June Baby Angels

[jenkb123]

Angel - I have had a few of those awkward "congrats" situations too. It really is uncomfortable. Especially since the person who says it typically feels so bad once they find out. Which always makes me feel bad since they had no idea they were saying something that was upsetting!!

Stef - Thanks for reading my story. Just typing it out did make me feel better. It is good to talk about things!!

Jasmine - I am glad to hear that the birthday party went well! Hope you are doing well as can be too!!

 

[jem77]

Thanks ladies! Makes me feel better to have a place to go to vent, but sad that we're all here for the same reason. I have my follow up appt with the Dr on Thurs and I'm not looking forward to that emotional meeting. I'm taking off work until at least then. Everyone at work knew I was preg as I announced it at 12 weeks. 2 good friends at work are preg too, it's gonna suck to go back. Not sure how to prepare for it....

 

[angel2010]

Jenk, I just read your story. It is not fair is it. I am very sorry you lost your baby. I hope that you get pregnant right away with a nice sticky bean!

 

[jenkb123]

Thank you Angel!!

AF arrived today (my first one since the m/c) so I am excited to be able to start the ttc process again!! Never thought I would be so happy to get af!! If I count the first day of bleeding from my m/c as cd1 I would be cd32 today. I thought for sure it would take a lot longer for af to come back as I used to have pretty long cycles before my m/c.

My ttc process will be a bit different than most of the other ones I've read about. I will start clomid on cd5 and then go for follicle tracking to see if I will need another HCG shot to trigger ovulation. I needed one last time. I am excited to try again and hopeful that now that we have found a process that worked that I will be pregnant again soon!!

Hope everyone else is doing well!!

 

[Middysquidge]

Jenk I read your story today too I'm pleased you got your AF today too, that's not bad going is it a 32 day cycle for your first one! Have everything crossed for you hun, well not my legs actually as I'm ttc myself

I got my first definite positive OPK this afternoon after several faint ones so I'm pretty excited too! I got a negative this morning so I caught the beginning of my surge at 3pm. Have put my bd order in with OH! I've said we need to dtd today and tomorrow. Do you think that will be enough, we also did it Friday night and last night!

Hope everyone is okay x

 

[jenkb123]

That is exciting Jasmine. It sounds like you are doing all you can to catch that egg!! I hope we both get our bfp's this month!! Good luck!!

 

[vegasbaby]

Jasmine: Good luck with the bd'ing. I think that will be plenty. Hope you catch the eggy, but if not, just know it wasn't the right time and keep on trying until you catch it. Took me almost a year to catch this last one, but only one month with my dd so you never know.

Jenk: I read you original post too. Again, I am so sorry, but I am hopeful that things will work out in the future.

Jem: I hope your appointment goes well and that you will have found some inner peace by the time you return to work. It is very hard to see others progressing with their pregnancies when you are not, but there seems to be no avoiding the pregnant gals.

Sweetmomma: I see you set the June mommy thread straight. I'm glad you did. Everyone needs to be accounted for.

My weekend was fairly uneventful. I started bleeding again, but it is really old blood (gross). Ready for that to stop. We hung out with a friend of ours and their almost four month old. It didn't even make me all that sad. I feel like I am slowly feeling better. I didn't even cry yesterday. For me, that is progress.

 

[angel2010]

Thank you Angel!!

AF arrived today (my first one since the m/c) so I am excited to be able to start the ttc process again!! Never thought I would be so happy to get af!! If I count the first day of bleeding from my m/c as cd1 I would be cd32 today. I thought for sure it would take a lot longer for af to come back as I used to have pretty long cycles before my m/c.

My ttc process will be a bit different than most of the other ones I've read about. I will start clomid on cd5 and then go for follicle tracking to see if I will need another HCG shot to trigger ovulation. I needed one last time. I am excited to try again and hopeful that now that we have found a process that worked that I will be pregnant again soon!!

Hope everyone else is doing well!!

