legal crap + fathers rights. ANGRY RANT!

[Dezireey]

just my opinion and dont want to upset anyone or anyone to think im being offensive... but in my opinion the law protects the child the mother and the father ... and if anyone women does follow the direction of a court and breaches a contact order then i think its un reasonable to want other areas of law to be enforced ... you cant pick and choose these things you eithier follow the law or you dont. if everybody who decided they dont agree with a particular law broke it then the whole country would be in a even worse state than it already! ... i guess a lot of what im sayin here is comin from the fact that if the mother of my little girl decided not to obide by the contact a court put in place then what option would i be left with?? how would i ever see my girl?

I think the exception here that is mentioned is probably safety and security of the baby e.g no mother (or father for that matter) would want a partner who, e.g. takes drugs or drinks heavily, actually taking care of their child alone...and overnight. It's just heartbreaking for a Mother to be told to hand over her precious baby that she has nurtured, loved and cared for to (sometimes) an FOB who has serious issues and /or problems that will obviously affect the direct welfare of a child. Just because he is the biological father doesn't mean he automatically knows how to look after an infant properly. It doesn't help when they appear from nowhere after the birth, with no involvement in the pregnancy or birth, no experience in taking care of a baby previously perhaps and no knowledge on how to feed or look after a child safely etc,yet they go to court to ask to have e.g a three month old stay overnight twice a week and they haven't even got a place for the child to sleep in or something, let alone nappies, formula etc? this just freaks a new mother out. That's when Mum's can get desperate or seriously think of breaking the law I reckon.

 

[daveww]

the previous poster makes a very good point and if i was in the same situation i would probably think the same. the way the law works tho i think helps good fathers but also is not good for good mothers and bad fathers , if that makes sense .... to the mothers who dont agree what would you change or suggest would be a better way of managin the law to ensure good fathers get the access and bad fathers dont?