Lightly slapping baby's hand to discipline?

[AP]

A baby wont learn on benefit anything from that? wtf, does he feel better or something doing that?

 

[LankyDoodle]

She isn't doing it because she is naughty so whatever your views on disciplining your child, this is not something that requires disciplining. She is 7 months old and exploring her world; she doesn't understand that she is not allowed to touch his Xbox or whatever, because to her it is all part of her ever-expanding world, and to learn about it she has to explore it.

Disciplining a child for doing what comes naturally to them is pretty cruel in my opinion.

 

[Blaumba]

If my OH slapped LO for grabbing at his X-Box controler (which, if it's so precious, should be out of reach anyway!) I'd smash his X-Box up myself and lob it out the window. Even now at 1 year old, my LO is just doing what babies do! Just this morning he has pushed 3 coat hangers through the gaps in the stair gate, tried to move the kitchen bin 5 times (his latest obbsession!?) put a whole loo roll into the toilet but NEVER would I consider slapping his hand for any of it. If he is being mischevious or downright naughty the ONLY thing to do is distraction! What your OH is doing is wrong wrong wrong!! Please, for the sake of your LO, address this situation imediately!

Perhaps he worked with H as a binman in their previous life...?

 

[RedRose]

If my OH slapped LO for grabbing at his X-Box controler (which, if it's so precious, should be out of reach anyway!) I'd smash his X-Box up myself and lob it out the window. Even now at 1 year old, my LO is just doing what babies do! Just this morning he has pushed 3 coat hangers through the gaps in the stair gate, tried to move the kitchen bin 5 times (his latest obbsession!?) put a whole loo roll into the toilet but NEVER would I consider slapping his hand for any of it. If he is being mischevious or downright naughty the ONLY thing to do is distraction! What your OH is doing is wrong wrong wrong!! Please, for the sake of your LO, address this situation imediately!

Perhaps he worked with H as a binman in their previous life...?

I think my baby was a hoover in a past life cos her favourite thing is lifting up her playmat and picking up every tiny bit of lint and dirt in the carpet and inspecting it!

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

Personally if I was having that problem I would remove the child away from that object whilst saying "no"...Not smacking her hand whilst saying "no".

I'm not judging you. We all have our own ways of parenting but I would definitely be having a word with you're OH..For ANYONE to think that a 7 month old baby understands that she is being hurt because what she's playing with is dangerous is quite frankly IMO delusional.

Remove the object if it's that much of a problem

 

[Buffy71]

If my OH slapped LO for grabbing at his X-Box controler (which, if it's so precious, should be out of reach anyway!) I'd smash his X-Box up myself and lob it out the window. Even now at 1 year old, my LO is just doing what babies do! Just this morning he has pushed 3 coat hangers through the gaps in the stair gate, tried to move the kitchen bin 5 times (his latest obbsession!?) put a whole loo roll into the toilet but NEVER would I consider slapping his hand for any of it. If he is being mischevious or downright naughty the ONLY thing to do is distraction! What your OH is doing is wrong wrong wrong!! Please, for the sake of your LO, address this situation imediately!

Perhaps he worked with H as a binman in their previous life...?

I think my baby was a hoover in a past life cos her favourite thing is lifting up her playmat and picking up every tiny bit of lint and dirt in the carpet and inspecting it!

Ooh that's handy !! Unfortunately, H has to go one better than that, and eats whatever she finds. My OCD is going through the roof!!!

 

[venusrockstar]

I personally wouldn't ever hit my child, regardless of how hard. It would encourage her that hitting is okay.

 

[Tegans Mama]

Tegan is a lot older than most of the babies in here, but IMO you should never smack any child. Slapping a 7 month old's hand is counter productive - it doesn't actually teach the child anything, other than when you are bad, smacking is the answer. Children who are hit by their parents often go on to hit other children when they do something that the first child who is smacked as punishment does not like.

I suppose in the UK we have a much stronger view on discipline than in the US. A few of my friends from the US use 'spanking' as a form of discipline - I tend to just keep my mouth shut to be honest because they are an argumentative bunch - but I don't agree with it at all.

 

[xpinkness87x]

we say no and remove him from what he is doing, if he goes back i will say no firmer and remove him again. If he keeps on and on i put him in the travel cot for time out... but i have only just started doing this this week... his 9 months. At 7 months i never thought of telling him off.

 

[Celesse]

Wouldn't the stern voice alone be enough to discourage her?

