Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[MummyWant2be]

Hate the fact that my MIL has asked me for the 1000 times "when are you getting pregnant,all your friends have kids now" omg if only you knew we are trying i have no idea why its not happening yet!so please take a chill pill and seat down!

my would've due date was on March the 24 - and talk aabout putting salt in a wound - got a text from my close friend"we are pregnant"just on my would've due date!

have no idea how ima make it out of this seems like i'm infertile!except everyone aroud me!

 

[tezz2012]

Hi back again think im getting signs that im finally pregnant as im feeling sick everyday in the morning and at night and also my sisters dog is very protective over me and always lies on my lap rite at the bottom of my belly, im getting really bad back pains only at the bottom tho and iv noticed a change in my skin as it's very dry which it's never been so dry before.
Any one have any ideas if it could be

 

[DBZ34]

Hi tezz... You do realize this is a vent thread? Like, for women who aren't pregnant and have something they need to get off their chest....

I'm really glad that you think this might be it, but I'm not sure this is the place to discuss it. You've got some good symptoms. Maybe you should take a test and see what it says. But, I would announce the results elsewhere... Have you thought about coming back to the TWW? Or maybe posting your question in First Tri or something?

I don't want you to feel like you can't post here...but I do think there are more appropriate places where you can post to get your question answered.

 

[tezz2012]

Oh god so sorry didn't realize I was on the wrong one sorry will message tww

 

[moose31]

Hi back again think im getting signs that im finally pregnant as im feeling sick everyday in the morning and at night and also my sisters dog is very protective over me and always lies on my lap rite at the bottom of my belly, im getting really bad back pains only at the bottom tho and iv noticed a change in my skin as it's very dry which it's never been so dry before.
Any one have any ideas if it could be

gee couldnt tell you what they could be I ve never been pregnant....

 

[lilyV]

Ugh.

 

[jcr1988]

DH and I have started at a fertility clinic 45min from home and do to the times and days we need to go he has had to take a few days off work, his boss and formen are fine with it and wishing us luck (i was suprised!) a co worker close to him knew about it and one other that happens to live in the city our clinic is, so we have gone to lunch with him and told him a little about why we were there. Im glad that my DH is willing to talk to people about it because i've worried about him holding it all in. only now his one co worker has told everyone about whats going on and said that my DH is not a real man because he can't get me pregnant on his own! I am so livid that i want to rip him a new one and punch him out! this is the first time we've dealt with this situation and i don't know what to do!!

 

[Godzuki]

jcr1988 that's horrible. Can't give you much advice on how to deal with it cause if it was me I'd be feeling exactly the same as you. Sometimes I really can't understand people esp when what they do or say is so stupid. I guess apart from doing the idiot some harm the only thing you can do is not let it get to you too much. Good to hear that other people have been supportive.

 

[Regalpeas]

Omg Jcr1988! That is horrible. Sorry, you're going through. Exactly why we've kept quiet so long. Hard enough to go through this as if let alone dealing with people - their opinions and insults!


You and DH hang in there!

 

[zanDark]

Jcr1988 that's terrible!!!

when people ask why we needed IVF I just say that it doesn't matter why...what affects one of us affects the other! I'd much rather have them speculate than have them talk about my DH who already feels terrible about his IF issues.

I can't believe people would make comments like that! What a close minded and idiotic way of thinking!!

 

[jcr1988]

thanks ladies! Im just so shocked that he would say this! he doesn't have many friends at work so he tries to talk to everyone but has nothing to talk about but everyone else. Im happy that DH is willing to talk to others about this, its me that is the reason we can't do this on our own and i'm okay with people knowing that because i never want anyone to go through this and feel alone and have no idea what to do.
i have informed DH that this guy better hope he never runs into me now! (especially with the meds im on )

 

[Ltruns33]

I have a vent/confession!! Yesterday, a good friend of mine texted me that a girl we both know (NOT a very nice person) is pregnant with twins. I was hit to the core, mainly because my husband and I just found out we are going to be needing significant help conceiving naturally. I responded with a snarky comment; 'great, they get two and we can't even get one'. I didn't mean to "shoot the messenger" especially since the girl telling me is a good friend. I'm just tired of always having to swallow the pain, smile and nod, while really wanting to say "well I've been trying for 13 months and lost one! So kiss my butt!" I just instead I apologized to my friend for being bitchy but explained to her what hubby and I are going through. Ugh! I'm glad I was honest, but I felt bad! Is anyone else tired of "being nice" and would just rather let it all out the next time a bfp is announced?! I'm actually usuAlly happy for others- but sometimes I struggle!! I have highs and lows- but finding out your "frenemy" is expecting twins was quite a low point!

