--Lion Cubs - Mummy and Baby Group!-- We are all One Year Old!

[ShadowRat]

Thanks so much for all your loveliness guys, I'm feeling MUCH better today (hormones never bloody help, do they? Am hoping the coil starts to work its magic soon and makes me more sane!!) But last night we really hit the worst of it, he was fussy and miserable from when I posted in here to 4am... In between times we tried going in and putting dummy in a million times but he just kept on fussing and fussing.

So at my wit's end I had him in the bed with me and Lee slept in the spare room. I was able to sort of rest with my hand on his head, just stroking his head and trying to calm him and settle him, but he just could not settle all the way to 4am, when I was really really exhausted and went in to Lee to ask him if we could swap places till the morning. We did, but Lee was too worried to just try to sleep and he called me back in and said he was really worried that something was really wrong. He was really miserable (not screaming, just writhing about in apparent pain and looked exhausted but could not let himself fall asleep. So we decided maybe somehow he was really hungry (there was no real reason he would've been, but we couldn't think of anything else!) so we fed him 7oz of cow and gate again. After that, Lee put him down in his cot in the hope that he'd finally go to sleep. And he did. FINALLY!!!

We were shattered and we went to sleep too, and he slept right through to 11 this morning. When I got him up this morning, I changed his nappy and saw that he had had explosive diarrhoea in his Pop-In nappy, the poor little mite... So we decided to put him in sposies today, and a good job too because he had more terrible poo 5 times today So I think we found the problem, at least for last night: it was the damned cow and gate! It's the only thing that changed from yesterday.

So today we have decided to forget all of our plans and just go back to the SMA hungry baby stuff, 7oz every 3ish hours, and maybe one jar in the day. He had one this evening and really loved it. He must have been relieved after getting that nasty poo out of his system because he was in a lovely mood today (between bad poos) and after catching up on some much needed sleep this morning we went to see his grandma and great grandma, and had a really lovely day. So all in all we are both feeling sooo much better. PHEW!! I was getting a bit frantic yesterday! Crazy that a really AWFUL night made things better, when I had thought a really good night would be needed to do that job!

So I have decided that we need to take things a bit slower really, for his benefit and ours. If he needs hungry baby formula every 2 hours some days, so be it. He clearly was getting a bit frustrated with three solids a day, so I think it was just too soon for so much. We will keep giving him regular solids though, like I said. If he's not ready to sleep without being swaddled yet, then we will just swaddle him for longer. I mean, who really cares if he's still being swaddled when he's bigger? If he's sleeping better and is happier, then I certainly don't care! And if he pukes all over his clothes lots, then so be it: We will just have to do lots of laundry!! I'd rather he was puking some up after feeds than that awful awful poo. Poor little mite must've been in such pain last night with that, we had no idea

BUT. Yay for feeling better! I'm also feeling OK about leaving him tomorrow now. It will be so nice to go and see Fin.

So Jai, I don't have much good advice on the phasing out of swaddling really! What we had been doing was putting him in his green Vertbaudet sleeping bag (with little monster arms at the sides) and using the monster arms to pin his arms down, just for the time when he falls asleep. He still got them out later in the night and sometimes woke himself, but we just went in and pinned them down again and put his dummy back in and he usually went back to sleep. So maybe you could try that, or maybe just tuck Adriana in with her bedcovers around her arms and under her body, then gradually tuck her in less firmly so that she can start to move her arms out a bit more little by little? Good luck with it

Sam, you were right! It was to do with poo, at least the worst of it was! Thanks for your help

MJ, I really like the striped one too I think it'd suit you and Adam hehehe!! Looks like it's a pretty decent bag, ours is just a bit of a crappy Mothercare one but it does have plenty of pockets and lots of places for bottles if we're out all day and need to take lots of bottles If I do happen to see a particularly cool one for within that price range I'll let you know

Cleck, glad you had a great Thanksgiving! I had Thanksgiving at my sister's place in Texas the one time I ever visited her there We had biscuits in gravy, they were sooooo yummy, but I still can't get over the fact that you guys call THOSE biscuits!! To us, that'd be somewhere between a scone and a dumpling! But it sure was scrummy with loads of turkey

Aunty E, good luck with your move and sorting boradband out!

