Lucky thread

[cupcake1981]

Do you mind them knowing now mrs d? Will she keep it to herself? Something for you to look forward to. If you can have a preg friendly massage have one cos once you have any sort of bump it's impossible to enjoy a massage.

I'm just feeling pissed off as well tho with hubby as he's told them its ok even tho it wasn't convenient and not bothered to change HIS plans for the morning so he can help me make the place look nice, and I've had to spend all morning killing myself cleaning and changed my plans to accomodate his parents.

 

[MrsDuck]

I would rather nobody knew but oh well, we'll soon find out if she can keep it to herself because we haven't told anyone else. I know none of my family could keep their mouth shut so I'm not telling any of them

Men just don't think cupcake, I bet he thinks well it's only mum and dad, but to you that's OMG your mum and dad, now I've got to clean. I think it's very wrong of him not to ask you before saying ok to them though

How is your relationship with them now after they blabbed?

 

[MrsDuck]

Hi sath, what are you up to? Has af left now? xxx

 

[baileybubs]

Mrs d is right cupcake, men just don't think. He probably doesn't even think about the fact that tidying needs done. But it is frustrating that you have had to change plans and he hasn't. What were your plans? I would have just done them anyway lol! I'm being a bit mean spirited today though so ignore my advice lol! Does he know you had plans?

Mrs d how did she guess?? Do you think she will keep it to herself? I couldn't stand my MIL knowing but not my own mum, but I know my mum and his MIL would keep it a secret. We only found out about SIL being pregnant again at 21 weeks (when she put it on Facebook before telling us which I didn't think was very nice but it's their own choice I guess). Turns out MIL had known since 8 weeks. She'd been dying to tell me apparently lol!
Will you tell people once you've had the early scan or will you wait til 12 weeks?

 

[MrsDuck]

Cupcake I hope you haven't overdone things and are now feeling crap xxx

As soon as I wasn't delighted that she'd booked it, she guessed the reason was because I was pregnant I suppose she guessed we'd start trying again as soon as I got the all clear

21 weeks! How did she keep it a secret for so long, she must have had a bump by then??

I really want to wait til 12 weeks before saying anything to anyone but we'll see

My family always feel the need to brag to the others, if they know something others don't, so bugger them, this time because of it they are going to miss out on the secret. I don't feel bad about it at all. If they could keep it a secret I'd tell them

 

[baileybubs]

We didn't actually see our SIL and BIL at all for a few months, I think they his away to hide the pregnancy lol! I'm sure those who saw her daily would have guessed.

Yeah if they can't keep a secret then it's their own fault mrs d!
I'm tempted not to tell my MIL next time coz I know what comments she'll make, probably really helpful ones like "do you not think its too soon"
My df jokingly said we had another one on the way to her the other day (I just said haha making it clear he was joking) and she said "I don't think so I'm sure she wants to go back to work don't you?"

No sign of your letter yet then mrs d?

 

[MrsDuck]

What a cheek bailey, it's up to you and your df when you decide to have another one grrrr I hate people interfering. When are they moving?

I would have thought they would have been excited to tell you, she can't have long to go now?

Nope still no sign of my letter. They wouldn't have got my drs referral until tues or weds though because of the bank holiday and we don't get post here on a sat or sun so hopefully it should turn up sometime next week, fingers crossed

I've got a pain in my stomach, I think I overdid it with the gardening, so I've made hubby make some pizza dough ready for dinner pregnancy has its advantages

What do you think about frequently bending over during pregnancy? I've googled it with mixed thoughts, not sure if gardening was a good idea??

 

[cupcake1981]

Grrrr interfering people. I sometimes wish we lived on the moon and there were no proud around to bug us, well me.

Mrs d I'm sure you've not done your little duckling any harm in the garden BUT you do need to listen to your body. If you do something that gives you a pain, stop and rest. And remember to take it easy.

Well pearls of wisdom from the in laws: 'have the midwives been monitoring your weight, they used to be really strict about weight gain when I was pregnant'.....wtf?!? Do I like like a huge fat cow or something??! Obviously I do! My other favourite was 'you know people will descend on you when you have a baby, you have no choice'......er well we don't have a doorbell so anyone that turns up unexpectedly will be ignored when they are trying to make us hear them at the front door. Oh and when i was eating my breakfast at 2:30, 'is that cos you just got up?' Er no its cos ive been frantically cleaning all morning. Urgh. My mood hasn't improved.

 

[MrsDuck]

What a bitch for making that comment I'm not surprised your mood hasn't improved. What did dh say? I can tell the door is going to be well and truly shut when they turn up unannounced from now on and I don't blame you xxx

 

[cupcake1981]

Has your pain gone now mrs d? Hope you have your feet up now.

