Junebugs 2010

[MrsDramaQueen]

How much do your LO's weigh now?

I can't believe how big my LO's got in the last week. I get her weighed on Tuesday but she's completely changed from when she was born. She looked like me when i was a baby now she looks the splitting image of my OH. She's got longer and has been giggling, blowing raspberrys and copying my OH when he pokes his tongue at her. Lol.

My MIL and FIL visited today with a 9 year old relative. They text 45 minutes before they arrived to say they where on there way. We had to rush around getting ready i was so annoyed at the fact they just said they were coming and didn't ask if we were in or anything. When they got here they passed my LO around like a toy and last time they visited they let the 9 year old hold her. They didn't ask and i'd already said i didn't want her holding her. This time i said she was too big and kept moving about for her to hold her. Relatives can be so annoying sometimes x

 

[Delilah]

Hi everyone, I've not been around online our lives have turned into the chaos of new parenting and trying to work out what the hell has hit us. Nathan is amazing but he is such a big and hungry baby my nipples are really shot. My milk came in yesterday so I got fitted or a nursing bra. My bleeding is really manageable just like a light period already after 5 days. BUT OMG the crying.... I am finding it so hard.

Lili I cant believe that Nathan fitted into my bump either! I have lost 25lbs since Monday morning lol BUT I still have the same again to lose to get to pre-preg weight! My belly is like jello but luckily no stretch marks which amazes me given how much weight I put on - definitley down to the water volume I consume!

A midwife was supposed to come today to remove my section stitch and weigh Nathan but she didnt turn up.

Mrs Drama Queen I was in hospital after the birth for 2 nights / 3 days - they let me go home after visiting on Thursday night.

Thanks CJ sounds like you have your hands full it must be hard having to hold Zoe when she sleeps, Nathan is sleeping on his pillow when he's full and I'm trying to work out his habits that are forming - feeds once on one boob then gets sleepy for 30 minutes then cries and takes the other for 30 minutes and then sleeps for anything from 3-5 hours which is great. Hope your house viewings are going well. Hope that N likes his new job tomorrow xxx

Congrats Scotsgirl and RachM and the other ladies who have had their babies - Lili I cant belive Layla is 6 weeks and CJ that Zoe is 4 weeks where is time going....

Emma I cant belive that Jake slept through thats fab - and you have 3 gorgeous children so dont be sad how are the girls with Jake?

E&L have I missed something I thought you were doing well with bf? I am struggling through it hoping for it to improve by next week - my nipples are just so so so sore and I have to express milk to soften them before feeding him as it is so painful I cry when he first latches on.....

Tilly I have not had any pain with my wound but only on day 5 - however I'm out and about and have done cat pans, laundry and been bending up and down to change Nathan etc with no issues - hope it continues like this I seem to have a good healing capacity. Hope you are better soon.

DQ the visitors have been stressing us out too - we have had a constant stream - different people every day twice daily in hospital and then since Friday at home it is making us fight before everyone turns up over stupid things and its because we cant get things done. I have told people not to come this week until Thursday and we will limit to one person/group a day with a full day off for us on Saturday or Sunday. I love seeing people but it is hard work.

Need to respond to some personal messages on FB now and check email ready for tomorrow.

Marie xxx

 

[emmadrumm77]

D have you got lanisol cream for your nipples? Also if they hurt that much but some nipple shields from boots?
I have started to routine Jake now, he is only 2 weeks but was fed up with being tired all the time. Was easier than I thought it would be. He now sleeps 7pm, I wake him at 10.30 for a feed and he wakes at 7am. 3 is hard work but I bloody love it!!!!! The girls are fab with him too xxxxx

Right must finish this feed, as he is nearly finished! Xxxxx

 

[nightkd]

I use a nipple shield! It's fab... My nipples were basically receding into my breasts (partly because she was irritating them so much and partly because my boobs were growing and eating them!! ) so she was struggling to latch after a few days and getting extremely frustrated which was making ME frustrated... Now we use the shield all the time when she feeds from the boob. I expect I could get her to latch better now with just my nips as the shield has kind of pulled them out, iykwim?

BTW, not sure if I mentioned, we had paediatrician appointment...Bean 8lb 12oz and the paed said we didn't have to do the 2am feed unless she wakes up! I mean she does still wake up but once she starts taking enough milk to tide her over for a little while longer, we could end up dropping that 2am feed shortly.../eventually... I'm not holding a great amount of faith in her actually dropping the feed very soon, but he seems to think there's a chance, so that just makes me happy!