Shiv, thanks so much for your loveliness sometimes it's so hard to see how anything will ever get any better, but then just one night can totally change my mood and I realise that it's not as bad as I think I just really hope that my hormones will settle a bit with the coil (which has been fine so far, by the way: No more cramps and I've checked my cords already They were hanging down quite low so I phoned the nurse to ask if that was ok and she said yes, but I might want to push them up higher in there before Lee and I get it on because he'd feel it on his most sensitive area!! )

x x x x x

 

[Mary Jo]

well, Chris's "one hour" is already two hours and 43 minutes of normal person time.

*rage*

 

[ShadowRat]

well, Chris's "one hour" is already two hours and 43 minutes of normal person time.

*rage*

((((((((((((MJ)))))))))))

 

[ShadowRat]

Oh, ladies, I got a reply from Giraffe about the possible meet. Here is my message to them and the reply I got, and my next message back to them (just sent):

I am interested in arranging a get-together for several (around 20?) new mothers (and their babies, who will all be around 5 months old) in one of your restaurants. I'm writing to ask a few questions before I arrange it and possibly make a booking with you: One of our group is a wheelchair user: Are you wheelchair accessible? And pushchair accessible? Do you have baby changing facilities? Will we be able to use one large table where we could all chat to each other rather than a long thin table, for example? The get-together would be at one of your London outlets; would any particular branch be more or less suitable for our needs, do you think?

Reply:

Hi Naomi,



Sorry for the delay in coming back to you. I have looked in to this and to be honest I don’t think that we really have a restaurant that would be suitable, especially if you are looking at doing this in the lead up to Christmas as we’re already getting full up with lots of group Christmas meals. When were you looking at arranging the meeting for? If it’s something in the New Year then come back to me and we may be able to explore some options.



Kind regards



stephanie rice
head office
giraffe

...And my last message:

Hi Stephanie, thanks so much for your reply.

We are looking to have the meeting in early-mid January, possibly on a Monday or Tuesday (which we hope may be less busy?) One of our group is waiting to hear a date of an operation she is having in January and we're going to try to arrange it around her once she has a firm date, so we don't have a set date yet. But equally, if you could accomodate us, we could arrange it on a day that's less busy for one of your restaurants, if you have one with enough space for us all!

Many thanks,
Naomi Regan

So fingers crossed they can do something for us! Vici, really hope you can come sweetie! And Sam, any news on Elin's next operation? Hope it fits in too, would love to see you there!!

xxxx

 

[Jai_Jai]

thanks for doing that Shadow!! looks hopeful

 

[rubyrose]

Sam_Star - You poor thing with the tooth problems... I had it in the middle of the pregnancy and couldn't take naff all its bloomin awful. I do think toothache is the worst pain just behind childbirth of course! I hope you get that sorted I felt like I was slowly going insane with tooth pain... Sorry to hear about you and your other half not getting on, youknow all of us girls are here to talk if you need it. Here is a big hug for you and lovely Elinor.

Shiv - Big hug for you to you deserve a big one. That is good Sophia is now in her own room! Archie has been in his for a while and I know what you mean, I do miss him being close to me, though I don't miss the grunting in the night!

Shadow - Yep I am constantly having trouble with my bloody mother in law! Trust me, my patience is wearing thin now and my smiles are through gritted teeth!

Jai_Jai - Aww Adriana is lovely hun! I know what you mean about the breast feeding. I was gutted I couldn't do it but after the birth cause i lost so much blood and was anemic i just wasnt supplying enough and archie wasn't exactly a small baby he wsa 8lbs 6oz and i just wasnt giving him enough. Felt like that special "time" was taken from me now and i do get annoyed when people ask to feed so i know where you are coming from you just wanna tell them to get lost dont you?! Maybe we would of felt different if we'd still been breast feeding we might of been sick of it hehe! Glad she has a nice routine! Sorr I don't have any advice about the weanign off swaddling archie always hated it but he likes his sleeping bag, maybe try one of them?

