Looking for TTC buddies after MC

[imready4it]

AF came with a vengeance tonight. Cramping all down my legs....never have had this kind of cramps before. Why must we suffer from our loss and have to be in so much mental and physical pain so many days, weeks, and months later??😢

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

Omg girl!! I am soooo sorry you are feeling like this!! That pain doesn't sound good at all. I remember having that a few months ago and having the heaviest AF with a bladder infection. I literally wanted to die!

I tell my husband my body is only great once a week per month and that just after AF finishes. After that it goes downhill and I feel like crap for the rest of the month!

I hope you ladies get your bfp very soon .. I can image how hard it is waiting so long after mc it's the what if's that hurt x

 

[imready4it]

Yes, waiting is horrible. I really would like to be pregnant by my previous due date this June. CD 1 again is nearly unbearable. Getting pregnant the first time was so easy and I fear it won’t be this time. I told DH we are going to have to BD every other day as soon as AF is done to try to catch this cycle....he didn’t seem too upset😆😆😆.

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

Lmao imready I told hubby the same!!! Try the cup for sure girl x

 

[imready4it]

Yes, I nearly forgot about the cup...I’ll have to check it out some more tomorrow. I’ll have plenty of time at my daughters’ swim meet🏊🏻*♀️🏊🏻*♀️🏊🏻*♀️🏊🏻*♀️

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

How long after your mc did your preg tests show neg? Hubby is back tomorrow and hoping it will all be clear. Would be a week and half after the d&c.. i am suffering from extremely bad flatulence.. I don't know if O is coming or AF! I'm also getting very sharp stabbing pains in my boobs randomly. I have no idea what's going on with my body!!

 

[flou]

Imready sorry for the painful AF. It always seems like extra pain when your ttc.

Peanut you could be about to O. I find i get windy around that time! Its so attractive!

 

[imready4it]

Peanut, it was at least 4weeks for me to get negatives on hPt but I believe everyone is different. It took forever for my pregnancy symptoms to go away. It was really quite sad watching everything slowly return to “normal.”

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=1024321&stc=1&d=1517172759Ok girls preg test is negative, ovulation nearing??

 

[imready4it]

Looks like you may be about to O. It is possible...my dr. said it was possible to O about 14 Days after D&C.

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

If i tilt my phone I can see a smidge of a line on the preg test which could mark a line on the opk.. is it only me lol

 

[BabyBrain80]

Hi Ladies mind if I join you?

I'm still getting bfp's nearly 6 weeks after my mc naturally at 10weeks. I had a scan a few weeks ago and everything had gone.

It looks like af started on Saturday too, had quite heavy bleeding over the weekend but still getting a light pink positive on 10miu/ml ic's. It's not a faint line but much lighter than. The control. So I'm a bit peed off cos I thought things were getting back to normal, so guess I just have to be a bit more patient and stop POAS!! Apparently it happens and some people can have 2 periods before it goes to bfn....weird!

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

Hey baby brain!! Sorry about the mc hun. I can't imagine how horrible it must have been! It's a good sign the rest is fading, If af came I would test in around 10 days time. I waited for a week and half before testing as it was so hard to see a line but no baby!

 

[imready4it]

I see the smidge line as well peanut.

Welcome baby brain! Sorry you had a MC. It took me a while as well to get Bfn on the hPt. Are you going to try again immediately?

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

Hey ladies. I just went for My follow up consultation and the dr told me to start taking folic acid and aspirin. Apparently the aspirin reduces the risk of miscarriage?? Why was I not told this when trying for a baby first time??? So frustrating. Are any of you ladies taking it?

 

[BabyBrain80]

Imready......I honestly don't know. Having 2 mc in a row has really made me scared. With my mc in 2013 and the one in July last year, I gave myself a full cycle to make sure all was ok before ttc.

I will avoid a February due date (I have 2 angel babies due in feb) dont want to go there. So I had been thinking if this af was ok Id try this month and next (nov/dec due dates) then leave it till June (march ddate) and onwards.

