: You are still on break? Lucky you! I wish you were here as I have a grapefruit tree in my front yard. I could provide you with gallons of grapefruit juice. It's good for TTC! (Though it did not work for me and I drank a lot of it this time last year, I even tried Mucinex, but I think it wasn't time until it was, and then as we know that didn't work too well since I caught two damn sperm).

Angel: Yeah, I had another friend announce yesterday that she is preggo. I think that makes at least seven people on my FB who are pregnant. I will say one thing that might help. While everyone posts about being pregnant, no one posts about miscarriages. When I found out I was pregnant this year my MIL told some people back in Memphis and one of those people sent me a congratulatory message on FB. This was a girl I went to high school with who has three small children. After I got the message I sent an e-mail out to my MIL and told her to please stop telling people as I was still in the first trimester and since my first ultrasound was off by a week I just wasn't comfortable with the whole thing (it's like I knew already). Anyway when I lost the baby I sent my friend a message telling her what happened. She sent a message back saying that she too had lost a baby, her first, and has to undergo fertility treatments to have children. If she hadn't told me I would have never known. She has been super supportive to me and now I'm glad she knew. In fact, we have found out that several people we know have experienced miscarriages. When I see a new announcement on FB I now think about the fact that these people may have had fertility problems or a previous miscarriage(s) that they never shared with me. Unless they are a close friend how would I know? Even close friends tend to hide this info. I know that when we finally start seeing BFPs on here I will truly be happy for each and every one of you because I know we have experienced losses and we truly deserve our rainbows and I am trying to extend that same feeling to my FB friends as well. On the other hand, if they are annoying about it, I will not hesitate to hide them from my feed. Sorry for the looooong post.

Stef: Have you discussed a wedding date yet? What kind of wedding do you want to have?

How is everyone else doing? I feel like we are seeing fewer posts these days, but perhaps that is good as it means people are moving on.

Nothing new here. My temps are up a little one day and back down the next. I wonder if I will ever ovulate. I just want my darn period already! I guess it's only been five weeks, so I'm still considered in the normal range for things, but boy I hate waiting!

 

[Middysquidge]

Don't be hard on yourself Angel, it's a very difficult time and I bet it felt a little bit like a weight off your shoulders writing that! I posted a picture of my 'Mourning Bear' that I made for my angel, it's black and it's called 'Sorrow' and I wrote 'For someone special who grew wings.' No-one commented on it I think they didn't know what to say and after I wondered if I should have done that but I don't care, it felt good to get it off my chest!

Our angels are a big part of our lives I don't know why it has to be so taboo! I agree with Vegas and Stef though, just take her off your homepage, she sounds like a right goon anyway!

Also, I had a total and utter meltdown last night, it appears I'm not handling things very well either. As I mentioned I had a positive OPK yesterday am and the am before that, I was really surprised as I didn't think we would be able to ttc this month with my oh going away but this early opk meant that maybe we were in with a shot!

Anyway, I couldn't be bothered telling my OH about the positive opk, he is really stressed and had gotten the idea in his head that we were having a month off and he was quite happy about it. I know it's wrong but I didn't tell him, I just came onto him last night in bed, we dtd and then horror of all horrors, he pulled out at the end.

I thought he had done it to be spiteful but he hadn't he just did it cos he likes it. I was absolutely in bits, wailing like a bloody dog and then I had to come clean about it all and he was sooo lovely about it all. I was upset because my opk had gone negative again by the afternoon so I thought it was the tail end of the surge? Turns out though, my urine was just too diluted as I didn't wait 4 hours and had another positive and low temp this morning, oops!

He was just basically saying 'why on earth didn't you tell me we had a window or scream at me when i was pulling it out? I would never have done that but I had no idea and the only reason we're not ttc this month is cos of my trip? He was very confused, no wonder really! I'm not sure why I didn't tell him, I just thought it would be easier, we both want a baby anyway, I just didn't want to stress him out and I'm getting desperate for a baby now. I hate not being pregnant, I feel so empty and it's all I think about every minute of the day.