I think my cycle may return sooner than I thought. I believe I ovulated on the 28th of Nov, so I am expecting af in the next couple of days. We will see though. I have to wait for my thyroid levels to go down before I can ttc again. I am okay with waiting though. I want to loose a few pounds and I really want to avoid a September baby. We already have 4 birthdays that month.

 

[angel2010]

Catch that eggy Jasmine!!!! Good luck!

 

[angel2010]

Jasmine: Good luck with the bd'ing. I think that will be plenty. Hope you catch the eggy, but if not, just know it wasn't the right time and keep on trying until you catch it. Took me almost a year to catch this last one, but only one month with my dd so you never know.

Jenk: I read you original post too. Again, I am so sorry, but I am hopeful that things will work out in the future.

Jem: I hope your appointment goes well and that you will have found some inner peace by the time you return to work. It is very hard to see others progressing with their pregnancies when you are not, but there seems to be no avoiding the pregnant gals.

Sweetmomma: I see you set the June mommy thread straight. I'm glad you did. Everyone needs to be accounted for.

My weekend was fairly uneventful. I started bleeding again, but it is really old blood (gross). Ready for that to stop. We hung out with a friend of ours and their almost four month old. It didn't even make me all that sad. I feel like I am slowly feeling better. I didn't even cry yesterday. For me, that is progress.

I am happy to hear you are starting to feel better. I don't hardly ever cry anymore, but I feel stuck in the anger phase.

 

[jenkb123]

Thanks Vegas! I am so glad to hear you are feeling a little better!!

Angel - Hope af comes soon for you. Even if you are waiting for a bit it is always good to feel like things are getting back to normal again.

Jem - I also hope that your appointment goes well! This is a great place to vent. The people here really understand what you are going through.

 

[jem77]

All you ladies seem so strong. I am so afraid of going into depression, but I can't. I need to be healthy for my LO. She is 9 months and has been great medicine, but I find myself crying allthe time.
A short version of my story.....last Monday night I started feeling cramps. After looking online, I read cramping at 14 weeks is normal as growing pains. A few hours later I started bleeding. We went to the ER and the did an ultrasound and bloodwork. Both came back with good results (baby's heartbeat was a strong 165). So they sent us home. As the night went on, the cramping got worse, but bleeding stopped. Around 4am I woke DH up to go back to ER, I was in so much pain. As we were getting ready I went into the bathroom. As I sat, my water broke and I started gushing blood. Next the baby came. I got on the floor in case I passed out. DH called 911 and as we waited I feared I was gonna die on the floor from blood loss. The pain was worse than when I had DD. (I also saw my baby laying on the floor next to me. An image burned in my head I can't get out). At the hosp, they noticed I had a fever. I had to stay for a few days to get the fever under control. Turners out I had a bladder infection (I had no clue about), and this caused the miscarriage. Pathology said my baby was healthy.
I am so angry! I wish the ER Dr, the first time we were in, found the fever and infection. It is eating at me wondering if this could have been prevented.
As scared as I am to move on, I am also ready to be preg again. I have a hole in my heart, I want to fill it.
Sorry for the long rant, I need to get this out and I feel I can only talk to DH.

 

[vegasbaby]

Jem: I am so sorry. Did they take your temperature at the ER when you first went in? Seems to be pretty standard procedure, but your temperature may have still been normal at that point. I wish you could go back in time and prevent this (wish I could too). I understand wanting to be pregnant again. I do know that at each ob appointment they do take a urine sample to check for uti's. I actually asked the nurse at my last appointment and that is what she said. She said uti's are quite common, but pregnant women have a harder time recognizing the symptoms. You did everything you could have done to prevent this, but sometimes awful things happen despite your best efforts. Please feel free to express your feelings here as we are here to help. You have been through a traumatic loss and it will take a lot of time to work through that loss. Big hugs to you .

For all you ladies ready to try again I have good news; according to the news, today is the most fertile day of the year. Babies conceived today will be due on September 16 which is the most popular birthday in the US and UK. So if you are trying, then you better get to it today .