MaryJo - About the changing bags, I like the baba bing ones. I got one from boots and its so compact but it fits in so much stuff and has cute pics for the different sections in your bag and it has a front pocket that says "your stuff" and it has room for make up, keys, etc i love it! Try typing baba bing on ebay or looking in boots i love my bag! About the my baby commenting weirdl one of my best mates cause archie her baby but it doesnt seem as sinister (lol!) as teh way my mil says it. I know she is messing as we are close but im sure my mil thinks archie is hers and i was a surrogate or summit!

ShadowRat - Gosh you have really been through the mill the last few days you poor thing I know changing milks is always a nightmare I've been through laods with archie trying to find the right one for him and the switching always caused the most probs, either diarhoea or constipation, the latter with the hungry stuff. I wouldn't worry either about the swaddling, if it settles him then so bit it. People always have something to critisize about like the dummy debate to but at the end of the day you only know your baby, we dont have textbook babies they are all unique! The only thing that keeps me going on bad nights is something my mum always says, "Everything at this age is only a stage and stages always pass" and shes right really. All the trouble we had with the colic, the not sleeping through...its all a stage and we've all come through it and all the bad stuff goes away.


Well i am hoping to come to the meet anyway my local station is pretty crap though as i say it does have a side entrance to get a pram up but it isnt always open and they do make a fuss when you ask for it to be opened but i deffo cant get a pram up them on my own! WHat station do we have to get off to access the restraunt does anyone know?

Grr the mil thing just annoys me tbh. Everytime she comes over she just wants to take over everthing and enxt week she wants to take him for a walk round romford market and its obsessive she keeps going on about taking him out in his pram and my OH just said why are you like this and she said "i wanna do something else but come round and see him" isnt that nanny's job? They come round and see their grand children and cuddle them and play with them and coo over them! At this stage im sorry but its my time to be a mummy! I don't like taking archie out in the cold unless its nesscary anyway. I dont have a prob with anyone doing it but it keeps getting brought up all the time and his only 12 weeks old for god sake there is plenty of time 2 do it!! GAHH!!! It's just like she thinks shes the mum these are my jobs i wish she'd just eff off! My own mum is fantastic she comes round plays with archie cuddles him etc but understands and gives him back for me to feed and change, baby sits when i ask etc yet the MIl is so opposite. Constantly asking if she can feed him, change him, when can she push him? When can she baby sit? It's just TOO MUCH!! Sorry for ranting.

Anyway this is what causes most of the arguing between me and the husband cause of course, naturally he tries to defend her cause thats his mother but the more he tries to defend her and fails the more she comes across as really pushy and irritating so i think even his finally trying to get her to back off and be a nan not a mum. I think this is why she barged into that day cause she felt it was her "right" im convinced she thinks she is the mum.

The period is easing off now girls but thanks for your advice everyone. it was bad the first day i woke up with blood gushing down me leg brought back some memories i tell you! I'm just wearing a night pad now in the day time dont have to wear both so its easing off thank god!

Hope your all well as always!

 

[Shiv]

No time for a proper reply - but just wanted to say MJ that the HV is coming to me next week for Sophia's 15 week check. And teh other mums in this area had one too - so I think it just depends on what area you live in and most likely has nothign to do with them being worried about us coping!!! At least I hope!!

 

[Mary Jo]

ooh, thanks, Shiv, I was a little concerned for a minute, thinking it was just me! I am not in touch with any other new mums apart from you lot - you're my sounding boards (whether you like it or not!!)

Shadow, thanks for contacting Giraffe on our collective behalf, it does sound hopeful, good thing we weren't planning a pre-Christmas jolly - which would be my idea of hell, am even avoiding the local shops right now for anything other than essentials because I tend to feel a bit stressed at Christmas time, the weight of the present pressure does me in. Online shopping is the way for me again this year; it usually is anyway because I like to shop around. Sometimes I like to see an item in the flesh before buying it, though. and now having Adam with me I feel the pressure more, I got nothing when my friend and I went to Bluewater last week, though I did find the big activity centre thing in Mothercare and have pretty much decided not to get it - it's a little big and I wasn't so keen on it when I saw it. We're now planning not to get Adam presents really, because I'm constantly buying him things anyway, and I'd like to see what he gets from other people first. We are going to be getting him some board books, though, so might wrap them up, but tbh I feel it'd be a waste of wrapping paper! (Is that mean of me?)