 

[Ltruns33]

OK So Vent .....
I am so f'ing Peed off at people just joining the site to post a thread about how they have been trying since they have been married one minute ago and now have all these symptoms 7dpo, they get eveyone to give them advised and what not only to post a picture of a postive pregnancy test 12 hours later!
Seriously you needed support TO WAIT FOR YOUR MORNING PEE? REALLY, THAT IS WHAT YOU NEEDED, YOU COULDNT HAVE PISSED ON A STICK AND JUST WENT RIGHT INTO THE PREGNANCY FORUM?

ok i REALLY need to stay away from the TWW and the TTC#1 thread because I am going crazy having no symptoms at the same dpo as this girl and I have been trying for awhile, and if I dont get preggers this month am going in for a lap next month. AHAHAHAHAAHHHHHHHHHH
thank you for the vent, I appreciate it.

THIS. Exactly!

 

[awifey]

!!!

 

[nicky26]

Hi I hope this is the right place for me to be in.... I don't know what you would class as long time but I think it's been long lol. If i'm venting in the wrong place just tell me no offence will be taken!

Quick cap of my history (thought bullet pointing this would be easier lol)
*DS in 2003 - 9 days early - normal delivery
*DD in 2005 - 9 days early - c section
^^ both to my previous relationship
*MC at 6 weeks - Aug 2009
*MC at 6.5 weeks - Nov 2009
*MC at 7 weeks - June 2010
*MC at 5 weeks - Sept 2010
*MC at 6 weeks - March 2011
*PUL at 8 weeks - Oct 2011 - Pregnancy dissolved in oncology ward
^^ all to my DH
*lap & dye test - was told had blocked tube - June 2012
*TTC since 2009

I hate to vent but.... if one more person tells me there happy BFP news i think i will quite literally burst into tears! there is one friend of mine who does not want the children they have (and admits it) yet she has announced enough pregnancies to me...you dont want the ones you got so why have more? she even at one point said the exact words....."race you" like this is some game i'm playing just to see who can win.... winning wouldnt be just being pregnant first it would be to have a baby happy and healthy and to see them grow and develop into beautiful young adults!
How some people can make you feel sooo crap though in just 1 sentence!

Dont get me wrong im not a nasty person but everyone of my mates seems to come to me first if they have pregnancy problems, if they think they are or have MC'd, if they have bad morning sickness/bad back/sore boobs/strange cravings.....what i would give right now to have them weirdly horrid things going on because i would appreciate the reasons they were happening!

Sorry must dash, vent over! xx

 

[Regalpeas]

So sorry Nicky. Hang in there. It is so hard dealing with people let alone everything else going on. Feel better.

 

[Mikihob]

My hubby and I have been trying for over a year. I have PCOS and he isn't producing sperm due to his testosterone injections. He has been off them since November.

We just got another ZERO on his semen analysis. Super frustrated and sad and angry and confused....now we are waiting until mid-May to do yet another SA. The results will determine whether or not we fly to Seattle for a biopsy or aspiration. Followed by IUI, ICSI, or IVF.

I just want to be pregnant and have a baby. Why is everyone and their mother pregnant right now???

 

[Mikihob]

I completely understand. An old co-worker of mine was thrilled after her first attempt got her a BFP. She found out it was a boy and balled for days because she wanted a girl. Then, complained that she wanted him back in her belly because she wasn't able to sleep. Then he drank some cleaner under the sink because she wasn't watching him while he was crawling all over and then told me that if I didn't hurry she would beat me and have a 2nd. What?? And I am the one who can't have a baby. What?? Some days I just want to break down and cry my day away.

 

[Irish_eyes]

Hello, this is my first post in the vent thread.

I have been LTTTC for over 4 years. DH sperm is fine, I am fine which means we are unexplained. Although, I think I have low AMH and low quality eggs after my failed IVF cycle last year.

To people who name their new born babies the names that DH and I have picked but because it is taking us so long to get pregnant we can't get in there first. Sounds a little bit petty but hurts a lot for me. For those of you who find out they are 4 months pregnant after I have watched you going on a smoking break and listened to your stories of getting drunk. And damn you IVF for being so expensive that we can not afford another round of treatment that a miracle is our only option.

 

[chefamy1122]

Hello, this is my first post in the vent thread.

I have been LTTTC for over 4 years. DH sperm is fine, I am fine which means we are unexplained. Although, I think I have low AMH and low quality eggs after my failed IVF cycle last year.

To people who name their new born babies the names that DH and I have picked but because it is taking us so long to get pregnant we can't get in there first. Sounds a little bit petty but hurts a lot for me. For those of you who find out they are 4 months pregnant after I have watched you going on a smoking break and listened to your stories of getting drunk. And damn you IVF for being so expensive that we can not afford another round of treatment that a miracle is our only option.

This happened to me. I had a girl name (not a common name/ but one that has a very special meaning to me) picked out for years, had told a "friend' this name and the story about why I wanted to name my daughter that if I ever got pregnant with a girl. She ended up getting pregnant soon after and named her daughter that. Between that and her just being a horrible person in other ways, I completely cut her out of my life.