Anyway, we're going to dtd just once tonight, I don't think it will work, I'm only cd10 and the two positives i got very not quite positive just almost almost! But my temps stayed low this morning and i deffo haven't ovulated so we get one shot this month, fx

Meli, sorry your af came hunny, that's rubbish, but you seem to be dealing with it well. When will you find out if you're being the liver donor? To answer your question, I am going to keep testing but i have to hold my urine for 4 hours which is very very hard for me, I'm testing tonight at 8pm! Interesting about the multiple eggs maybe that could be it or maybe cos they were only almost positive it will happen at a more normal cd like cd 12-14? Who knows? I'm clueless!

x x x

 

[vegasbaby]

Jasmine: With this last pregnancy we dtd on days -3 and the day I ovulated (based on temps and a positive OPK). With that said, don't worry about last night as you still have a shot at it. Also, perhaps you can dtd tomorrow morning before he leaves. I stopped telling dh that we were ttc as it was too much pressure on him and that I was using him (duh). And to think I would have thought he would be happy that I was using him for his body.

 

[Middysquidge]

Angel: Yeah, I had another friend announce yesterday that she is preggo. I think that makes at least seven people on my FB who are pregnant. I will say one thing that might help. While everyone posts about being pregnant, no one posts about miscarriages. When I found out I was pregnant this year my MIL told some people back in Memphis and one of those people sent me a congratulatory message on FB. This was a girl I went to high school with who has three small children. After I got the message I sent an e-mail out to my MIL and told her to please stop telling people as I was still in the first trimester and since my first ultrasound was off by a week I just wasn't comfortable with the whole thing (it's like I knew already). Anyway when I lost the baby I sent my friend a message telling her what happened. She sent a message back saying that she too had lost a baby, her first, and has to undergo fertility treatments to have children. If she hadn't told me I would have never known. She has been super supportive to me and now I'm glad she knew. In fact, we have found out that several people we know have experienced miscarriages. When I see a new announcement on FB I now think about the fact that these people may have had fertility problems or a previous miscarriage(s) that they never shared with me. Unless they are a close friend how would I know? Even close friends tend to hide this info. I know that when we finally start seeing BFPs on here I will truly be happy for each and every one of you because I know we have experienced losses and we truly deserve our rainbows and I am trying to extend that same feeling to my FB friends as well. On the other hand, if they are annoying about it, I will not hesitate to hide them from my feed. Sorry for the looooong post.

Just wanted to say, I think this is a great attitude to have, I think this will help not only angel but me too. Thanks so much! It's so true, I have been shocked at the amount of people that have confessed to me that they also have lost a baby, it really is so much more common than you realise, not that it makes it easier but at least it's good to know we can relate to others sometimes when we least expect to!

Made me laugh about you OH complaining being used, I thought men loved to be used! hehe! I'm so gonna use my man up tonight before he heads away tomorrow x x x

 

[angel2010]

Meli, sorry af got you, good news on your body being on track though. Hopefully this cycle will be it for you!

Vegas, thanks for the advice. I did hide her today after the latest post. And you are completely right in your outlook. I will try to get in that mindset. I hope you ovulate soon!

Stef, glad I'm not alone

Jasmine, I hope you catch that eggy!!

Afm, as I said I am waiting to ovulate. I am on day 21 of my cycle and this is roughly the day I usually ovulate. I have not had any ewcm (and I normally do) and my temps are still up. We will see, it is not like I am trying this cycle anyway, but I still like to keep on top of it.

 

[StefNJunk]

Stef: Have you discussed a wedding date yet? What kind of wedding do you want to have?

We haven't talked about a date yet, I'm honestly not sure how long we'll wait. I'm very open to what kind of wedding. I'm not a big wedding person and I don't really like being the center of a lot of attention, so I'd be fine with and prefer something small (even the courthouse would be fine with me!). I don't think he'll want something big because he has social anxiety issues, but he has a large family, so we'll see!

Stef, glad I'm not alone

So I've gotten very confused. Tuesday night we dtd. Yesterday he said "Maybe I shouldn't have finished inside you last night, just in case." I think he's worried about the stress of moving and being preg, but I just don't want to wait Anyway, we dtd last night and he finished inside me again, without a word about it.