RR, your MIL does sound a little like mine in some ways - trying to be nice and keep the peace, I made a throwaway (well, what I thought was throwaway) suggestion that we go over there one night and she looks after AE while we go to the cinema, and now she keeps going on about when that'll be - well, for a start it'll be when we can be bothered to go on a night out and also when there is something on at the cinema we really want to see! I am not going to go out to sit around doing nothing just so she can have AE to herself for a few hours. She also always wants to push the pram and give him his bottle. Don't quite understand why because it's stuff she does every. single. day anyway, as she is a childminder, plus she has 2 other baby grandsons to do that all with! makes me glad we live an hour's drive away, so at least she isn't constantly on the doorstep.

so, Chris's "one hour" last night turned into four hours and 20 minutes. I was not happy, in fact that is a gross understatement. We had a blazing row, I locked him out (for about 2 minutes, which he is now holding over me!!!); my issues are that a) he said he'd be an hour late and didn't call to say he would be more b) I had been waiting for him to have dinner, because we always have dinner together unless he says he isn't in, so I ended up not HAVING dinner; c) I had already had AE fom 7.50am and I was desperate for a break! I felt (feel) it was so so so unfair to just stay out and leave me on my own with AE for 4hrs+ more than usual. He is taking it that I won't let him out - which is not true, he can go out as often as he likes if he arranges it first so I know where I am and can plan for company or something (it would have been an ideal night for his mother to mind AE, for example).

he also is now saying, after 3 yrs together, that me not drinking alcohol is an issue! I am in recovery, ffs! I have not had a drink in nearly 7 years and I am not about to start again! it would be tantamount to suicide! he seems to think that I have forgotten what it is like when you want to go out for someone's leaving drinks. No I have not. but there is something different and that something is our THREE MONTH OLD CHILD, we neither of us had him to consider before and now he is my at least priority. I thought he was C's as well. btu as far as he was concerned, AE was fine as I had him, but not a thought as to whether I was fine. He actually questioned why I need a break at all! it's obvious he has never spent more than 4 hours with AE by himself. I have him myself for 52 hours a week, and all the other hours of the week with him, shared.

I could carry on ranting.

anyway, upshot is, I nearly kicked him out. didn't quite. don't want to! I just want some consideration for the fact that after 10 hours and 20 minutes of minding AE myself, I am dying for him to come home, just so I don't feel the whole responsibility is mine, so I can have a break, because I get very tired, physically and mentally.

last night he refused to see my side, just said *I* was being unreasonable (!!!!!!!!!!!). it was so frustrating, I could have screamed. he cannot or will not see that I would never have been so upset had he not said the words "one hour, I won't be any longer, we have a 3 month old baby now" earlier on. I'd still have been tired but I'd have eaten and I wouldn't be angry at his lack of consideration.

anyway.

Shadow, hope you've had a lovely day with Fin and that V has been a good boy for your mum!

haven't been swimming today, was too depressed to bother this morning.

am better now. have said we need ground rules!

 

[Pippin]

Hey ladies, thought I'd fill you in on my day. Samuel and I ended up in hospital today with his chesty cough and cold. I rang NHS direct after a terrible night with him only being able to breath laying face down on my chest, they told me to go and see a doctor asap. We did and she sent us to A and E. Sounds very dramatic but it was all precautionary really but glad we went. They gave him an inhaler to help him breath and now he is much happier and responding well to it. I get asthma when I get a cold so it looks like he could be following my footsteps He basically has bronchiolitis, he was very wheezy and using his tummy muscles to help himself breath which is apparently the thing to look out for as a bad sign. He also had a rash and very snotty. Bless him he was so good despite all this even smiling at the nurses before and after treatment. I just cuddled him all day from place to place He's asleep now bless him, he'd been awake for hours so I'm not surprised. So if in doubt ladies, get it checked out!

