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well... i went to take an frer and discovered im spotting so i didnt bother wasting it, ill see what happens over next few days whether AF truly appears before i bother lol, im not sad though cus it means me and stuart get to go on holiday in november now, were going to have a little break and restart trying in december :)
 
So tonight out of the blue, Ross my OH decides to tell me he no longer loves me, has not loved me in months and wants me to file child support and move out by Monday. I sat there in tears and tried to figure out why, and all he could tell me was I ruined us, I have done nothing for this family, I am worthless and pretty much told me to fuck off, get out and take Caylee and get on low income housing and food stamps! I am crushed, I am due to have lily any day now...and now I have to pack up everything i own...take caylee from everything she knows as her home and leave..I just needed to vent!
 
OMG OMG. WTF?!!! Why is he doing this shit to you?? I remember he pulled something similar before you had Caylee too! OMG hun. I am sat here with my jaw dropped. :(:( I'm SO sorry. You deserve so much better. What a prick!!
 
OMG heidi :hugs: what a nob! dont you leave that house hun! i think cleck alreayd said but didnt he do the same thing just before caylee was born ? cold feet? i hope your okay hun stay strong for your beautiful girls, and we are all here for you xxxx
 
Just on my phone so can't do long post but had to say omg Heidi, huge hugs, like the girls said he did this just as Caylee was due, could it be cold feet. Don't leave the house though honey, let him move rather than moving Caylee. Fingers crossed that this is just cold feet and he will come back grovling today. Am thinking of u honey.

May run now and get organised fo this party. Xx
 
Heidi i am stunned, what an absolute ******* to do this to you, Caylee and Lily - i cannot believe any "man" would do that! please do not leave the house - it is yours and Caylees home. i don't know how things work in the U.S but usually in the U.K the woman gets to stay in the house with the kids.

massive massive hugs - i am thinking of you and your girls. you are amazing and don't let him make you think otherwise :hugs:
 
Heidi, I'm stunned hon? Maybe it is just because he is nervous about the birth or just the fact he soon he'll have 2 children were as a year ago he didn't have any? Maybe try talking to him again, he may feel different now after he's let off steam. Men do say some horrid things int the heat of the moment. He might just be getting a bit scared by his life changing so much. I hope he sees sense hon. Surely he should be the one to go though not you. You have rights to stay where you are I am sure. Massive hugs hon :kiss: :hug:
 
Jeesh Heidi. Like what the other girls said, you have the right to stay- he can't tell you to leave. The courts will almost always rule on the side of the woman and child. He certainly seems to react to stress in a very unproductive manner! Maybe once Lily is born he should look into some counseling... I think its normal for any man to get scared before a baby is born, but it's not normal to respond to that stress by telling your fully pregnant wife that you no longer love her and want her to move out! Hang in there girl- it's like you have 2 babies and one on the way :dohh:
 
Thanks girls :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

Yeah he did do this back when I was about 8 months pregnant with Caylee. He went to the bar, drank a lot after he told me he didn't and then one of his friends tagged him in photos on facebook giving a lapdance to GRIMACE :growlmad: The nasty lady in the cowgirl hat. But this time he told me he stopped loving me awhile ago and there is no need for us to even work it out anymore, it will be best for the children to see him on weekends and just not see me at all. So he went to the bar last night, never came home..still is not home at its 10:00 am and I have my sisters baby shower to go to today and he was supposed to watch Caylee...he just does not care about anything I need and or want. I can not afford this apartment without him. I am no longer working due to bed rest, and even when I was working I was making 8.00 an hour as a frickin housekeeper at a hotel only on weekends. He makes 15.00 an hour and even with childsupport I could not afford this place and I would get evicted. :cry: So I have to move in with my mom for the mean time, until I get housing for me and the girls. I know everything will work out the way it is planned, but it hurts :cry::cry::cry:
 
:hugs::hugs: I hope to god he comes home with this great apology but at the same time he keeps jerking you around and you shouldn't have to put up with this. He sounds a bit like a child really. I honestly don't even know what to say. I know nothing I say will help anyways. We are all here for you. :hugs:
 
I am so pissed. My sisters shower starts in an hour and she lives an hour away, I was supposed to be there early to help set up and everything and Ross promised he was going to watch Caylee at 10 am..guess who never showed up....She has been up since 3 am, wont nap, screaming and crying non stop...I am late already, running on zero sleep and Ross keeps turning his phone on and off on and off. I call it rings and rings, goes to voicemail and then I leave a message, call again and he shuts it off, he is such an asshole. Worst part was it was the big move in day for the college down here last night, which means a lot of drink people and parties and he never came home and no one knows where he is..and I am sitting here in tears just furious. He is such an asshole.
 