She rolled over the other day also and when I hold her legs up to change her diaper, she braces against me and rolls herself over... She's also supporting herself on her legs when we hold her (obviously only semi!) so I'm wondering if she's going to be like me and go straight for walking and skip crawling....

xxx

 

[E&L's mummy]

sorry ladies but im gonna have to vent somewhere......... my husband is an arse and his mother is doing my frigging head in
please feel free to just skip past my post as its gonna be long and dont feel you have to reply, i need to write it all down and i cant put anything on FB.

we have had a nightmare with DD2 going to sleep this week. we have been lucky to get her off by 10pm. not helped by the fact that i cant parent her in the way i want to or need to cos MIL is here. "you are going to have to break this cycle you know. she is getting over tired"....you fucking think so do you Mil!!!! cheers for that peice of wisdom!!! imm fed up of walking into my kitchen and thinking a bomb has gone of in it cos she has done something helpful like made lunch but then not cleared up after herself and left stuff out and crumbs every where or dirty spoons on the worktop etc etc etc etc.

and to top it off hubby decided he has to go looking in DD2's wardrobe for something he wants to find so wakes her up at 11pm and she hasnt been back to sleep since. i got so cross im now downstairs with her and DD3 (who is alseep afte her feed thank god!!) cos if im in the same room as him i will kill him. what a fucking tosser he is! why couldnt he wait till tomorrow when she wasnt alseep to look for it....oh yes i know why cos he wanted to find it and to hell with every one else. so looks like i will be lcky to get 2-3 hours sleep again tonight and in the meantime i have to deal with his mother again all day while he is a work.......
sorry again for the rant but im slowly but surely realising that my life is easier when im on my own with the girls. he has 3 weeks to convince me that its worth me moving to scotland cos at the moment i think i will just pack up me and the girls and go to my mum's. i really cant deal with his crap for much longer.

 

[Delilah]

Oh E&L nothing I can say apart from if you want to call to talk you know where I am - anytime is fine. You are under a tremendous amount of stress atm and you know that this isnt normal - you have a new baby, a house move, 2 other childrren and mumzilla to cope with at the same time - you are NORMAL to be at the end of your tether. Can you not ask MIL to take DD2 out for a while today to get her out of your hair and allow you some quiet time? And ask her to clear up after herself - if she doesnt like it TOUGH its your house, your hospitality etc etc etc I have mine coming from USA on 21 July but she is mainly ok, not sure how that will be with a new baby though cos she's used to us doing lots of things..... ring if you need to hon

Emma you are so lucky - Nathan sleeps well but we have long crying episodes every day, not always at the same time...

Might look into the nipple shields thanks xxx

 

[emmadrumm77]

Oh E&L I wish there was something I could do for you! It is soooo tough having 2 others to look after, and to top it of with MIL from he'll would push anyone to near breaking point. I use reverse psychology for my hubby and it works a treat! I said to him the other day as he was also being a f***ing useless bloke "I know this maybe out of order, and maybe I am over reacting a bit but would you mind just taking the girls out for an hour?" I smiled a pathetic smile......... Worked though!

 

[-Linn-]

Delilah I know the crying is hard but be happy E sleeps for a maximum of 3 hrs at a time, I am soooooo tired again today. She always went back down but I am sooooo tired it's unreal! Does he cry for long? Just cause he is hungry and then will settle with food?

Try that lansinoh cream, but I must say if he latches on perfectly it won't hurt. With O I was hurting so much and this time it hardly ever hurts!!

Mrs DramaQueen my LO was 6lbs14 at birth then 7lbs4 at 11 days... last week at 3 weeks she was 8lbs5 and today she is 4 weeks and I will get her weighed later, will let you know how much she was!! All I know is that she is getting proper chubby!

hugs E&L!!

And Emma I am not talking to you anymore, you are soooo lucky! My baby absolutely won't sleep all night, routine or not lol... but I never expected that, at least she doesn't cry cause that's the worst for me, as I feel so helpless when I can't stop it!

 

[Delilah]

I think he is latching on ok - they said its just the amount of feeding he needs. I got some Phillips Avant nipple cream but not Lansinoh although this was the one I was going to get in the first place. Thanks. I'm trying to do some work while he is asleep now for a while he is under your mobile in his big cotbed Linn listening to the sounds and will hopefully sleep for a little while before his next feed!

Mxx

 

[emmadrumm77]

Linn..........I wish I hadn't said anything last night!!! serves me right......he has been a perfect baby but last night woke EVERY hour then slept 5am to 8am. Think his 2 week growth spurt has begun!!! Also OMG the noisy farts!!! How much wind can come out if one so small..... Amazing!