I think that the most effective "discipline" is distraction as at this age they are more or less incapable of doing something "naughty". My LO has absolutly no concept of right or wrong at 8 months. The closest she comes is understanding that the thing she has just done made mummy or daddy upset, and she can't hold that understanding in her head for the next time. Therefore slapping a child has no effect other than to be mean.

I'd tell him to stop it.

 

[MangoCoconut]

A smack can quickly become abuse for some people. My dad felt a lot of frustration, four kids and a noisy household. It started with just little things, slap here and there for touching things we shouldn't. Over the years it became hitting us with objects that were heavy because we were giggling too much in our bedrooms, or we didn't eat all our dinner, or we ran upstairs rather than walking, or we ate too loudly. Anything really. It became a real control thing. We were fearful and he ruled the house. It didn't make us respect him or love him. It made us scared to do anything and that, to me, is abuse. You have to be careful with slapping and smacking etc. Once the floodgates open there isn't always a way back. I am sure the OP wouldn't let things get that bad, but to start at 7 months there is only one way to go in my eyes. Which leads to a child who is scared like I was

 

[xbabybumpx]

A smack can quickly become abuse for some people. My dad felt a lot of frustration, four kids and a noisy household. It started with just little things, slap here and there for touching things we shouldn't. Over the years it became hitting us with objects that were heavy because we were giggling too much in our bedrooms, or we didn't eat all our dinner, or we ran upstairs rather than walking, or we ate too loudly. Anything really. It became a real control thing. We were fearful and he ruled the house. It didn't make us respect him or love him. It made us scared to do anything and that, to me, is abuse. You have to be careful with slapping and smacking etc. Once the floodgates open there isn't always a way back. I am sure the OP wouldn't let things get that bad, but to start at 7 months there is only one way to go in my eyes. Which leads to a child who is scared like I was

i agree. a small tap on the hand at 7 months can easily turn into a full blown wack on the backside at 1 year old. some people are saying its not the op fault as shes not the one thats doing it but she's allowing to happen

 

[xbabybumpx]

i would eventually want my child to not touch things as she knows its wrong rather then not touch things as she knows she will get a slap for it. big difference

 

[louandivy]

A smack can quickly become abuse for some people. My dad felt a lot of frustration, four kids and a noisy household. It started with just little things, slap here and there for touching things we shouldn't. Over the years it became hitting us with objects that were heavy because we were giggling too much in our bedrooms, or we didn't eat all our dinner, or we ran upstairs rather than walking, or we ate too loudly. Anything really. It became a real control thing. We were fearful and he ruled the house. It didn't make us respect him or love him. It made us scared to do anything and that, to me, is abuse. You have to be careful with slapping and smacking etc. Once the floodgates open there isn't always a way back. I am sure the OP wouldn't let things get that bad, but to start at 7 months there is only one way to go in my eyes. Which leads to a child who is scared like I was

i agree. a small tap on the hand at 7 months can easily turn into a full blown wack on the backside at 1 year old. some people are saying its not the op fault as shes not the one thats doing it but she's allowing to happen

Making the OP feel like a bad mother will not help anything, she came here for opinions as clearly she knew there was something wrong with it, no need to make her feel any worse than I'm sure she already does after some comments!

 

[pheobe]

Some of you mothers on here should be ashamed of yourself. I've seen some shit responses in my time on BnB but some of these have made my blood boil, I simply cannot imagine how upset the OP must be reading these - I bet she never comes back on here again. Well done! This mum has come on here for advice on how to deal with her partner and her child when discipline is needed she's not come on here to be treated like some sort of nutcase who is abusing her child.

Maybe some constructive advice would have helped her & her partner discipline in a more effective manner instead she probably feels like she's been cyber bullied and is a terrible parent - good job!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To the OP I would imagine that the stern 'No' would be sufficient - I do this with Niall and have done since he was a similiar age. I say 'No' and move him away sometimes it takes a few go's sometimes it causes a little paddy but he understands that when mummy says no I mean it. End Of. I believe in boundaries & I have no problem setting them for my son. Life is full of boundaries I would be doing my son an injustice if I did not instill this in him in his early years...IMO.

