Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[Godzuki]

Love your cat and dog pics Myshelsong and Pink Peony and hope your lap goes well Myshelsong.

My vent atm is that I'm sick and tired of getting hopeful just before AF starts. Esp on months when I know in my logical mind that there is no chance of a BFP. So annoyed with myself for even thinking about what ifs. So silly and just makes me more upset when AF does start.

 

[Myshelsong]

Thanks Godzuki, I have three fur babies, he is just the most photogenic!

I know I hate getting my hopes up even when I know some months we have completely missed it, and feeling every nudge that turns out to be gas
It is so crazy how consuming this is

 

[lilyV]

Just out of curiosity, what do most people consider long term TTC?

Also any tips on getting over the rage/hopeless sadness one feels when EVERYONE ELSE around you is pregnant, seemingly without even trying? I'm tempting to start asking people who ask when I'm finally going to have kids whether they get Brazilian waxes or not. All's fair right? They're asking about our vaginas uninvited, why shouldn't we ask about theirs?

omg that's great!!! I should ask, ahahahahaha

 

[plpixie]

To my mom's next door neighbour who happens to be dating my brother for less than 6 months, thanks for telling my mom you had a "pregnancy scare", now every time I go and see my mom she asks me when am I going to give her a grandchild? I'm trying mom, I really am.

I have gotten the same "talk".... I know it isn't meant in malice but it hurts so bad.

 

[plpixie]

Mum, I tell you that I feel like a failure and you tell me that I'll get pregnant when I least expect it

Seriously?!?

I HATE that saying!!!

 

[plpixie]

Trying to move is turning in to a nightmare, we've been called a "childless couple" several times in the last week, even by the bank! I was speaking to a landlord who asked if we had children and actually replied "oh that's a shame" when I said no!! It took everything to not break down right there in front of him.

That is terrible!!!!! I wish people would use a filter before saying things!

 

[plpixie]

I'm out. AF finally decided to make an extra tardy appearance. Why does this have to be soo complicated? So tired of seeing it happen so easy for some. It's all I ever dreamed of as long as I could remember when playing with dolls yet I see people like my SIL get it in the snap of a finger while still living at my mom and step fathers place, jobless ugh. Not fair!!!!!

So sorry That seriously sucks, ESPECIALLY when AF decides to be a witch (not sure if I am allowed to say the other word) and is late

 

[plpixie]

omg ... a girl on my facebook (coworker from a long time ago) is posting the play by play of her labor( ie 5cm dilated, getting epidural, ....) ?!@# Really get off your phone, but i am sure you'll be a great mom....LOL

Bahahahahaha!!!! I could help but burst out laughing when I read that cause my SIL did the same thing!!!!!! Seriously!!!!!

 

[moose31]

AF due 3/31 I can already tell she'll be on time....4/1 makes 2 years TTC never seen a second line

 

[lilyV]

moose, I'm so sorry.

 

[DBZ34]

AF due 3/31 I can already tell she'll be on time....4/1 makes 2 years TTC never seen a second line

I know how you feel. Today is the beginning of cycle 24. 2 years worth of cycles and nothing to show for it.

 

[itakp]

Don´t even know where to begin today. I´m fed up with working full time, doing 99% of the housework and injecting myself full of hormones that make me feel like a wreck. I´m fed up having to remind DH to do the simplest household tasks and arguing about whether washing up every now and then is quite sufficient participation. I´m fed up with him sitting there with his head up his arse with his studies while I´m lonely. He has no idea how devastating failing to fall pregnant each month has been. Shouting at me ´what is wrong with you´ in the middle of our IVF cycle does not help, nor does calling me hysterical. I don´t know.

 

[nobump]

Just been told need to go through the courts to see my niece and nephew was turned away from door when dropping of faster eggs. Not seen them since new year. Their mother is a waste of space that was able to churn out for kids and lives of the welfare ok if you know how to play the system.

 

[lilyV]

itakp, I'm so sorry about your situation. my dh was quite the a-hole this wk. he's improved.. for now, I'm sure. Anyways, if possible, try to have a sit down conversation with him to tell him what you're going through, how it makes you feel, etc, etc, etc. Spend a good chunk of your day discussing this and coming to some sort of agreements on how to proceed w ttc going forward. gl.

 

[xlouloux]

Ahh Easter, the time when everyone gets pregnant but you.

 

[nobump]

No egg for me... Just AF

 

[Miley84]

what counts as LTTTC? is there a minimum amount of cycles? I could use some venting! But I've only been trying for 9 months and don't want to offend anyone.

 

[lilyV]

typically lttc is over a year..

 

[PinkPeony]

what counts as LTTTC? is there a minimum amount of cycles? I could use some venting! But I've only been trying for 9 months and don't want to offend anyone.

Mostly one year but I was totally losing it by the time I hit 9 months so I say vent away. Hopefully you won't get to the point the rest of us have.

 

[tezz2012]

Hi back again think im getting signs that im finally pregnant as im feeling sick everyday in the morning and at night and also my sisters dog is very protective over me and always lies on my lap rite at the bottom of my belly, im getting really bad back pains only at the bottom tho and iv noticed a change in my skin as it's very dry which it's never been so dry before.
Any one have any ideas if it could be