LTTC with 'unexplained' infertility?

[ProfWife]

Every once in a while, according to my NaPro Fertility consultant, a woman will actually have the LH surge during their periods which accounts for the shorter cycles sometimes.

 

[HearMyPrayers]

Good morning ladies!

Hope everyone is doing well. I've been a little quite, going through a tough home life right now. Just trying to push through.

My period showed up Monday. After spotting/light bleeding for 3 weeks. 3 entire weeks! WTF is going on! My cousin just had a baby on Sunday, so I've been bombarded with pictures of her, and constant play by play updates from my mom, down to every last detail. Just really emotional right now and hormones are all over the place. Need a good place to run and hide away at!

 

[Wishing1010]

I'm so sorry I hope this next cycle is your BFP!!!!

 

[HearMyPrayers]

I can't seem to get this spotting/light bleeding under control. Its been happening every cycle for the last 9 months! This is the longest I've bled/spotting before a period and it was a 50 day cycle CD 1 was January 27th and I just got my period on March 17th, but have been spotting since around Feb 27th Now I'm getting paranoid thinking it could be pre-menopause or something

 

[ProfWife]

HearMyPrayers - Call a doc and ask for blood work for your CD 3/4 (tests LH and FSH) and a Ovulation+7days test for this month. The doc would be able to tell from the LH/FSH if you're having issues like early onset menopause. Another blood test they could run is for AMH, which apparently indicates ovarian reserve.

Praying it turns out that you just have an imbalance that they can easily solve.

 

[Jewels7]

Hey everyone, great to find a forum that is so specific to where I am at. I am 32, TTC almost 2 years, no BFP at all, had all the tests, all normal, Husband has great sperm count, had Lap last week, all normal, normal, normal, normal. SO many emotions all the time. Tried 1 IUI, failed of course. IVF booked in for August, have to pay ourselves as to receive public funding for unexplained IF in NZ you have to be trying for 5 years. Not waiting that long. I am struggling so badly as I made this plan for my life when I was little, and I didn't make any other plan. So what now...This is all I want. Might sound sad, but its my reality. I don't think anything will fulfil me as much as being a mother.
Things I HATE about this Journey:
- feeling like less of a women because I can't conceive
- feeling hopeless and lost
- feeling extremely jealous of other people getting pregnant, even friends
- waiting, waiting waiting
- People trying to cheer you up but saying things that make you feel worse
- feeling alone
- feeling scared and defeated
- really wanting to buy baby things but have to refrain
- feeling so hopeful and having the hope dashed every month
- TTW
- crying a lot
- turning another year older
- eating way too much chocolate to cheer myself up....

The list goes on. I am sorry for the complaining but man it does feel good to get this down and share it. Makes me feel a little lighter for a moment.

 

[Wishing1010]

I completely agree with everything you said, Jewels. I'm sorry you are in this journey with us... It's horrible


FX and that you get your BFP very soon!


How is everyone doing?

 

[YearningHeart]

Hi Ladies, Its the first I am posting on this group. I have TTC for 6 years and it is a lonely sad feeling, words can not describe

Jewels - I totally agree with you, it is hard and all the points you mentioned is so true. I hope all this will be over soon and by the time you know it you will be a mummy! x

 

[HearMyPrayers]

Hey everyone, great to find a forum that is so specific to where I am at. I am 32, TTC almost 2 years, no BFP at all, had all the tests, all normal, Husband has great sperm count, had Lap last week, all normal, normal, normal, normal. SO many emotions all the time. Tried 1 IUI, failed of course. IVF booked in for August, have to pay ourselves as to receive public funding for unexplained IF in NZ you have to be trying for 5 years. Not waiting that long. I am struggling so badly as I made this plan for my life when I was little, and I didn't make any other plan. So what now...This is all I want. Might sound sad, but its my reality. I don't think anything will fulfil me as much as being a mother.
Things I HATE about this Journey:
- feeling like less of a women because I can't conceive
- feeling hopeless and lost
- feeling extremely jealous of other people getting pregnant, even friends
- waiting, waiting waiting
- People trying to cheer you up but saying things that make you feel worse
- feeling alone
- feeling scared and defeated
- really wanting to buy baby things but have to refrain
- feeling so hopeful and having the hope dashed every month
- TTW
- crying a lot
- turning another year older
- eating way too much chocolate to cheer myself up....

The list goes on. I am sorry for the complaining but man it does feel good to get this down and share it. Makes me feel a little lighter for a moment.

Your list made me feel like you jumped inside my mind and read all my thought. I too am 32 and struggling with unexplained. Since turning 32 I have heighten anxiety over this entire struggle, I cry a lot, and I've never really felt so alone.