Anyway.... thanks for the update Shadow. I reckon we need a pub or something with a function room which can house 60 people or in our case 20 ladies with 20 buggies etc. At least we won't be disturbing anyone that way as well and we could get a buffet style catering so we can mingle. Just an idea. Only thinking this as a pub near me does this (fancy buffet not sandwiches) and it works well but there isn't access for buggies and your wheel chair. But if we could find something similar might be a starting point and I reckon after xmas we'd get a good deal on any room charge. Somewhere like this https://www.citypublife.co.uk/Site/pmfuncinfo.php

 

[rubyrose]

Quick question: Does anyones baby hold things on their own?? Like a rattle and shake it?

 

[Mary Jo]

Adam can hold a rattle now, he doesn't really shake it up and down like a pair of maracas but he does grip things, sometimes with both hands, usually with one. Depends on how big whatever he's grabbed is - he has a mirror/rattle and that's a little big and heavy yet so he tends to hold it but not lift it.

 

[cleckner04]

Jai Jai- All those babies at once! Brave girls you all were!!

Shadow- I hope Vince has been more settled for you in the past few days.

MJ- at your OH. I woulda been mad too. The few breaks I get when my DH comes home are the only things that keep me sane some days. How very inconsiderate of your OH. I probably would have locked him out too.

Pippin- I'm so sorry Samuel isn't feeling well. How scary it must've been for you! I hope he feels better soon.

Rubyrose- Emma does. She actually picks up any toys that are nearby that are small enough for her to grasp and typically shoves them in her mouth. And when laying on her activity mat she still bats at the toys but half the time she's grabbing them and trying to pull them down to her face.



Well, DH is gone as of today. He will be back for a short time Wednesday and than leaves again until Saturday and than leaves out next Monday until like the 16th of December. It's a confusing schedule and changes all the time but basically he won't be seeing us for most of the month of December. I was crying last night watching him with Emma because he is going to miss everything and it's finally starting to sink in. Even now he comes home from work and she doesn't know who he is at first. So now that he is leaving for days at a time there is no way she'll know him anymore. I want to cry but can't because when I cry Emma starts crying. Last night she started having a fit once she saw that I was crying. Cute but hard to show any emotions when she is so sensitive to them.

 

[Vici]

Hello girls, time for my big catch up. Have been popping on, but not for any great length of time so not had time to reply after reading to you all xxx

Shadow - sorry to hear you were feeling crappy after your coil I'm back at docs soon as my pill is still not agreeing with me so that may be my option. Sorry to hear Vince is unsettled atm I know Imi is younger but i have no intention of stopping swaddling yet! Daddy didn't swaddle her tight enough one night last week and she was wide awake by 3am! Hope the new milk does the trick xx Imi also has days when she wants feeding every 2 hours but yesterday went from 9:30am to 2:30pm without a fuss!! I just decided to go with her flow Thanks so so much for looking into places etc! I should have my date on Wednesday so can let you know then Really hope I can come xx

RR - Archie sounds like Imi with his eating, she had 320ml at her morning bottle yesterday! I kept making more as she was still hungry and she kept drinking Sorry you're having such a rough time with your MiL hun Is your OH supporting you about it? I have no advice i'm afraid as my MiL is great xx Imi can kinda hold a rattle, but doesn't shake it as such - it just kinda rattles when she moves if you get me?

