Lucky thread

[MrsDuck]

Aw I'm really pleased for them, I bet they are relieved that he's here and healthy.

I'm glad you had a good day at work, I bet everyone was pleased to have you back too

Cupcake have you any idea when you'll go back to work?

 

[baileybubs]

Aw yeah it was nice people seem to have missed me lol, don't know why I was a right bossy boots (I was in a senior position before maternity).

Yeah I think the whole family is massively relieved! I can't wait to see a pic of him but nothing so far, I don't know if he's in the NICU or not though.

How does maternity work for you mrs d? Will you get any pay or anything?

 

[MrsDuck]

Only the government pay, a couple of hundred pounds a week, I'm technically self employed

I bet you keep checking their FB just in case they post something

Is it January you go back bailey?

 

[baileybubs]

I do keep checking fb lol! I get the idea they won't put a pic if him on there though, don't know why I get that idea, think it's coz most people have put their pics up within a few hours lol!

Government pay is £136.78 a week mrs d (not fab but much better than some counties).

Yeah I officially go back in January but will be picking up shifts from now on.

 

[cupcake1981]

Ah that's a lovely name, and a cool Middle name. Boo for forceps tho, I preferred the idea of c section than forceps!! I know what you mean, Tawn is pretty much the only one out of us all that had a lovely birth! At least half of us have had c sections!

Mrs d I won't go back until September/October next year. Whether that's to my current job or not I don't know! I want to do something different my job makes me miserable!

 

[baileybubs]

Yeah i think it would be a great opportunity for a new job cupcake you really don't like your job do you? I am lucky that I love my job, just hate the management sometimes and the way it's run. I love what I actually do and the people I look after.

I am kinda jealous they chose the name Harrison but then I don't think I'd have convinced df to use it for us anyway so now I get to have a nephew called Harrison instead! Plus I'm relieved they didn't call him Ethan!

I'm so excited for yor scan mrs d!! Can't wait!

Cupcake how's the pumping going? Is the domperidone still doing its good work?

 

[MrsDuck]

I will be pooping myself when labour arrives after all your horrendous stories

Aw at least you've still got Ethan

Oh god we've got to come up with names!

 

[baileybubs]

Aw sorry mrs d don't mean to freak you out, but just remember it can't be all that bad because I actually can't wait to do it all again, and I'm even really hoping for a vbac too. And if you look at the odds seen as so many of us have had assisted labours it's about time another one of us didn't so i reckon that's you mrs d!

 

[baileybubs]

Have you thought of any names?

 

[MrsDuck]

I've got a few girls names but no boys names. I think me and hubby are going to struggle to agree on a name haha but as all of you lot did too you know what I'm up against

I'm not worried, I can't wait

 

[cupcake1981]

Mrs d labour is not that bad I promise you. I would say I enjoyed mine (that tens and gas and air was amazing), yes it's intense but as long as you breathe and take each contraction as it comes along it will fly by. I was terrified and thought I wouldn't cope but i did and want to go through labour again, I don't want another section!!

Bailey the pumping is still tedious, not as much milk again today. So frustrating. I'm getting one feed a day off and that's with 3/4 half hour pumping sessions. Don't even know if it's worth it tbh x

 

[MrsDuck]

Will Zach take a boob at all now?
What a bugger about your supply

I'm not too bad with pain, I managed ok with my surgeries and radiotherapy
You watch I'm be desperate for an epidural haha

 

[cupcake1981]

I don't really try him with boob now it's too stressful for us both and I don't even leak when he crys now .

You will be fine after all your surgeries, you must be a pro with pain!

 

[baileybubs]

Yeah I only went for the epidural coz I was induced and it just all hit me in one go like one continuous contraction lol, I'd like to hope that if I get a natural labour next time it won't seem as hard hitting so I can build up my adrenaline and use a tens to help me cope! By the time I got gas and air last time I just couldn't even focus on using it so it was pointless lol! Like I say I hope that's the case and not just that I was a wuss lol!

Aw poop about the breast feeding cupcake it's so much harder than you can ever imagine, I know people say it can be hard at first but you never realise just how unnatural it can seem (why is something that is so good for baby and mum so hard to establish?!). Maybe it is easier for others though I don't know.

 

[MrsDuck]

I'm different to you ladies, I don't really want to breast feed, I'll give it a go coz I know I should and it will give all the extra nutrients baby needs but I can't see me doing it for long I think you've done amazingly cupcake

 

[cupcake1981]

Breastfeeding is sooooo hard, it's supposed to be the most natural thing in the world but it's so tough! Hubby has said to me several times in my down moments about BFing that that's why there's so much support out there for it, and there really is, is because it's just so hard and so many women fail at it. There's a lot of pressure in the hospital from the midwives to bf, so even if you do it there so baby gets colostrum and then switch to formula once home then baby's had the good stuff. You'll definitely get more sleep and have a more contented baby if you formula feed to!

The only reason I didn't have an epidural was cos I was so worried about forceps I was being a stubborn moo and refused to have it! Then I got up the point where even tho I was in a world of pain I was a bit like well I've got this far may as well carry on! Zach was back to back to so I think the tens helped with that.

 

[MrsDuck]

I've seen friends be at the end of their tether with bfing and then switch to formula and they are different people, parents and babies coz everyone is getting more sleep and everyone is happier

The thought of a needle in my spine makes me think nooooo. Being chopped open doesn't bother me though, is that weird? Haha

 

[cupcake1981]

Yep that's exactly the way it was for us. As soon as Zach had a bottle he went to sleep after screaming for hours cos he was hungry. It's weird tho cos still I find myself making excuses for myself for giving it up when I talk to midwives or whatever which I really don't have to do as I gave it a good shot!

The spinal was the worst part of the section. That and the catheter going in as I wasn't quite numb there yet, ouch!!

 

[MrsDuck]

No need to make excuses at all hun, you have tried everything, you've done brilliantly. Zach just isn't going to be a boob man

Yuck I hadn't thought about a catheter

 

[cupcake1981]

Yeah the catheter sucks!!!

He would literally pound his fists against my boob trying to get away from it, not a boob fan at all!