Will not be so quick to assume a routine until he has been good for at least a week............apart from that he is fab xxxx

 

[-Linn-]

Delilah if he is latching on well then your nipples should be used to it by the time he is 2 weeks. I am sometimes feeding for hrs.. this is how she gained nearly 1lb in one week. I bet we won't be able to overtake nathan though!!

hope he won't cry so much anymore, unfortunetely it is normal.. I read they cry for an average of 5 hrs a day, mine has maybe 5 mins a day... she starts up several times esp when she wants someone to pick her up but then she settles within seconds of taking her or putting her on the breast. So I am thinking to make up that average somebody elses kid must be screaming for 10 hrs a day.

Don't work too much, glad he likes his mobile! I am getting a pink one this week but got a drape over her crib and it's upstairs so don't really need it yet.

Emma I will try to get some routine of maybe bathing her at night and then putting her upstairs already but she always sleep at random times in the evening so I can't wake her for bath and feed IYKWIM as she would be grumpy and not feed much! I tried if I wake her for a feed she hardly takes anything and then comes again within an hour or so.

Ok I am your friend again, sorry he woke so often! Here that happened for a couple of nights too. Proper growth spurt shouldn't be until 6 weeks though. So hopefully it was a one off. xxx

of course he is fab, babies are sooo cute. E smiled at me again this morning, was sooo cute. But she doesn't do it all the time yet. O did it from 2 weeks and she smiled sooo much, as much as she cried lol

 

[MrsDramaQueen]

Morning Ladies,

I got 6 hours sleep last night. My LO slept from 11.30pm - 2.30 am and then from 3am - 6am. I just hope it continues.

I have no visitors today. I had a bit of an emotional day yesterday. I've been worried that i've been neglecting my OH. We take it in shifts at night to do feeds so hardly get time together then. During the day it's hard to have a cuddle when one of us has got the baby. She cries when i try and have a cuddle with OH when shes there. Haven't got any family that can help. My mum hasn't even visited. Hopefully when my LO settles at night were get more time together. Does anyone else feel like this?

I've also been worrying about work. Before i went on maternity leave i thought i would miss work and the people, but i'm now dreading going back and having to put my LO in nursery 3 days a week. My OH has reduced his hours so that he is with her 2 days but i have no choice but to go back full time. My hours are flexible so i can go in early and finish at 3.30 or 4. It's gunna kill me. I've got to go in for the day this Thursday. It will be hard being away all day. I wish i didn't have to go back.

Whats everyone else doing at the end of your maternity leave?

Sorry for the long post x

 

[Delilah]

I will go to mothercare and get some Lansinoh later as I have to go into town when Paul gets back to drive me about 4.30pm.

Nathan is sleeping in his moses basket in our bedroom but I have got my laptop in the nursery and he is in his cot bed atm just lying there trying to doze off - he has had another feed since I last posted I feel like a milk machine!

DQ I am working throughout - we are so busy and I have client events that we have organised that I have to promote. Luckily I can work from home until I am able to drive/get a routine in place which helps, all I need is email access, broadband and a phone so I'm good to go. I am finding I can do one or two things when he sleeps and have to adapt the way my concentration works. I am finding if I say OK I will compose this email or list on certain directories etc then I can do that in between feeds and feel like I am making progress.

Is it normal to lose so much weight so quickly - I lost another 3lbs today so in a week I have lost 28lbs I have still got alot to go but am pleased that I am shrinking so quick!

I am going to ring the midwife now to find out if they plan to come today to remove my stitch....

Have a good day everyone.

Mxxx

 

[Junebug_CJ]

Delilah, it gets better! I was using nipple cream (cocoa butter based one and a beeswax based one) every time for the first 2 weeks and I think it helped, but it was PAINFUL! Her latch was fine, I just have really sensitive nipples and she was feeding every 2-3 hours. Now, I hardly feel it anymore other than the first 3 sucks. It is worth it though, I think! Even nursed in the restaurant last night, so much easier than prepping formula

So I think Z has reflux, which may explain why she prefers sleeping upright on my chest during the day and propped up on me at night. We got a wedge for both her bassinette and crib, to elevate the head. Despite this, last night she still had some gagging, gasping for air and coughing, all symptoms of reflux... She spits-up/vomits with every feed. I am trying to keep her upright for 20 minutes after each feed to help. Seeing the doctor tomorrow for her 1 month apt, will beg for medications as I'm terrified she'll choke in her sleep and stop breathing... She's already done it a few times in the last week where she gasps for air and I have to pick her up so that she can start breathing again...

