So I talked to my husband and he said, "Yeah, it's your third, but it's my first." So we are going to do one of those co-ed backyard "baby-qs" that incorporates the guys. Which is good because then I can invite the guys from jiu-jitsu.
That said, I am checking the coronavirus news every day and if it's spreading in Chicago by then, I probably won't do a shower/sprinkle/baby-q/whatever even if someone offers to throw one for me, I will hide in my house and avoid social functions as much as possible until this baby is out. Really worrying.