Lucky thread

[MrsDuck]

I've got a problem, mil has just been on the phone to say that she has booked us a pamper day at a spa when she comes over to visit in October, that's lovely of her but I've just reacted in shear horror as I don't think I can have many treatments, certainly not massages, she just took me by surprise, and I couldn't think of an excuse apart from I'm not really a spa lover, but I think I've now offended her as she told me to think about it and call her back later I didn't want anyone to know about my pregnancy until after my scan but I think we are going to have to tell her now

 

[baileybubs]

Yay for being a sweet pea mrs d!

I am doing nothing today, except nipping to Asda lol, exciting! We are a bit low on money at the mo so it's a case of staying at home when weather is rubbish! If it was nicer we might go out to the park but it's miserable here today!

What are you up to ladies?

How was dh last night cupcake?

 

[MrsDuck]

It's cloudy and sunny here, it can't make it's mind up. I'm doing some gardening today while hubby potters on the boat

 

[baileybubs]

Ooh that's a tricky one mrs d! It depends how much you really don't want to tell her. Coz even if you contacted the spa about getting pregnancy friendly massage she'd find out wouldn't she?
Plus even treatments aren't always ok coz of essential oils and stuff.

 

[MrsDuck]

Sorry weather is poop with you bailey

Oh yes cupcake was hubby drunk last night?

 

[baileybubs]

Do you really want her to not know? How far off 12 weeks will you be by then?

 

[MrsDuck]

She's already booked and I assume paid for it, she was just phoning to tell me not to work that Saturday eeek I don't know what to do??? Hubby isn't here but I bet he just wants me to say that I don't want to do it, but that's horrible because she thought she was doing something lovely for me

 

[MrsDuck]

I will be 13 weeks then, we were planning on telling them and everyone else while they are over. But she won't be able to get her money back then it will be too late but I'm sure she could cancel now

 

[cupcake1981]

If you'll be 13 weeks then can you not tell her? I'm sure you'll have had the scan by then? It's a tricky one cos spas won't touch you if you are pregnant so she would know. Could you call the spa and explain the situation and see if they could offer a treatment for a preggo lady and not let anyone in the party know?

He wasn't drunk last night, got in about 11:30.

His parents invited themselves round this afternoon which is annoying for 2 reasons, the first being that I had plans that I felt I had to change as I don't want them at my house when I'm not here, and secondly he's buggered off to football so I have to spend the morning cleaning in this heat. Great.

 

[MrsDuck]

The problem isn't that I don't want to tell them when I'm 13 weeks, it's that I don't want to tell them now. She has booked today, but I can't do it so I need her to cancel today so that she can get her money back

Oh no cupcake why are they coming around if hubby isn't there?

 

[baileybubs]

How annoying cupcake! I'd be tempted to not tidy then when dh comes home and his parents are there just say "sorry it isn't tidy I was just so tired and achey I couldn't do it by myself" lol, or is that me just being a but mean lol!

Hmmmm could you not say you've had a look at your work schedule and there's something really important on that day, or that you have other plans already so can't do it? That way you aren't hurting her feelings but still getting her to cancel.

 

[cupcake1981]

Oh yeah mrs d sorry that bit got a bit lost on me. Can you Just say you have a work things you can't get out of that day or something?

He will be back from football when they are here.

I've woken up in a pissy mood tbh. I don't want them coming over and it bugs me when they invite themselves. My parents don't just come round. If they come over its to help us with something round the house. And I can't just leave the cleaning cos his mums house is immaculate and it just makes me look dirty if I leave it. Not that it's even that bad as I'm here doing stuff all the time. I'm just bugged cos I had to alter my plans really.

 

[baileybubs]

Could you not have said no cupcake? I totally get where you are coming from though. My MIL was commenting on my (lack of) dusting the other day when she just came over without asking (I was trying to take a nap on the sofa whilst df bathed Emilia at the time!!).
Irritating! Does dh know how you feel about it? Mind you I tell my df it annoys me and he does nothing about it lol!

 

[cupcake1981]

Oh yeah he knows Im annoyed.

And I said that they could come over tomo am do he could at least help me sort that flat out b4, but no that wasn't convenient for them. And I wanted to keep tomo pm free via otherwise we get no proper time together all weekend.

This is just a vision into when the baby is here and people are inviting themselves over all the time and I spend the first few precious weeks of my babies life worrying about how tidy my house is rather than enjoying him.

 

[baileybubs]

I guess that's one of the few advantages of a c section, I had an excuse to not tidy so it was all down to dh. Try as hard as you can to not worry about your house being tidy. If anyone has any sense they won't care or comment. I know that's a lt easier said than done though. Did you say you had spoke to dh about visitors?

 

[baileybubs]

Lol I just called me df my dh ha! Funny seen as we are currently in the middle of a fall out lol!

 

[cupcake1981]

Yeah I have but tbh I don't really think he takes any if it in! I've out on my birth plan that I don't want visitors at the hospital other than my mum so that might at least give me a days peace.

 

[baileybubs]

Men lol. Do you find yourself saying "are you even listening to me?" A lot too lol!

I hope he pays attention. Do you think that you will end up having the in laws visit you at hospital?

 

[cupcake1981]

Yea almost everytime I try and have a conversation with him about anything important.

Not if I have my way no! My argument is that if they keep me in for more than one day then it's cos either me or the baby are too sick to go home and therefore too sick to have visitors!

 

[MrsDuck]

Aw cupcake I'm afraid I won't be cleaning after coming home from hospital and if anyone comments I'll point them in the direction of my cleaning cupboard and tell them they are more than welcome to help

Sorry you had to change your plans I hope they bring you some goodies to make up for their impromptu visit

My problem solved, mil guessed after I freaked out. They will just do pregnancy friendly treatments on the day