Junebugs 2010

[MrsDramaQueen]

Delilah my lo crys after a feed and wants more but never takes it when i give it to her. Today when she asks for more i've given her a dummy and it seems to have settled her. She even laid on her mat for 30 mins awake sucking it while i ate dinner so i didn't have to eat to her crys.

When they cry all the time it is hard. When your tired at night and they won't settle and you can't do anything with them you forget all the good moments. Many a night i've sat crying when shes been crying.

Today M has started pulling her own hair and wondering why it hurts. She looks round wondering whose doing it crying.

I really hope i get good nights sleep tonight. OH has to work tomorrow and i had so little sleep last night i'm gunna struggle with the feeds.

Delilah well done on sending your friend away because she hadn't rang first. I wish i had your strength with some of our visitors. People seem to get funny when you tell them your busy. My boss rang the other day and i was in the middle of a feed, answering the phone one handed trying to stop M from crying. I told her i had to go as she wanted to chat and catch up. She was really funny. Some times you just have to tell them x

 

[nightkd]

Today has been a bad day and the poor little mite has a red bum and diorreaha. I just called the post natal ward about his crying and they said call the out of hours gp but now he is asleep - he hasnt slept all day just cried, pooped and fed.

Sorry for moaning because this seems like all the good things dont exist and they do - I love watching him when he's feeding and when he first wakes up and when he's sleeping and I am amazed that we made this perfect little baby.

Could it be the sore bum/diorreaha that is making him cry so much? I am waiting for the out of hours gp to call us back now. I feel so helpless.

Everyone needs a good moan now and again (I should know...I'm glad my DH is a patient man ) and I've had a bit of a rubbishy few hours...

I feel kind of bad because Bean is NOT a terrible baby (DH was a very very fussy, unhappy baby (MIL thinks because she was under so much stress during her third trimester) so people kept commenting on how she could end up being like that...if it was genetic... ) and she does sleep a lot of the day, otherwise she lays in her bed and looks around and stays quiet...but then she has occasions of just screaming the place down for no apparent reason, which can reduce me to tears/frustration very quickly at times - she is being weird with her feedings; I give her 3oz and sometimes she'll take another oz, but then she may continue screaming (DH gave her that dreaded 5th oz last night, despite me warning him not to...it quietened her down and she went to sleep and then threw EVERYTHING back up, just as I predicted... -sigh-)...so she seems to think she's still hungry, even when her tummy is full, meaning crying and crying and crying until she's digested enough that she can have another little drop of milk to send her to sleep.... =/

Have you utterly ruled out gas? I burped her a couple of times today and she continued screaming, so I gave her about 1/4 oz and tried burping her again (DH has more luck with her over his shoulder, I have more luck with her leaning forward on my knee) and she let out this huge belch She seemed happier then, so I swaddled her really tightly and she (after moaning for about 45 mins, but not actually crying) went to sleep and is still asleep 2 hours later

He could be overtired by this point...which we've had a couple of times...or it could well be the sore botty - breastmilk is meant to be one of the most effective treatments for diaper rash/skin complaints, so maybe smearing some of that on his bum? Fortunately the hospital gave me a bottle of aloe vera moisturising stuff for my back (MW rubbed me a bit raw while I was in labour It was helpful at the time!! Plus I reacted a bit to the glue on the tape they attached my Epidural with..) which can be used on diaper rash, as my girly had a very sore, red bum the other day...just all of a sudden it took it away a treat!

Whoa! That turned out long... Hope you can figure something out soon, it's awful when they just keep crying and don't respond to you doing anything...

xx

ETA: Oops, just re-read that he was sleeping Hope he stayed/stays that way for long enough to let you have a rest I feel so much better having had some quiet for a couple of hours now!!!

 

[-Linn-]

MrsDramaQueen I feel the same my LO can't settle after a feed sometimes, she is not always crying so much but fidgets lots and then starts crying and stops and starts.. I cried this morning (4am-6am) too, I thought I had gone mental, but glad I am not the only one. You will be fine tomorrow, just sleep when she sleeps the housework will always still be waiting later!! I am the only one who can feed my LO and during the day I got my other DD to look after so I know how hard it is, but you can do anything for your LO, trust me you will be fine! just think when you are awake at night and she won't settle that there is lots of other mums out there doing and feeling exactly the same as you!!

 

[tillykins]

to everyone tonight!
E & L, have you tried baby massage classes, i found it really therapeutic when i had my dd and plan to do it again with Dylan, its was really calming for us both, i would see your gp too, i had a touch of feeling very low early in my pregnancy due to an accumulation of things! Its hard work being a new mummy especially with all you have going on!