But Im so nervous and havent totally decided what Im doing. Bit messed up lol x

Interested in the aspirin though x

 

[imready4it]

Peanut, I haven’t been told about aspirin either....what is that all about?

Babybrain, I understand. My mind keeps messing with me as well. I totally understand about not wanting a due date in February. That would be very tough. I really want another but sometimes my mind goes to some crazy places...like am I sure I want to start over at 40???? But sometimes I feel like I really want it no matter what. If you had asked me a year ago I wouldve laughed and said there was no way I would ever start over. But I feel like it was put in my heart for a reason and sometimes we shouldn’t question the what-it’s. Who knows????

 

[BabyBrain80]

imready4it, I totally get what you are saying. From ds2 being born right up until January last year I was never again. I'm lucky to have my boys, I worried about a mc and I worried about Group B Strep ( I had it with ds2 and labour was so fast I never got antibiotics, Ds2 tested positive but thankfully had been on IV antibiotics from just after birth for several days, so all ok.... But it still frightens me).

But last January something changed and I wasn't sure if it was the right thing to do and how I would cope with 3. But we did decide to give it a go as I figured if I was thinking about it chances are I'd regret not trying in years to come. I'm 38 this year so really don't what to wait much longer. Unfortunately we have been unlucky and I'm scared something is wrong or it's my age... but it's maybe just bad luck?

During this last mc I saw a heart beat and it really affected me, I was sure I didn't want to ttc again. No number 3 and it's been sooooooo hard. I've prepared for them and I have made a space for them in our lives. The longing is immense. I thought perhaps it would fade but when I saw the BFP last week I realised I wanted it to be a new pregnancy but in my heart I knew it must be left of hormones. My body is a bit slow.

I will leave testing again for as long as I can. I don't know if this has been a proper af or not as still had a faint BFP on Monday after heavy bleeding. I passed a few bits of tissue (which I thought were lining) but I'm wondering if maybe a bit of retained pregnancy tissue that the scan missed? So I will try and wait till Monday or longer, and hopefully we are back to bfn. My ic's are very sensitive.

I do think if you are thinking of another child then you have to decide if you will regret not trying in the future? And I read something that said you will never regret them when they are here. I worry about space and money but we will manage
My friend was 39 when she had her 4th, my sil was also 39 when she had her 2nd.

Sorry for long post lol, I'm a bleather!! Xx

 

[flou]

Hi babybrain. I am sorry for your loss. I get what you mean about regretting it later if you choose to not have another. After my last mc I seriously did think can I go through all of this again? Is DS enough? Im 37 this year so I have some time but not loads. If I had another they would be worth it and I know I would never regret them so I decided to continue to try for number 2.

After my losses before DS a fertility specialist advised me about taking baby aspirin. He said if you were my wife thats what i would suggest. However, Im asthmatic and not really supposed to take aspirin but the doc said in those small doses and my well controlled asthma I should be ok. I brought some but didn't use it in the end and I still got DS. But I might consider trying if I manage to conceive again.

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

Hey ladies, you should never feel to old to want something.. you should always try and have no regret and I totally understand the can i cope with more.. I'm trying for my second but see my ds who is now 3 can talk, walk, pee and poop on his own and I think can I do this again lol I don't know how people have 10 odd kids.. hahaha but I know ds needs a partner in crime and I would love another but I think I'm out this month for sure. I'm pretty sure I o'd on Monday but we didn't bd we did it on Sunday and Tuesday.. I'm not even sure I don't feel the regular signs and my cm is just so dry.. Maybe I haven't o'd yet??

I literally am giving up hoping for a positive o strip as everything is so mucked up. I'll just wait for af and start the painful journey again

Regarding the aspirin a low dose thins the blood so it doesnt clot easier thus reducing the signs of miscarriage. She told me people have been doing it for years but then I also read that taking it beforehand interferes with implantation. I will take it once I get a bfp..