Cleck - i'm thinking about BLW too and Imi certainly isn't ready yet. Just gonna see how things go and if I feel she needs extra then i'll def think about baby rice and rusks Glad you enjoyed thanksgiving Turkey curry it is then Is it Florida you're moving to? OH and I have decided to go there next year as part of our honeymoon

Shiv - that vid of Sophia is gorgeous bless her. I have one of Imi but every time i try to upload it it fails Well done for getting through the funeral - your mum is very brave - i don't think i could do a reading at anybodies funeral!! Glad Sophia is doing well in her own room :thumbsup:

MJ - i actually lol'd at your stock take. I'm a malteaser gal so would have also been miffed but not as much as you I also lol'ed at AE weeing on you both - he obviously didn't want you to look I LOVE that stripey changing bag - its awesome Sorry to hear you and OH had a big row - its never nice I know. I know what you mean about support tho - sometimes i feel i have to say thankyou to DF when he has Imi for 3 hours every other Wed night while i go to bingo, when I have her every day!! I know he really does his best tho so can't moan at him - he is working so hard to build money back up Big

Sam - those pics of Elin are so cute (love the butterfly Sorry to hear you and Darren are having problems, sometimes a break can do you both good, even just for a couple of nights! Hope all is back to normal soon. How much does Elin have as Imi only has 4 feeds too - her morning one is normally loads, and then the other 3 are about 200ml!! Bearing in mind that she is well over 14lb now too!!

JelR - not sure i have you on FB? I can't seem to find any christening photos Glad you had a fab day xx

Jai_jai - missed not seeing you on here hun so really glad to have you back So glad to hear Adrianna is doing so well

Pip - sorry to hear poor Samuel is poorly least you know whats wrong now so he can get on the mend xx

AFU - Imi is fab, been a bit of a grizzle bum today but all in all doing great I have been waiting for her bedding set before putting her into her room, well the first company i ordered it from contacted me and told me Izziwotnot could now not supply them till Jan 2010 so i cancelled it and ordered from somewhere else!! And guess what, they can't get a delivery till jan 2010 either Gonna look about but think we may have to pick another one

We have been looking at honeymoons and have decided on a 7 night stay in Orlando and then a 7 night caribbean cruise!! Can't wait!! AND, the most exciting news. I have provisionally bought a wedding dress off a girl on preloved.co.uk It is basically a dress that I would have designed!! I have paid (or will pay when future MiL collects it on Tuesday) £200 for a dress, veil, underskirt and shoes! The dress needs a clean but looks aweseom MiL is going to collect for me as its up in Hull, and i have told her i will trust her judgement - so here's hoping I have a dress by Tuesday Hoping to arrange to go see venue not this week but week after

 

[Mary Jo]

Awww, Cleck - I'm sorry you and Emma are going to be alone, can you show E her daddy's photo and hopefully it might keep her familiar with his face? is there anything like Skype he can use, so they can see each other in that small way?

I know what you mean about LO picking up on your emotions, AE was awful Friday night when I was waiting for C, and when I was upset he cried, too Am ashamed to say I raised my voice a few times and he was so shocked and he screamed and cried, in that sad, scared way, not a raging way... I feel awful about it, really awful, and have pledged not to do that again because I don't want AE to grow up in a house where people yell out of anger at each other.

 

[Mary Jo]

heh, Vici, you sneaked that in!!

yay for wedding dress!!! what a great price and fab that it's exactly what you had in mind anyway. when we got engaged I looked round lots (online only) and found some gorgeous dresses but my lord, so expensive. I eventually gave up bothering and started thinking about TTC instead (didn't want to wait to be married before trying as it could be a long time yet - if it ever happens at all, after the other night).

honeymoon sounds wonderful as well... are you going to take Imi?

 

[Pippin]

Vici how exciting for you bet you can't wait

MJ hope things are better today at home.

RR Samuel holds things but doesn't shake them or anything. The concentration on his face getting his hand to the right place is hilarious though.

Cleckner sorry you won't see him for a while. Hope December passes quickly for you and you get t see hime soon.

AFU Sam is much better today and responding well to inhaler. We had a 'normal' sleep last night with usual number of feeds so can't be all bad.

 

[Mary Jo]

oh Pips, what a relief about Samuel! poor wee boy, it must be awful for them feeling rotten and not understanding why. so glad the inhaler has helped and you're both getting some more sleep.