I don't even know if it was meant in a bitchy way but probably best not to mention things like that really as they can easy be misinterpreted right! Hopefully they will have got the hint that visitors are to wait to be invited anyway. And I'm getting sick of keep being told that everyone world like me to have him by the 22nd before SIL goes back up North. Like I have any control over that. In fact I feel like keeping him in intentionally now

I am a joy to be around today. My bad mood grumpy pregnant lady has well and truly taken over my normal self today.

 

[MrsDuck]

Yup pain has gone, it's just the normal full bladder feeling now haha well I haven't exactly put my feet up, we picked a barrel load of pears off our tree and we've juiced them, juice for me and hubby is making pear cider with the rest

Hubby made us pizza dough so homemade pizza for tea

She should just keep her opinions to herself grrrr it would be my mum that would be like that to me, my mil wouldn't.

Haha I don't blame you hun, cross those legs til 23rd

I've never been as impatient or ratty as I am at the moment, I hope it doesn't last all pregnancy

 

[baileybubs]

Cupcake I would have actually just said "no I've been tidying all morning whilst YOUR son has been out playing football" but as I said I'm not exactly in the best mood myself today either.
I don't blame you for being in a bad mood, I would be too even without being pregnant! Why do MILs have to say little jibey comments like that? I got the "are we in mourning" comment again when curtains were closed on that day I was trying to take a nap.
Makes your blood boil!
And yeah maybe keep him in there! Or perhaps tell hubby how upsetting you are finding it so he can tell them to stop bloody saying it! Like you said as if you have any control! I know they probably say it jokingly but these kinda jokes ware thin very quickly don't they?

Mrs d I don't think you can bend down too much per say. My job involves constantly bending down and moving about and all it did to me was make me more tired and my back worse. But I agree with cupcake that you should listen to your body and if you are in pain and tired to rest up.
It's funny how before I ever got pregnant I used to think it was only once you were at the end of the pregnancy that you got really tired and worn down coz of the extra weight. I never imagined how tiring and painful the first tri can actually be! So rest up and put your feet up, let dh do all the work lol.

 

[cupcake1981]

Well I was pretty grumpy and bitchy most of first tri, but that was cos I felt so awful, tired, and was so stressed at the thought of another mmc. Then I've only got particularly grumpy again in the last couple of weeks again. You'll feel better once your hormones level out and placenta takes over

Yeah I'll be going hell for leather trying to get him out on the 23rd to avoid induction lol! Tbh ill end up getting induced now as punishment for being so spiteful about keeping him in lol!

 

[cupcake1981]

Hey bailey! Did you enjoy the bake off? I hate bread week. It doesn't interest me at all as I can't make bread!

I should really just learn to ignore things like that, but I actually don't think I have put on that much more weight than I should have. If anything I look fat at the moment cos I'm pretty swollen! Oh and cos I'm starving at the end of third tri as baby is growing loads!

 

[cupcake1981]

Oh and hubby got it both barrels when he got in from football lol, I don't think he knew what hit him! My crazy pregnant alter ego has made her appearance today!

 

[baileybubs]

Hahaha lol I wish I'd been a fly on the wall then cupcake! There were plenty of times my df got it in the neck too (and still does lol).
It's hard to let these comments go isn't it though? Especially when they bloody repeat it!
How much have weight have you put on if you don't mind me asking? I put on 2 and a bit stone by the very end, and I lost all of that by the time she was a week old.

I hadn't watched last weeks cupcake so it was the cakes argh!!!! I was drooling lol! Just watching the bread one now but that one is just as bad for me coz I love bread! But bread doesn't love me (IBS!).

 

[cupcake1981]

I don't really know tbh bailey about the weight. At 36 weeks I'd put on about 10 kga I think so maybe about 23lbs? But I've no idea since as we dont have scales. I reckon Iight be heading toward the same weight gain as you. I may ask the mw to weigh me at my appointment weds.

Oooh cake.....

 

[baileybubs]

It sounds like you have just gained the normal amount then Hun, I think I read that anything between 2-3 stone is perfectly normal. I would imagine that at least a stone is all baby, placenta and amniotic fluid. Then there's all the water retention. Which reminds me, for the 2-3 weeks after giving birth I would sweat like mad every single night in bed, no matter how hot or cold it was in our bedroom and my MW said that's the excess water I was retaining making its way out. Apparently that's also why we ge sweaty and overheated whilst on our periods.
Just thought I'd pre-warn you of that one lol. But it's another way the weight gets lost quickly.

 

[MrsDuck]

Are you both having a nice relaxing evening tonight? I haven't left the house today and we are having a night in front of the tv, hopefully we won't get any visitors tonight

Ooh cakes, that reminds me I bought cream, I'm going to make some scones later/tomorrow

 

[MrsDuck]

That's interesting bailey

You didn't look big in your full term pic, just a lovely bump