Last night, she went to bed at 8 and I joined her at 9PM. We slept until 11PM, then from midnight until 2:30, then from 3:30 to 6:30AM. So I got 7.5 hours of sleep, interrupted of course. I think the solution is to go to bed earlier with her like I did last night, to get an extra couple of hours!

E&L, hugs hun. I can't imagine what you're going through, I agree with everything Delilah said... I'm here if you need to chat on FB... I told DH last night I was going to pack up and go to my mom's place for a couple of weeks because he was being an idiot, don't know what I would do if I had my MIL and a difficult toddler to deal with on top of DH

She's sleeping in her bassinette now, just put her down at 7AM again (it's not 8AM), had a quick shower (feel sooooo much better, it's around 32'C with humidity in the house), ate and now will go back to bed for a short snooze before she wakes up again...

Hugs to everyone!!!

Edit: oh and D, I'm really jealous of your rapid weight loss! I seem stuck at 20 lbs, still have 18 to go but it hasn't budged in 2 weeks

 

[-Linn-]

Delilah I lost tons, in fact I got nothing left to lose, here it's the not eating much and breastfeeding that makes it all come off, the more tired I feel the less I eat. I always notice on a good day I eat so much more.

CJ bloody men,,,they are all idiots lol!

I agree BF is so worth any pain, I just loooove it, never thought I could.. I was dreading it when I was pregnant and now I am so happy I am still doing it. It kept the baby blues away and hopefully my periods as well Wouldn't know though as I am still bleeding. It has been light for over 3 weeks lol... but it won't stop!!

Gosh CJ you got it hot too, my house is only haha 29'C but also humid. Baby just wouldn't settle again so I was brave (as it's so hot) and put her in my close baby carrier and she slept within 2 minutes, did some dishes for 10 mins to make sure she was off and now put her in her basket, fab fab fab!! But carrying in this heat is not that great.

 

[lili24]

Hey girls..

DramaQueen my LO weighs over 9lbs now, not sure exactly, I will get her weighed tomorrow. She has also changed so much since she was born, looks much more grown up and not really like a newborn any more! I agree the visitors can be very annoying. Once your LO settles better and you get more of a routine you should be able to spend more time with OH. I feel for you having to go back to work so soon, I don't think I could do it yet.

D that is bad that the midwife didnt turn up! I was also doing laundry and bending up and down as soon as I got home, I found the recovery much easier than expected. I think it is normal for some people to lose the weight quickly, I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight now, and I have been amazed at how the womb skrinks back down so fast!

KD that's a fab weight gain.. Hopefully she will drop that feed soon. We used to have one at 2am but Layla has gradually pushed it further and now we don't really have one until 4/5am. Last night she went til 6am

E&L

Oh CJ hope you can get it sorted if it is reflux! Layla is often sick after a feed but not as often as Z.. I keep her propped up for a while afterwards too. Does she also get hiccups a lot? Layla gets them after every feed and gets really frustrated with them. I HATE the hiccups!

Linn what is that new ticker.. breastfeeding? xxx

 

[-Linn-]

yeah Lili it is breastfeeding. My baby gets hiccups so much and she also coughs often when I am feeding her so maybe she got reflux too? Do they all have it?

I had her weighed today and she is now 8lbs13 so she put on another 8 ounces this week. She went up on the centile line and is now 25th she started at 7th centile

She still did not poo, it has been 8 days... noone else who experienced anything like this before? Think I might post this in the Baby Club! HV said it should be fine as she is gaining well so must be getting enough milk but referred me to GP just to feel her tummy, so off to see the GP tomorrow morning.

Lili if Layla now sleeps until 6am you're not my friend anymore I'm only kidding that's fab, but I am soooo tired I feel sick right now!

 

[purple01]

Hi everyone! Very tired today, Ben has been quite demanding the past few days. He's been feeding loads and hasn't been sleeping very well, im hoping it's just a growth spurt and that he'll settle down soon. I want to get into some sort of feed/sleep/bath routine but just seems impossible at the moment. Hopefully he'll have a good night tonight!

Wishing everyone lots of sleep and happy babies xx

 

[-Linn-]

purple here a routine is impossible too, I can't wake her up cause I decided it's her bathtime, but we will get there eventually!

Thanks can do with lots of sleep, definitely not what I have been getting!!!

 

[emmadrumm77]

Linn if the HV says that it is nothing to worry about then you have to trust her. Jake has 2 poo's a day so I would worry, but they are all different!
What's a Breast feeding ticker then?

Now off to wake the lad for a feed as been asleep since 7 xxxx