 

[River54]

Soo relate to most of those points - totally!

I HATE unexplained...

I am right there with you on never getting a bfp in the past 2.75 years.

 

[babyvaughan]

My brother in-law's baby was born yesterday, Ofcourse it's a reminder of my failure to concieve and that makes me sad, but I was so happy to hold him he is perfect! I can't wait to finally one day have one of my own!

 

[YearningHeart]

babyvaughan - Awww I know its hard and heart breaking even though you wish good for the couple. Its the reminder that is hard to bear. Stay strong, hopefully its not long before you are holiday a baby of your own. x

 

[babyvaughan]

Thank You, I can't dream of that day enough!

 

[YearningHeart]

Sorry I meant holding*

Just realised the mistake

 

[HearMyPrayers]

My brother in-law's baby was born yesterday, Ofcourse it's a reminder of my failure to concieve and that makes me sad, but I was so happy to hold him he is perfect! I can't wait to finally one day have one of my own!

Awww I know the feeling my brother and his g/f just had a baby in October its very heartwarming but at the same time heartbreaking. Soon it will be your chance and all these wait and pain will feel like ancient history!

 

[HearMyPrayers]

So I have a family doctor but I also have a fertility specialist. My last cycle was 50 days long. I spotting/lightly bled for nearly 3 weeks then started my period last Monday....I'm still bleeding. I don't know what the heck gives at this point! DH and I are saving up for our first IUI so for now we are supposed to be naturally trying, but given all the issues I'm having with not being able to get my cycle under control, I clearly need to see a doctor.....but which one?? Family or Specialist?

 

[Wishing1010]

So I have a family doctor but I also have a fertility specialist. My last cycle was 50 days long. I spotting/lightly bled for nearly 3 weeks then started my period last Monday....I'm still bleeding. I don't know what the heck gives at this point! DH and I are saving up for our first IUI so for now we are supposed to be naturally trying, but given all the issues I'm having with not being able to get my cycle under control, I clearly need to see a doctor.....but which one?? Family or Specialist?

I'd say at least a Gynecologist needs to see you. I'm sorry for the complications you are experiencing, FX that you get back on track soon!

 

[HearMyPrayers]

So I have a family doctor but I also have a fertility specialist. My last cycle was 50 days long. I spotting/lightly bled for nearly 3 weeks then started my period last Monday....I'm still bleeding. I don't know what the heck gives at this point! DH and I are saving up for our first IUI so for now we are supposed to be naturally trying, but given all the issues I'm having with not being able to get my cycle under control, I clearly need to see a doctor.....but which one?? Family or Specialist?

I'd say at least a Gynecologist needs to see you. I'm sorry for the complications you are experiencing, FX that you get back on track soon!

thanks its a nightmare. This makes week 4 of bleeding
I made an appointment with my FS for April 8th. 2 weeks away.

 

[babyvaughan]

Yeah she's been really nice and letting me be apart of everything, from pregnancy now to when he is here. I love it but at night I think about how much I want to have a child of my own to share these experiences w/ her and to finally know that feeling of love.
My period is due friday so this timing is bad because I'm really emotional and my hormone's are going nuts! lol

 

[PyrusEK]

My brother in-law's baby was born yesterday, Ofcourse it's a reminder of my failure to concieve and that makes me sad, but I was so happy to hold him he is perfect! I can't wait to finally one day have one of my own!

I know exactly how you feel. My brother's wife had a baby last week. He's an adorable bundle of warmth and I'm super happy for them, but you're right, it's that reminder... I sent a pic of me holding him to a friend and she said she hopes the baby "juju" rubs off on me. I wish there were such a thing!

I spent the weekend taking a break from my usual healthy, calorie-conscious, no-alcohol-or-crappy-food self, and now I am paying for it big time. My stomach has been killing me for two days. Doc thinks I have gastric/duodenal ulcers. On the up side, we may have discovered why I can't get pregnant. On the down side, bleeding tears in my GI tract? Fan-freakin-tastic.

I have migraines during about 30% of my daily life. I can't take a once daily pill to prevent them because they could cause birth defects if I did get pregnant. I can't take NSAIDS (Asprin, Ibuprofen, etc.) like I did for so many years because they caused the stomach problems/ulcers I have now. My GI doc told me that even my prescription med (given by my neurologist solely to not cause the same problems as Excedrin) can cause stomach issues. Are you freakin kidding me?! What am I supposed to take?? How am I supposed to function???

It makes me think maybe I shouldn't get pregnant at all. What if I pass on whatever cruddy genetics I inherited that gives me this horrific head pain and the lifetime of complications that go with it?