D, Dylans poo is like diarrhea constantly and im breastfeeding, i use sudocrem on every bum change just to make sure he doesn't get sore. Has the doc got back to you?

Linn, i hope you get a bit of sleep tonight xxx

 

[nightkd]

BTW, my engagement/wedding rings fit properly again

They've been fitting for a few days now, but I'm still excited! I was worried they'd have to be sent off to be resized!

Sorry, very OT!

 

[-Linn-]

KD my LO is exactly the same with feeding, they just can't get off to sleep sometimes... but hey your OH was not terrible... there is not such thing as terrible babies, they are all just different, but when they cry it's not to annoy anyone, my DD1 was crying lots too, this one doesn't and pregnancies were the same.. some babies just cry more. I know a friend who was very stressed during her pregnancy and her baby is the quietest little boy who never cries! Even if bean is easy to look after most of the time, it is normal to feel frustrated when they scream

 

[emmadrumm77]

D bf babies do have runny poo's. As long as they are not green in colour then he is fine xxxx
can't remember what else I had to say!!!!! My memory is scarily bad!
E&L........ Big hugs Hun, you take it easy Hun! We are all here for you whenever you need to rant xxxxx

 

[Delilah]

Thanks girls - on Monday Nathan was great – he fed for 1.5 hours then slept for 3 hours, same again and slept for 4 hours during the day but yesterday OMG.

I tried everything - winding, rocking, singing, vibrations - KD Paul is the same he is better with him on the shoulder, me on the lap! But he carried on crying ALL day/night/early hours this morning apart from when he was feeding and he wouldn’t sleep at all he was in so much discomfort. So at 2am we said enough is enough and took him to A&E because the emergency doctor finishes at 10pm for our town - useful eh!

We were both at our wits end and couldnt help him. BUT he fell asleep in his car seat on the way there and after waiting an hour to see someone after the triage nurse looked him over we decided to come home because he was still sleeping. We got home at 3.30am and put him in his basket and he slept until 8.30am ... then I fed him and he went back to sleep at 10am so not sure what was wrong - he is exhausted and went through 25 nappies yesterday and 8 outfits so I'm hoping it was just a bug and a sore bum from soiling.... the antibiotics they gave me also list diarrhea as a side affect but as usual nobody tells you this. He is still asleep now I hope he is better today - looking at them cry is so hearbreaking....

DQ I am a woman on a mission re visitors! Another friend sent a text last night to tell me she and another friend would come at 8pm tonight to see Nathan! I dont think so! I told her we are asking people to leave by 7.30/8pm so we can get ready for the next day and could she come at the weekend or one evening next week. We are limiting visitors to one group each evening and 2 on a weekend day with one day to ourselves. All close friends and family have seen him now and he's going to be here for a while so hopefully this will work - especially as I'm still working its impossible to do everything and Linn you are right about the housework - it'll get done when it gets done!

Hope you all have a good day - my boobs are solid again I am going to try to express milk I think tonight.

Btw I love all your baby pics that you put on facebook - we are all so lucky to have our precious bundles xxxx

Mxxx

 

[lili24]

E&L Maybe you will feel a little better once the MIL has gone? You have a lot on your plate at the moment. We're all here for you. If you need help don't be afraid to ask xxxx

I would say I was very stressed in pregnancy, well during the last 10 weeks anyway with all those problems I had but Layla is so chilled out! So I'm not sure if there's a connection.. I think just all babies are different!

D I think Nathan could just be very hungry, he is a big baby and is probably just finding his feet with feeding.. it's all so new. Layla was much smaller and still there were times when she wanted feeding constantly. It does get easier though. When they are so new it feels like all they do is cry, eat, sleep and poo! But gradually, and as they start to socialise more, you start to get something back and it becomes more rewarding. That's just my experience so far anyway! I agree with Linn though he might want to feed so much because there is nothing else to do. Layla can start looking for food even when she doesn't really need it if she gets bored.. Also he might just want to suck for comfort, does he have a dummy? We don't use one but I know so many people find them helpful!

You are doing so well to be working now although I bet you could have done with a break, but it will get much easier.

It's fab that your rings fit again KD! I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight but that doesn't mean all of my clothes are fitting again. My hips seem to be much bigger, and although I'm the same weight as before, nothing seems to be in the same place any more

Layla done a poo in the bath last night, thank god I wasn't sharing a bath with her haha. It's so glamourous being a Mum. She slept 7 hours straight after her bath though.. then woke at 5:30 for a feed.. Went back to sleep at 6 and then woke at 10 for the day. She's doing really well because we used to have a feed at 2am and she has gradually pushed it longer and longer, I'm very happy.. Sleep is gooooooooooood.

