Let's talk sex

[noshowjo]

Are u ladies enjoying sex now in 2nd tri ? I thought I'd get in to it but I keep feeling baby kicking which I really off putting .

Also my husband been watching porn which I know men do but when pregnant it makes me really insecure .

 

[Mushymilkfor2]

I still enjoy it enough to do it often. It doesn't bother me all that much.

My husband watches porn all the time, and it always bugs me. It's easier to just let it be what it is than worry, stress, or harass them about it.

 

[newlywed2013]

I just am never in the mood anymore. We've only had sex a few times since we got pregnant. I am just so tired all the time, the only time we really have the time to do it is at bedtime.
I feel bad about it, Lol. Luckily he doesnt push it, doesnt even try really.

 

[tinymumma]

Painful We still do the deed very often (OH has a really high sex drive) But the initial couple of minutes are really damn uncomfortable. Feeling bub move is a massive mood killer for me too, OH doesn't seem to notice though.
As for the porn, it's always best to just not let it get to you. I know that may be easier said than done but it's not that he doesn't find you unattractive, he's just male. I've never had an issue with it but then my OH has only watched it once since we've been together. Men are very visual and need to get their rocks off more than we do (blue balls). A lot of the time, thinking just takes up too much concentration for them. Maybe take a trip to the sex shop, for a little bit of added vavoom? There are certain positions that disturb bub less too, you just have to find them. All in all, sex in pregnancy really isn't all it's cracked up to be. A lot of us are left waiting for this amazing libido we were promised when in actual fact, were tired, achey and feel just plain blah.

 

[odouglass]

No, I do not enjoy it as much as I did at the beginning of the 2nd trimester and end of 1st. I just do not have the desire for it-- it hurts now and is just all around uncomfortable. I can't stand certain parts of me being touched- namely my chest area... plus feeling baby move is a turn off.

My husband does not watch porn, and I would definitely be bothered if he did. I know he's a male and all but it would still really bug me.

 

[odouglass]

Oh and the last time we had sex, I had some spotting. It freaked me out as I just got over a yeast infection (ANOTHER) and I had never had that before. However, it stopped so I am not really worried anymore. However, I am worried to have sex again thinking that the spotting would happen -- maybe that is why it is uncomfortable!?

 

[Zeri]

We haven't done it since 7 wks preggo, which is a long time. I feel bad abt it, but just haven't been in the mood, really. Dh tried to initiate a few times but hasn't bothered to lately. I think it would be uncomfortable as lying on my back makes me feel heavy and squashed, not to mention Dh on top of me, which is our usual position in sex.

I had a high libido in 2nd tri last time. It's picking up slowly this time around.

 

[Linda23]

I want it constantly but OH not so much. We've both been under a lot of stress (forced to move, finding a place, making the move, apartment wasn't cleaned/repaired before we moved in so doing that too, my job moved, etc). Plus he started working out a lot again cuz he refused to gain weight with me lol so he's exhausted by time bedtime hits. I've brought it up a few times and he said he's too stressed or tired but nothings changed. I don't push it I just take matters into my own hands lol

 

[ashleyg]

I've always had a high sex drive before pregnancy and it's definitely still high lol. We have sex almost every night. He definitely isn't complaining

 

[StarBrites]

We still have sex at least once a week (it was almost everyday before pregnancy). I've had terrible nausea and vomiting the whole pregnancy so that doesn't help any. I've also had a pretty tender tummy. The sex has been nice for him because I'm all swollen and stuff but afterwards for me my vagina is on fire

 

[Jillie89]

The word SEX just makes me feel sick lol. I do however give in to hubby once a week to keep him satisfied, but honestly after 3 years of infertility and so much sex (in the aim of trying to get pregnant but it never working), I could go without sex for the rest of my life! No drive for it at all and now my tummy is getting bigger, bub moving around more and reflux getting worse, it makes for it to be quite uncomfortable. I often cry and say I am so sorry to my hubby. I feel terrible for him to be stuck with me with no desire or drive for sex!