 

[xbabybumpx]

A smack can quickly become abuse for some people. My dad felt a lot of frustration, four kids and a noisy household. It started with just little things, slap here and there for touching things we shouldn't. Over the years it became hitting us with objects that were heavy because we were giggling too much in our bedrooms, or we didn't eat all our dinner, or we ran upstairs rather than walking, or we ate too loudly. Anything really. It became a real control thing. We were fearful and he ruled the house. It didn't make us respect him or love him. It made us scared to do anything and that, to me, is abuse. You have to be careful with slapping and smacking etc. Once the floodgates open there isn't always a way back. I am sure the OP wouldn't let things get that bad, but to start at 7 months there is only one way to go in my eyes. Which leads to a child who is scared like I was

i agree. a small tap on the hand at 7 months can easily turn into a full blown wack on the backside at 1 year old. some people are saying its not the op fault as shes not the one thats doing it but she's allowing to happen

Making the OP feel like a bad mother will not help anything, she came here for opinions as clearly she knew there was something wrong with it, no need to make her feel any worse than I'm sure she already does after some comments!

what do you want me to say? well done for allowing your oh to slap your babies hand? im not sugar coating it up as i think its appalling using physical disipline on a less then 7 month old

 

[louandivy]

I think some people just thrive on making other mums feel guilty as it makes them feel like better parents.

 

[Buffy71]

A smack can quickly become abuse for some people. My dad felt a lot of frustration, four kids and a noisy household. It started with just little things, slap here and there for touching things we shouldn't. Over the years it became hitting us with objects that were heavy because we were giggling too much in our bedrooms, or we didn't eat all our dinner, or we ran upstairs rather than walking, or we ate too loudly. Anything really. It became a real control thing. We were fearful and he ruled the house. It didn't make us respect him or love him. It made us scared to do anything and that, to me, is abuse. You have to be careful with slapping and smacking etc. Once the floodgates open there isn't always a way back. I am sure the OP wouldn't let things get that bad, but to start at 7 months there is only one way to go in my eyes. Which leads to a child who is scared like I was

I'm so sorry you went through this.

I was smacked here and there as a child, but only a light tap, never pain - just enough of a tap to grab my wandering attention, and there was no escalation, so I think your experience is not the norm. In turn, it never made me smack or bully other children, nor did I ever think it was an ok thing to do. I was never scared of my parents. Its all down to moderation I believe.

Its terribly sad though, and it hurts me to think you had to live in that environment.

xx

 

[xbabybumpx]

Some of you mothers on here should be ashamed of yourself. I've seen some shit responses in my time on BnB but some of these have made my blood boil, I simply cannot imagine how upset the OP must be reading these - I bet she never comes back on here again. Well done! This mum has come on here for advice on how to deal with her partner and her child when discipline is needed she's not come on here to be treated like some sort of nutcase who is abusing her child.

Maybe some constructive advice would have helped her & her partner discipline in a more effective manner instead she probably feels like she's been cyber bullied and is a terrible parent - good job!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To the OP I would imagine that the stern 'No' would be sufficient - I do this with Niall and have done since he was a similiar age. I say 'No' and move him away sometimes it takes a few go's sometimes it causes a little paddy but he understands that when mummy says no I mean it. End Of. I believe in boundaries & I have no problem setting them for my son. Life is full of boundaries I would be doing my son an injustice if I did not instill this in him in his early years...IMO.

if you need to come on an internet forum to ask wether slapping a 7 month old is wrong,then theres something wrong isint there

 

[pheobe]

Some of you mothers on here should be ashamed of yourself. I've seen some shit responses in my time on BnB but some of these have made my blood boil, I simply cannot imagine how upset the OP must be reading these - I bet she never comes back on here again. Well done! This mum has come on here for advice on how to deal with her partner and her child when discipline is needed she's not come on here to be treated like some sort of nutcase who is abusing her child.

Maybe some constructive advice would have helped her & her partner discipline in a more effective manner instead she probably feels like she's been cyber bullied and is a terrible parent - good job!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To the OP I would imagine that the stern 'No' would be sufficient - I do this with Niall and have done since he was a similiar age. I say 'No' and move him away sometimes it takes a few go's sometimes it causes a little paddy but he understands that when mummy says no I mean it. End Of. I believe in boundaries & I have no problem setting them for my son. Life is full of boundaries I would be doing my son an injustice if I did not instill this in him in his early years...IMO.

if you need to come on an internet forum to ask wether slapping a 7 month old is wrong,then theres something wrong isint there

And if you need to be shitty to people on line to make yourself feel better about your own issues then theres something wrong isn't there