 

[lili24]

Awwwwwwwwwww D, I missed your post when I was writing. In that case he probably had a little tummy ache with all the diarrhea.. Poor baby. Glad he had a nice stretch of sleep when you got back though. Today will be a better day hopefully xxxxxxxxxx

 

[-Linn-]

Delilah my DD1 also got diarrhea from the antibiotics I was on after the birth, but they had warned me of this, he must have been in a lot of pain.

What a night I had, DD1 kept me awake until 1.30am then DD2 woke at 2.30am and I am soooo tired... aaaahhhhhh that's kids for you isn't it?!

Now DD1 is in bed, she must sleep, pleeeeeaase! And I am in bed with DD2 who is feeding and then will hopefully sleep so I can sleep when they are both asleep... what a great plan, bound to go wrong lol

hope nathan is better today xxx

 

[emmadrumm77]

Linn..............hope you had a good sleep xxxxxxxxxxx

D............how's Nathan today?

I am getting about 6hrs a night now, which is fine! Can cope with that................if the only thing i can moan about is tiredness then that is fab xxx

Big hugs to all xxxxxx

Got the HV coming today at 4pm to weigh him........................am interested to see what he has gained, the last was at 10days old and he was 8lb 4oz. He is now 17days old........................OMG where have those 17 days gone!!!!!

 

[purple01]

Sorry if this has been mentioned previously, i just skim read through the other posts....

I just wanted to share something, it might be something obvious but it was something I didn't realise. Our little Ben was getting very grouchy, crying lots and not sleeping, but he was acting like he wanted food all the time. The health visitor said to feed him as often as he wants, so thats what I was doing. This meant I was constantly feeding and winding and when I tried to get him to sleep he just cried unless I plugged him back on the boob, neither of us got much sleep and we had a few difficult days.

Well I read that when babies have wind they often act like they are hungry, giving all the same signs. This is because often they can't tell the difference between hunger pain and wind pain and will latch on for comfort, but will then overfeed (causing them to sick up lots) and making the wind worse.

Since reading that I have been feeding him (about 15/20 mins), then winding and doing nappy change, then doing another 15 min feed followed by winding. Then if he's acted hungry after that i've just winded him some more and kept comforting him by holding him in different positions until he gets sleepy.

He seems much happier now, no screaming, no constant feeding and has put on a good amount of weight the past few days. He's happy so im happy

Like I said this might be something obvious, but I am amazed how a simple change to what I was doing has improved things. I know this won't be the answer for everyone, but just something to keep in mind.

xxx

 

[-Linn-]

Emma they only just went to sleep lol.. and I was suddenly starving, so eating now and then hopefully!!

 

[emmadrumm77]

purple01.....................it is good to share any advice! thankyou xxx

Well i saw the HV and he has put on 5oz...................not as much as some of yours, but she said that this is fine. I also asked if she could do his length as everyone keeps saying how long he is...............................he is 55cm!!!!!

 

[emmadrumm77]

just realised i have to add J to child benefit....................how i do this?

 

[-Linn-]

Emma there is a child benefit pack in the bounty pack you get from the hospital, if you don't have that anymore, I got a spare one shall I post it? Otherwise the midwife would have a new one. I thought I had thrown mine away with the other rubbish from the bounty pack so they gave me another one. Then I found the pack again. Maybe you can do it online, ask google!

Hey 5 ounces is good, isn't it meant to be 5-6 oz a week? E put on so much cause I am feeding her all night long lol...

 

[emmadrumm77]

Bf J from 7-8pm on both boobs, then at 9.30 thought I would express just to see how much I could and only managed 1oz from each boob!!!
I have frozen it, but just seemed so little! I hope he doesn't wake soon as I am totally empty!!!

 

[-Linn-]

emma often when you express you get much less than baby can get, it is not an indicator of how much milk you got! when I pump i can get 3 oz but it takes me forever to get a let down, baby gets milk out within seconds. i am sure you're not empty!

 

[emmadrumm77]

Ooooooh i hope not!!!! He wont wake i dont think till 2 or 3 now. I was just interested to see what i had in there. I suppose if i was to do it after a few hours would be much more................am not that worried as he is putting onb weight and seems happy enough. Was just suprised there was not more. Thanks though hun, i suppose you are right, as when he latches on sometimes i get 2 let downs xxxx

Right am now off to bed! Hubby out in the pub as watched the footie there, and wont be home for a while.....................must get sleep while i can xxxxxxxxxxx