 

[vickyandchick]

Before I got pregnant we used to have sex at least 4/5 times a week. In the beginning, when I was so tired and also getting up at 5.30am to go to work, I hardly had any energy. Then when I hit about 12 weeks (I think?) my ridiculously high sex drive returned with full force By that point though my OH was exhausted every day from his job so was never really in the mood, boo! We've had sex since obviously but mainly on his day off, occasionally he'd just appear and wave it in my face
It's also hard for me to feel attractive cause I always had big boobs and a big arse and a tiny waist, now I'm just huge and round everywhere so never feel sexy He never had a problem if I gave him oral every other day to cheer him up though, I wonder why

 

[Sunseal]

Me and the OH still do it fairly regularly.. probably 2-3 times a week. I just feel so sore down there. It doesn;t matter how lubed up I am, when he first goes in it feels like a burning hot stick being pushed up there and it takes a few minutes for the feeling to wear off!
I am very horny all the time though -_-

 

[Elsa50501]

We have been doing it less frequently, but this most recent time we had to try new positions until I could be comfortable. Super weird,lol. I felt my uterus tighten up at one point in the middle (probably BH, I've had some on and off) and had to decide whether or not to mention it. I didn't want to spoil the mood or freak him out, but it went away. Odd thinking about a third little person when in the bedroom.

 

[Zeri]

The word SEX just makes me feel sick lol. I do however give in to hubby once a week to keep him satisfied, but honestly after 3 years of infertility and so much sex (in the aim of trying to get pregnant but it never working), I could go without sex for the rest of my life! No drive for it at all and now my tummy is getting bigger, bub moving around more and reflux getting worse, it makes for it to be quite uncomfortable. I often cry and say I am so sorry to my hubby. I feel terrible for him to be stuck with me with no desire or drive for sex!

If you want to increase it, postpregnancy, you can try Maca. I've had low libido since coming odf the pill but the Maca helped a lot.

 

[AllyTiel]

Got to say I'm more in the mood second trimester than the first.
Ah my gah, so many women here have such low expectations of their husbands! I'm so sick of the excuse, well he's a man so he's going to watch porn. No. Not all men watch porn. Mine has a few times since we've been married and it hurt me so much and he told me he wouldn't anymore. And he doesn't. We don't think it's okay as it's lusting after other women when you have a woman you are married to. Almost a form of cheating. Just cheating with your eyes. I do check his history now and again. Women should expect more respect than just accepting the norm. But if you don't give a care, then that's fine for you. I personally believe women just deserve better of their relationships

 

[MummyToAmberx]

its hit and miss with me due to sickness.

No watching porn in this house, me or nothing.

 

[MrsG_TTC42012]

My oh won't come near me! We have only done the deed 4 times in8 months, two of those I got pregnant (first was ectopic) last time was two months ago
I would every day and even when I talk to him about it he reassures me it isn't me but still nothing!

 

[noshowjo]

Thanks for resonates ladies . I do really want it but as someone said about uterus tightening , well with out sounding like my husband is the greatest sex god haha . I orgasim every time and my uterus goes rock hard . I mean I feel I feel the whole shape of baby .. Eeeeew it's weird .

And as for the porn issue . He says sorry it's just a relieve thing as he knows I find sex incomftable some times .

When I was pg with my youngest son I was like a rabbit always wanting it . Who knows maybe it will change soon .

 

[BabsJ]

I have to admit that it is usually the OH that initiates it. Hardly any sex in the first trimester, since I was feeling so ill all the time. My sickness continued into the second trimester, but ever since I actually got some meds that helps we've been having more sex.

Usually when he comes to bed, I've usually been in bed for a hour or so. It does feel weird though and since the bump is getting too big certain positions are a nono. Also my OH is quite well endowed down there, so he has to be more careful else it will hurt. He has to do more of the work, I feel like such a lazy bum I'd say 2-3 times a week on average for now.

As for the porn, ive never seen him watch it. His computer games and Xbox are his mistresses I on the other hand don't tolerate porn in my house.