Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[nobump]

Work is a place of work, not somewhere to come and show of you baby, if you want to do that invite friends round to your house I don't need to see it!

Thanks!

 

[Teach2]

Looking online for a dress for a friend's wedding. In the sale section every other dress is maternity my friend warned me not to get pregnant so I could go to the wedding when she got engaged a year ago she knew we had been trying a while. The wedding is nearly here and not even a late AF!

 

[Trying2staysa]

So, you tried for 2 months, lied to the doc about it being 12, and got pg on your first ivf cycle. You know we've been ttc for 19 months and have problems which mean we'll probably never conceive naturally and ivf might not be viable, so did you really need to announce your pregnancy with a blow by blow account of how hard its all been?

 

[nobump]

So, you tried for 2 months, lied to the doc about it being 12, and got pg on your first ivf cycle. You know we've been ttc for 19 months and have problems which mean we'll probably never conceive naturally and ivf might not be viable, so did you really need to announce your pregnancy with a blow by blow account of how hard its all been?

That is so horrible there are some selfish people in this world.

 

[nobump]

Caught a bit on the radio this morning, talking about new developments in genetics, and mentioned that there will be in advances in fertility treatment because of the research. Someone complained that this would mean there would be less people around to adopt children if they made treating infertility easier!!!!!

Is that why we are infertile to look after other peoples children????? Do we not deserve our own????

 

[4magpies]

I always say if adopting is so easy and great why don't fertile people just do it instead of getting pregnant? Fucking idiots.

 

[Fizzyfefe]

That one gets me every time, too, ladies. "It'll happen when it's meant to happen... when the time's right.... in God's time..." etc. Excuse me? My hubby and I are well educated, financially stable, loving, and perfectly capable of bringing a child into this world. We want nothing more. But all these other people, ones who can't afford it or who don't want it or have them just to get more welfare from the government... THEY'RE the ones that get children instead? How is THEIR time right, but not ours? Why are they more deserving than we?

 

[moose31]

I always say if adopting is so easy and great why don't fertile people just do it instead of getting pregnant? Fucking idiots.

lol... people who say this have NO clue how hard adoption process is.... DH and I have just begun the process and its even more stressful than the last 2+ years TTC !!!!!

 

[DBZ34]

Facebook hashtags.... #pregnantladyproblems....which usually have some variant of 'I have heartburn', 'My baby likes to move at night and keep me up' and 'I feel fat.'

Maybe I should start hashtagging too.

My cycle has become completely f-ed up and my LP has gone from 13 days to 9. #infertilitysucks.

I've been bleeding for two weeks straight. #myhormonesaref-ingmeover

I've been trying for over two years now (27 cycles) and I would love to be in your shoes, heartburn and all. #dontcomplainaboutittakingyouthreemonthstogetpregnant

 

[cntrygrl]

I think I have found my new heaven. You ladies are wonderful and have a lot of the same views I do.

 

[Myshelsong]

My doctor left right after my lap and tube flush and didnt even tell me what happened.
I booked an appointment and because the results weren't in yet he refused to see me and now I have to wait another 2 weeks to find out what happened.

I dont even know if they removed an lesions, or saw a cyst or if my tube is still blocked or if they just cut me up laughed an my inability to conceive and then sewed me back up. Assholes.

 

[MItoDC]

My doctor left right after my lap and tube flush and didnt even tell me what happened.
I booked an appointment and because the results weren't in yet he refused to see me and now I have to wait another 2 weeks to find out what happened.

I dont even know if they removed an lesions, or saw a cyst or if my tube is still blocked or if they just cut me up laughed an my inability to conceive and then sewed me back up. Assholes.

Ugh! That's AWFUL! I hope you find out what happened soon!!

 

[xlouloux]

It's been a while since I've even thought about ttc, so it's just typical that last week my best friend told me she was pregnant with her second, and the new girl at work found out she was pregnant a week after she got the job, and is still smoking.

 

[xxshellsxx]

My SIL has just called to say she is Pregnant with number 4... unplanned and she is in shock... i'm trying my best to hold myself together here but i'm absolutely gutted Her family was complete and had no intention of having anymore.. and yet here i am still trying for number one

 

[Regalpeas]

to all of us hurting. It is unfair... so unfair. Praying the tide turns happy for all of us.

 

[amytrisha]

Well I was babysitting two of OHs cousins children and it really hit home when I saw her gigantic baby bump that in the space we've been trying she's actually had 3 baby's (well 3 in 4 weeks). She'll have 7 all together, all I want is one!

Constantly feel at a dead end, it's like we're walking into a brick flipping wall!
TTC is actually putting me off bding :/ I feel as though there's 'no point' (even though its meant to be a loving thing) because we're just getting nowhere and all that is on my mind is TTC and babies!

 

[4magpies]

The only time I want AF to be on time!! Need her to come so can start BCP for IVF!

Come on witch, you cow.

 

[Teach2]

You had an oops at 18. Now in your late twenties you act like you don't have a child and spend all your time in the club. Now you think you are having another oops with your bf of 4 months and you want me to buy the test because I'm married! You know how long I've been trying and that I'm having tests done NO I WON'T, BUY YOUR OWN DAMN TEST!!!

 

[DESPONDENT]

Hubby and I have been ttc for about 2.5 years. I have mild pcos and endo confirmed by a lap in may this year , however doc says im "essentially fine" as it was so mild and has all benn taken care of. Hubby has a varicocele which affects morphology/motility but no surgical intervention is needed at thsi time as his numbers are "ok" after wash. Anyways long story short , we've not had a sigle BFP in this time and have had 3 failed IUIs with a regular OBGYN and 1 failed IUI with a fertility specialist. The fertility specialist says we have a good prognosis however I am finding this hard to believe and my spirit is OFFICIALLY BROKEN Not a single soul knows about out ttc journey and everyhtime someone asks when we having kids we lie and say "we're not ready yet" it takes evrything in me to not cry at the mere mention of the question!!! Anyways the motivation for this rant came last night....my SIL announced she is preggers and had just done 2 home tests the day before and is waiting for her dr to confirm it. I wanted to scream on the spot!!! but it took every ounce of my being to not fall to pieces right then and there!! Hubby and I got married a year before them , and even thought she is about 3 years older than I am, I cant help but feel SO much anger and resentment and bitterness!!! to add insult to injury she announces they conceived on her hubbys bday (which incidently was the day we had out last failed IUI). Maybe somewhere deep down I am happy for them but I cant reach there right now This TTC journey has completely consumed my life and my being, its ALL i ever think about and am always on edge, angry and ready to snap. I really hate the nasty horrible mean person I have become but I really dont know what else to do We will probabaly go ahead with whatever the fertility specialist suggests (probabaly another 2-3 iuis then ivf), but I am so negative and have no hope whatsover.....its almost liek im just going through with it just to say well i did. I dont think I can handle another 2ww over and over again...

 

[DESPONDENT]

oh and to matters worse...hubby and i have no interest in doing the BD whatsoever!!! its become such a chore as its gotten so technical regarding timing etc. I abolsutely dread it as its a harsh reminder oof how nothing we doing is working and how much of a failure I am i said something so horrible today i absolutely hate myslef for...I told him if we ever have a baby I never want to have sex again cos I hate it. He understands I said it out of anger and frustration and where its coming from but I still HATE the mean nasty person i have become