 

[Vici]

Thanks girls, i'm so excited

MJ - no Imi won't be coming We needed to make the decision and although we'll miss her like mad, i figured by the time she's gone a year, the break would be good. She will be with nana for 1 week at our house and Grandma for the second week, both of whom she spends alot of time with

Pip, glad Sams on the mend, must have been scary for you x

Cleck - bet its awful anticipating DH going away for that long. DF used to work away sometimes but never for more than a week or so at a time and that was bad enough. We're here to keep you company xxx

 

[Shiv]

RR - Sophia can hold things but not for very long and she can't really move anything about.

MJ - grrrr at men! You were quite right to be angry. He set an expectation about what time he woudl be home and he didn't let you know that this had changed! i have my own moan to have about my hubby...........more about that later!

Vici - SOOOOOOOOOo exciting about your dress! Any chance you want to show us a link so we can have a sneaky peak?

Pip - SO glad that Sam is doing better today x

Cleck - I'm so sorry you are feeling understandably down about being husbandless for a while. On the positive side (if we can find one), the time before Christmas always absolutely flies by as you will be really busy shopping, decorating etc, so I hope that the time goes really quickly and Corey is back with you before you know it!

Shadow - how is Vince doing? Thanks for looking at venues for our meet - you're a superstar!

Aunty E - good luck with the long awaited move!

As for me - well I am calm now but here comes a rant............................ David (my hubby) went out last Saturday and ended up crawling home at 6am, even though I asked that he be in a suitable state to look after Sophia on Sunday morning so I could go for a swim. Suffice to say he was in no such state. So I was mad! Then we were out for dinner with last night with friends and Sophis. It got to 9.30pm and we had finished dinner so I said I was gonna have to go home as Sophia was a grump and needed to get to bed. He looked at me as if to say "do i have to come home?". I said he could stay out but that I didn't beleive he could control his drink intake and we were going to take Sophia swimming for the first time this morning. So he asked if I woudl rather he didn't stay out and I said yes (now in the 7 years I have been with him, this is teh first ever time I have said this). But he kept on about it so I said, "fine stay out while I take SOphia home, but be back by midnight - or else". He went off on one saying that I was being unreasonable blah blah and got in a complete strop. I was SO angry, I can't be expected to trust that he won't get in a complete state - so I have to put down ground rules. He has an issue that he can't just go out and have a few drinks - he has to get wasted. Before we had SOphia it didn't matter so muh but now I need him to give me a break on the weekends. Anyway, I went home and he actually did get home at 12 (good job too, the latch was being put on if he was a minute later!). but I want him to not want to go out every weekend. I woudl be happy going out once a month if that. anyway sounds quite petty now I have written it down. And he is great apart from that - helps out loads etc.

Anyway we did take SOphia swimming today and she seemed to enjoy it - well she didn't cry anyway!

 

[cleckner04]

Geez Shiv! Sounds like a lot of the OH's on this site are kind of inconsiderate! Not just our thread but everywhere on here new threads seem to pop up about this very thing. Its not fair to you and your LO. The same goes to MJ. These men need straightened out.

I think my DH would be similar if it weren't for him being military. Now he has no room to take anything for granted because we have very little time together. But I have a feeling this would all be different if we still lived back home with friends and family where people tend to drink a lot. As it is now I won't hardly allow him to drink at all and if he does I won't allow him to have any contact with Emma even if he just has one drink. I don't want her to learn that it's acceptable to drink all the time. Thankfully DH mostly agrees with me on the subject.

Vici- Its California that I'm moving to. Florida is very nice though! Are you planning on doing Disney World or something like that for your honeymoon?

MJ- Well unfortunately the only internet access he can get is military issued and they don't allow anything more than emails and pictures. But I do plan on getting a bunch of his pictures printed for her to see. I'm even thinking the next time he's home I'll have him record a few messages for her to say goodnight, good morning, and things like that to her.



It is nice that DH will be home for Christmas but than he leaves on January 12 for a little over three months. It used to be fine but now that I have Emma I get sad that he's going to miss so much. Its horrible of me to hope that she doesn't have too many milestones without him. Cause more than likely she'll be crawling by the time he gets back and he'll have missed it.

I'm certainly glad I have you girls. And I'll be back home in January so I will have family and friends to make the time fly by.