Seriously f***** of with mil. I have never felt do uncomfortable as I did yesterday.
Mil has always gone on about pro breast feeding & before having Xander I was honest about my reservations about the amount of time breast feeding can take & how restrictive it is, I thought she understood this & would be really supportive.
Xander is now not quite 2 weeks old & I actually live breast feeding even though he is pretty much stuck to me feeding for most of the day!! Since Monday afternoon Xander has started cluster feedibg until about 9pm. He will only fall asleep on me & as soon as I put him down or pass him to someone else he starts rooting & quickly has a melt down if he doesn't get more booby.
From reading books & the breast feeding threads on here I know this is normal & he's probably having a growth spurt as well as working on increasing my supply but it's still quite challenging to us as first time parents.
So yesterday afternoon we had planned to go to in laws for a family BBQ early evening (before Xander started cluster feeding) my sil who leaves far away was back. We thought we'd give it a go with him as we're with family. Mil decided however to invite another family without asking if we minded. I understand she wants to show him off but he's really not at an age were he can be passed around 9 people (that's how many people were there) we didn't complain though.
So we get him there, he has a complete melt down in the car as I had to take him off the booby to get him there. As soon as I get there I had to start feeding again. I manage to feed him to sleep & visiting sil gets a quick cuddle before he starts rooting again at which point mil just takes him off sil & starts trying to rock him to sleep saying how she's still got the nack. Xander starts to root more face planting her & eating his hands. Will she give him to me? No. I can see on her face she's determined to get him to sleep say I told you do to me. In the end I put my cover on get myself ready to latch him on & it takes DH & sil telling her before she gives him back. Clearly as Grandma in her head she can do whatever she wants with him.
I then spend the rest of the evening sat in the lounge feeding & every time he falls sleep I try to put him down or pass him to daddy he roots & cries. Everyone else goes into the dinning room to eat & I'm made to feel totally in welcome in there. In fact everytime I start breast feedi every leaves. I am fully covered up while I do this, no one can see anything. I felt totally alienated by a family who are supposedly pro breast feeding but clearly don't actually want to see it. The absolute kicker was when DH 15 year old god son came in to eat in the living room with me & mil came in and told him to get out, didn't ask whether I minded him there, which I didn't. His answer was but I wanted to keep Laura company. When it came to leaving she was also very clearly annoyed that she hadn't had a proper cuddle & although she tried to make out she understood I know that she actually thinks I shouldn't be giving in and feeding him all the time, even though he's only on the 9th percentile with his weight!!
Gotta say DH was brilliant, bringing me food & sitting with me.
This is exactly why I didn't want to breast feed in the first place but thought I would get support from the family but clearly not. Well as long as he's cluster feeding they won't seeing him if I have my way. Although I am mad I actually feel more upset by the whole episode & had to hold back tears a couple of times yesterday.
caught me
I'm really sorry. I know it's sad. Alicia (ALPDULUTH) feels the same way right about now....
DH has chubby cheeks, the ones you just want to press your first against and squeeze all day 
I have just been busy with friends and getting things ready before boot camp. I only have 13 days left 
So i really got to get on the ball. Today, im going to spend time with my SIL and the kids. Im having another girls night out this weekend. So im going to be pretty busy. Im really preparing myself mentally for boot camp and I just been exercising and missing DH but i have been coping pretty well. Im just ready to start the adventure and with my dh soon.
lol....I would do this upon ocassion, say if we were planning to go somewhere and I didn't want to have to pull the car over to nurse Iwould encourage baby to nurse early or whatever it took- and always babes would eat! So maybe that's all it will take to get him to gain weight more rapidly?
Storm clouds and cool breeze 
I am going to go eat a scoop of ice cream and then sleep it off 
I don't blame you for wanting to avoid her until his cluster feeding is winding down a bit. You sound like you're doing great with BF though, we're all proud of you! 
Seriously though- at this stage it is all about you and Xander- you're his mommy and he wants you and nobody else is going to make him feel better 
In that sense you are stuck. But it's kind of an awesome stuck 
. If you want your baby back from someone just get him- if it happens be your MIL, tell her to taker her "knack for it" and save it for a more appropriate time.