What the hell kind of man does this to his pregnant girlfriend? I can't even believe he is putting you through this stress. Please try to relax as much as possible hun. I would load up Caylee and just take her to the shower. I'm sure everyone will understand and she probably won't be nearly as fussy once everyone is around. I think she's picking up on your stress and tension. Maybe once you load her in the car, she'll fall asleep. Or does he have the car too? Are you literally stranded there?
 
god, Heidi, I'm so sorry, but what an effing immature, inconsiderate a-hole to do this to the pregnant mother of his children. it's horrendous. what support do you have? :hug:
 
heidi, i really dont know what to say, i honestly am completely speechless! what kind of person can do this to the mother of their children? please, i know its easier said than done, but please try to stay strong. the last thing you need now is lily coming eary and spending time in the NICU, trust me on that one hun! If i were you i'd pack yours and caylees things and stay with your family for the tie being, then maybe ross will realise just what he has lost? he probably really doesnt think you would leave, so do it, and block his calls and punish the shit out of him!

any man who can do this to you and your beautiful children, doesnt deserve the satisfaction of being a boyfriend let alone a father!

i hope you are ok babe, i really do wish i could come and give you the biggest hugest cuddle right now (flights booked lol!) xxxxxxx
 
Oh Heidi im so sorry hun!! All i can say is ditto on what the girls have said :'(
 
:hugs: :hug: :hugs:

I love all of you, you have all been so great.
I came home from the baby shower, and he said he was sorry, he is just so over worked with school, work and scared about the new baby (you ladies were right) he said he would never uproot Caylee or Lily from the place they call home. I was still angry and to be honest I still am. We are now going to couples and individual therapy. We are going to work on us for the girls and because I love him, he is just a total prick face at times.

HAPPY Birthday to Emma! <3
 
Big hugs Heidi:hugs:, how are you today? Did he come home? Thinking of you. xxxx

edit: post at the same time :haha: I'm glad your going to try and sort it out, even if it's just for the girls.
 
Oh Heidi :hugs::hugs: I hope counseling helps. I know he has issues from being in the Army too but I don't think that's any excuse. I really hope everything works out for you guys. He really needs to quit jerking you around like this though. :(:hugs:
 
Im so pleased he has at least apologised hun! xx
I know that obviously this isnt exactly the same but Darren has "issues" with stress and he can be so hard faced at times especially at stressful times like when Elin was due an all the way through her treatment, now he has started up again because my mum has been diagnosed with breast cancer which i think is the most selfish thing in the world because she is my mum!!
And its probably just a coincidence but he was in the army too...
Ahhhhh what the heck are we gonna do with our men!!!!
 
Awww Heidi! I have been following this and just haven't known what to say as it seems all the other gals said everything that can be said. :) I'm really sorry you're going through this! I hope it all works out and I hope he realizes that he does love you and wants to stay for the right reasons. I think it's very arrogant of him to pull what he pulled and I hope to goodness he never does again! You don't need that kinda stress on top of what you already have going on and neither does little Lily inside of you. :hugs: I really hope things get better!

Cleckner: I agree. Army or not, it's no excuse for him to act like that towards her. My hubby is a Desert Storm Vet and served our country honorably for 13 years and he doesn't act like that and he never would. It does sound like the guy needs counseling and I hope he can sort out his issues not only for himself but for his family's sake. I'm just saying...

Everyone else: I apologize as I forget what is going on with you all. :blush: :dohh: Forgive me, it's hard to keep my memory sharp when I get woken up several times during the night because of Bryson needing my help as he gets coughing and choking. :(

AFU: Poor Bry is still sick. :( His doctor says he has a prolonged cold, sinus infection, allergies, and asthma all at the same time and that's what has been causing all of this and keeping it going. The poor little guy is on Amoxill (antibiotic) twice a day, breathing treatments twice a day, benedryl at night to dry him up and help him sleep, and baby motrin at night to decrease inflammation in his chest to help prevent further choking at night. He still chokes off and on throughout the day though. I don't know how long this will last but it saddens me b/c his first b-day is Thursday of this week. I hate that he will likely still be having all of this going on during it. :( I hate seeing him like this after being SO healthy for 11 months. Ugh!
We're also in the process of tearing out all of the dust mite harboring carpets from our home and replacing it with hardwood laminate instead. (Our landlords are going to LOVE us! :-$ ) Which we're only able to afford to do one part of the house at a time so my home is kinda not very pretty right now with concrete slab exposed in most places. :wacko: But it will be worth it in the end as we cannot let this continue for him nor me as I've suffered with chronic sinus trouble for about 10 months now. When I'm around the carpet I get blocked up in my sinuses and when I'm not it clears. We're also allergic to our cat who we are desperately trying to find a home for which hasn't been so easy b/c she has FIV which she was born with from her mother (same thing as HIV, only in cat form). I cant even get the city pet rescue to email me back. Grrrr! :grr:

Anyways, that's about it for now. I better go and feed Bry his lunch before he starts cranking again. :dohh:

Take care everyone and have a nice day. :flower:

PS- AF found me. Which is good though. One more cycle to track before we TTC! :happydance: Hopefully I will OV again about the same cycle day. Fx'ed.
 

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