June bugs 2012! 6x Boys 12x Girls 8x Team Yellow :)

[hakunamatata]

for those that have been here a while, i am still Laura Power, lol, but changed my username as i stupidly used my real name, which meant people (dont ask why) were googling my name, and even knew i was pg cos of it?!? dont ask, ive no idea! but its still me! lol x

Yikes that's kind of creepy!!

 

[hakunamatata]

I cannot wait to get to 12weeks either, feels like it's ages away though!
Just been for lunch with one of my best mates and was saying about the tests I had done etc and she started saying I have to relax as rates are really high for miscarriage with your 1st? That's not true is it, she has put the fear of god into me now for sure just as I was feeling positive!

I don't know if that's true or not but either way that's kind of a rotten thing to say, IMO.

Don't let it bring you down!

 

[Gemini85]

THATS RUBBISH!!! what a load of poo. Lets face it, there would not be a programme called "16 and pregnant" if that were true!!! that would be equal to saying most of those 16 year olds had already had a mc?!?!?! teenage preg rates wouldnt be high, nor abortion rates, if that was the case, slap her upside the head....fool! x

 

[Lilyfire]

Emzy and Gemini: thanks so much for the reassurance. I'm a worrier and this is my first pregnancy so I'm a little scared. I found this a week or so ago: https://www.pregnancycharts.org/miscarriage.php and I'm counting down the days to six weeks. Can't wait to hit 12 tho, especially as it's the week of my 29th birthday!
Deep breaths, and back to positivity now!

 

[hakunamatata]

Just checked that chart, that statistic seems pretty low.

I don't think any of us should be worrying. Plus it's not good for our health.

 

[gemgem77]

Thanks guys, I was kind of surprised that she was saying it and I went very quiet. I don't think people that haven't been pregnant can appreciate how that sort of thing feels. I am already so protective of what's growing in me it made we just want to get out of there fast and stop listening to what she was saying! xx

 

[Lilyfire]

THATS RUBBISH!!! what a load of poo. Lets face it, there would not be a programme called "16 and pregnant" if that were true!!! that would be equal to saying most of those 16 year olds had already had a mc?!?!?! teenage preg rates wouldnt be high, nor abortion rates, if that was the case, slap her upside the head....fool! x

Normally this would scare me cos, as you know, this is my first too- but even I think this rubbish. Relax and let's get back to the positivity!

 

[gemgem77]

I know and sorry for posting on here because I know everyone is worried enough but I was so shocked and upset by it.
Do you think she didn't even realise how what she was saying was coming across? x

 

[hakunamatata]

She probably didn't mean to be hurtful.

Is she hoping to have a baby? Maybe she's a tad jealous?

 

[gemgem77]

No she's single as well so maybe, you don't like to think of friends being like that though do you? She kept saying "well that's the problem when you find out so early" and I said well when your trying you do find out early??
Maybe I should just let it go

 

[Gemini85]

women arent the best at thinking before speaking, ive been guilty of it many times! and DONT feel bad for posting here, if anything, i appreciate it as i then know its not just me having the worries, if you lot were constantly posting about how chilled and unconcerned you were, id be going out of my mind!!! x

 

[Gemini85]

If you want to mention it to her, id explain how it came across, and that youd rather not be given more worry for no reason. WHY the hell do all women turn into OB GYN specialists the minute you fall pregnant? its always worse from the ones with no children!!! x

 

[gemgem77]

Thanks Laura, I really appreciate being able to talk about it on here. I know crazy isn't it I should have said at the time I didn't want to hear things like that. I just won't mention the pregnancy to her again and see what happens x

 

[Gemini85]

dont know about you lot, but maybe those who are first timers will agree....
Whenever a friend or something fell pregnant before i was trying, even if i only sae it on fb, i was always thinking, why the minute women get preggers, do they only seem to be able to talk about being pregnant!?!?! always swore to my best mate i wouldnt be like that, yet every morning at work i get an email asking how i am and its SO DAMN HARD not to mention something pregnancy related already! dont think ill have anyone but you guys to talk to by the time i hit 2nd Tri! x

 

[gemgem77]

Ha ha I am exactly the same!!!! I have always loved talking about it even before I fell anyway. I used to make my mate go over the whole story of how she went into labour and then bringing the baby home whenever I saw her lol
Has anyone else already started touching their tummys a lot? I can't stop it feels right lol

 

[hakunamatata]

It never really bothered me. I always asked my pregnant friend how she was doing and fully expected to get some report on a doctor's visit or a pic of a scan.

 

[cricket in VA]

Yeah - those who aren't TTC have no clue what you're going through. I certainly didn't before I started! I probably said some very inconsiderate things too...although def not about mc! I had several friends go through them (all with healthy babies shortly thereafter), so I knew it was a touchy subject. I think many people who are drawn to these sorts of forums tend to be those who have experienced loss, which makes it seem like there are a VERY high percentage of mc. All that being said, I can't wait until next week either! One more day to the 5 week mark, Gem! Here's hoping the next 7 days fly by spotting free

 

[cricket in VA]

Oh, and I'm totally touching my tummy all the time. Mostly to unbutton my pants!

 

[Gemini85]

Yeah - those who aren't TTC have no clue what you're going through. I certainly didn't before I started! I probably said some very inconsiderate things too...although def not about mc! I had several friends go through them (all with healthy babies shortly thereafter), so I knew it was a touchy subject. I think many people who are drawn to these sorts of forums tend to be those who have experienced loss, which makes it seem like there are a VERY high percentage of mc. All that being said, I can't wait until next week either! One more day to the 5 week mark, Gem! Here's hoping the next 7 days fly by spotting free

VERY good point that those who have suffered MC are more likely to come on a forum!

 

[Bernadette87]

Ha ha I am exactly the same!!!! I have always loved talking about it even before I fell anyway. I used to make my mate go over the whole story of how she went into labour and then bringing the baby home whenever I saw her lol
Has anyone else already started touching their tummys a lot? I can't stop it feels right lol

I can't seem to keep my hand of my belly for more than a minute! I've begun to relax a bit as I say them words "pregnant" on my digital. How is everyone feeling today?

I've had a bit of an emotional few days as I haven't felt preggers (even though I've POAS sooooo many times and seen my BFP appear!) but since my digital I've felt so happy! Last night I begun to feel pulling in my pelvis and hips; still got it today as well. Must be my body preparing for my bump! I've also got slightly sensitive BBs, not sore, but just enough to notice them when I come down the stairs

Just a little intro about me I'm 24 and this is our first child, I've been trying to read through all the old posts to catch up might take me a while though!