Let's talk sex

[lovetocruise]

Ah my gah, so many women here have such low expectations of their husbands! I'm so sick of the excuse, well he's a man so he's going to watch porn. No. Not all men watch porn. Mine has a few times since we've been married and it hurt me so much and he told me he wouldn't anymore. And he doesn't. We don't think it's okay as it's lusting after other women when you have a woman you are married to. Almost a form of cheating. Just cheating with your eyes. I do check his history now and again. Women should expect more respect than just accepting the norm. But if you don't give a care, then that's fine for you. I personally believe women just deserve better of their relationships

Thank you! It's heartbreaking for me to read all of these posts. Porn is not acceptable for a married man. Yes, he is male, no that does not give him an excuse.
Long story short, my husband did have a problem with porn...eventually it took over our relationship and our sex life. It broke my heart when I couldn't get him up anymore, because he had been so desensitized to a real body. We sought counseling and are in a much better place than we ever were before because of it. He still sees a counselor just to keep himself on track and he wants me check up on him to make sure he hasn't backslid. I just don't want other women to end up hurt the way I was by turning the other way and pretending its not a big deal. It is!


Back to the topic, I want to have sex...we just haven't found a position that works for us with the bump..it always seems to be in the way...any tips?

 

[vickyandchick]

I agree with the whole porn thing, during our relationship my OH never watched porn.
He never had to as I was always raring to gorofl but those times I wasn't in the mood he's got a hand and an imagination, I don't understand why he'd need to watch it And if he had I know it would have been something that would have really upset me.
lovetocruise you could always try the spooning position, we mainly did it doggystyle (tmi) as I felt more comfortable that way because I don't look any different from the back and missionary was always so uncomfortable as my hips would start to ache or even lock at times

 

[kimmy04]

Hubby and I were very active when I was pregnant with my son. He was excited when I got pregnant again because I was always wanting it last time! This time has been a lot different. My sex drive went wayy down.. Maybe it's because I'm having a girl this time? Haha I don't know but I still try to have sex at least once or twice a week so he's not upset. But I had surgery a few weeks ago and was told no sex for 6 weeks!! I finally gave in to hubby's whining after 3 weeks and we took it really slow and things were fine

 

[kazine]

Only done it once since getting pregnant lol. Mainly because I didn't want to risk it in 1st tri with history of miscarriage and now I just plain don't want to. He doesn't watch porn though . I would be upset if he did.

 

[WDWJess]

We usually dtd once a week but every now and then it may be 2 weeks between sessions and he usually initiates it every time as my sex drive is quite low. Best position we have found is spooning which is great as it doesn't interfere with bump and he can play with me at the same time to help increase my pleasure (sorry if tmi?!)

 

[xQuinnx]

I think my sex drive is still there but what puts me off is that I seem to ache all over the next day :-/ which makes me anxious and puts me off having sex...it's damn annoying!!

 

[xQuinnx]

Also my husband watches porn well used to and I'm presuming still does and weirdly that doesn't bother me but looking at pics of half naked women (porn stars, models whatevr) makes me feel insecure :-/

 

[zenaa]

I havent done it since pregnancy, I feel so bad I actually feel like it since the beginning of second trimester but history of miscarriage and SCH first trimester I feel like im going to bleed the minute I decide to do it. I feel so sorry for my poor DH and I actually want it as well but im so scared

 

[heidi87814]

Sex? What's sex? I'm starting to feel like one of those moms your kids assume you are - A person who never had sex except to conceive.

Hubby gets home super late these days and I'm rarely awake by then. I wouldn't be surprised if he watches porn but it doesn't bother me. He needs his release from somewhere I guess and I don't see it as him being deceptive or anything.

 

[pisces_sun]

In between throwing up, I was 100% down to have sex in my first trimester. My sex drive completely died in my second trimester. I am single now, so I don't have anyone to have sex with anyways....which is good, because I'm pretty sure I would throw up everywhere if I tried. I don't feel like I'm a sexual being anymore. I think it is creepy when men find me attractive. I always say that I don't have a vagina anymore... I have a child passage.

 

[Kern]

I'd love to but I've become very sensitive down there and it really hurts. Which sucks because I want it but then I'm reminded why I haven't done it in so long. I feel bad for my husband because I don't want to dry up and leave him hanging during this pregnancy but ouch!!!!! I also encourage my husband to watch porn because it is not healthy for men to keep it held in for too long but he says he doesn't enjoy doing that. I think he's just trying to be sensitive to my feelings but I've told him it doesn't bother me one bit.

 

[Unexpected212]

Whats acceptable in everyones marriage is different. No one can say porn isn't acceptable in a marriage only that it's not acceptable in YOUR marriage.

I don't mind porn at all. We watch it together. Hubby never watches it that I know of he'd rather come to me and if he does ever watch it or take care of himself he never makes it obvious. BUT if I rejected him for sex and he did watch it and take care of himself I wouldn't mind. As long as he wasn't watching it all the time and came to me FIRST.

 

[xnewxmummyx]

I love sex ATM but unfortunately it doesn't love me I get really bad cramps after I orgasm, which is every time, and I get cross with myself for doing it again lol. I say we have it 4/5x a month. Oh and we watch porn together. Or I watch it by myself ha ha. Not sure about OH.

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