 

[Phantom710]

So sad to see you all over here since we all started in the June Babies thread

My case is slightly different since it wasn't MY baby that I lost, but :S

How are you all

 

[StefNJunk]

Oh wow jem, huge hugs to you, I'm SO sorry you had to go through that
As for being strong, it doesn't mean you can't cry. If you need to cry, do it. It's not strength to hold it in, it's strong to show your emotions and deal with them as they come, and it sounds like that is what you're doing. So I'd say you're pretty strong, too.

Still bleeding over here... came back on Sunday. Wondering if my lady bits will ever be in order again.

 

[jenkb123]

Jem - I am so so sorry you had to go through that!! I would be angry too!! I know how hard it is not to go through the what-if's. I believe we just have to trust that things happen for a reason (even though we can't always understand what that reason could possibly be). There is no way you could have known. You did everything you could! I think seeming strong is often an illusion!! I don't feel strong on the inside a lot of the time. I think that strong people have a lot of weak moments and insecurities that other people don't always see. You are obviously very strong to have gotten through the situation that you did. I read your story and I think to myself I don't know if I could have gotten through that. The fact that you are here and talking about it, that you recognize you need to be healthy for your little one, that you recognize the potential for depression and want to avoid it, all of those things show how strong you really are!! I think crying is healthy....you are working through your grief. That is an important step!!

Vegas - I didn't know today was the most fertile day of the year. Since this is only cd2 for me I will have to hope that a less fertile day will still work for me!! lol

Phantom - Even if you weren't the one carrying the baby it was still your baby that was lost. I am very sorry for your loss!!

Stef - I am sorry to hear you are still bleeding!! Things will get back to normal, I'm sure of it!! Its just frustrating to have to wait for that to happen!!

 

[Middysquidge]

I'm so sorry to hear what you have been through Jem, so sorry that the baby was healthy and it all could have been prevented, I would be angry and down too but I bet you are stronger than you think, it doesn't stop it hurting though x

Oooh, that is interesting Vegas, especially since I'm ovulating today! hehe x

 

[jenkb123]

Jasmine - I think that is a very good sign!! I foresee a Sept 16 due date in your future!! Good luck and happy bd'ing!!

 

[vegasbaby]

OMG I just got a call from a man who spoke very poor English and wanted to know if I wanted to take some sort of class. When I asked him to please repeat himself he asked if I wanted to take a Lamaze class. I realized this same man called the morning of my d&c, but I told him I wasn't home (mentally I wasn't). Anyway I had to tell him that I had lost the baby and he went on to say these things happen and how am I mentally. I told him fine since he is a complete stranger. I think I am going to call my OB and see who is giving out my information. I didn't register anywhere so I have no idea.

Phantom: Nice to see you, even if it is on our sad little thread. I think a loss is a loss no matter the circumstances. When I read that you lost the baby I thought not only of you, but also the couple you were carrying for and I felt so awful for you all. Are you going to try again? If so, when?

Jenk: Don't worry you will still have plenty of opportunities. They said the reason they thought this was such a fertile day is that between the holidays putting couples in a "festive" mood and temperatures being lower (which I guess supports better sperm) you have a better chance for conception. Since you live in Canada where the temps stay pretty cool you don't have to worry about any particular date.

 

[jenkb123]

Phantom - I am sorry I misunderstood your situation. I wasnt on the other June pregnancy thread so I hadn't actually heard your story. Ignore my other post!! I think it is amazing that you were carrying a baby for another couple. You are a very special person to do this and I am very sorry for the loss for both you and the couple whose baby you were carrying!!

Vegas - You are right!! It can be quite cold in Canada during the winter....especially in Saskatchewan. I'm glad to hear that this can be helpful with ttc. There needs to be some positive benefits to the cold weather!!

That is disturbing that a strange man is calling you about pregnancy related things. I would definitely call the OB and find out if they are giving out personal info. They should not be giving out info!!