Lucky thread

[baileybubs]

Hello, how are we all?

Everyone's very quiet at the mo, enjoying festivities I assume!

Why do some people on this forum just have to be so superior sometimes. I have a thread in first tri about how I'm upset with df's present to me. I mention that I'm not ungrateful and I realise I'm so lucky, but was upset coz he has once again bought me clothes that are tent-sized coz I'm pregnant and make me feel fat and frumpy. Feels like a waste of money coz I won't wear them coz they don't even fit my chest and arms even if my bump will grow into them! So most people have replied saying yeah that's men, other people have had the same and it just makes you feel a bit poop etc, but there's always got to be one person who says that I should just be grateful getting presents off people should be about what they want to get you and I should just cheer up.
Why do people like that bother commenting? If I read a thread and don't agree with the person is generally just move on and don't comment, especially when it's clearly someone just feeling a bit down and wanting to know they aren't the only ones feeling that way.

Sorry if anyone agrees with that person, I probably do sound ungrateful lol, but sometimes it's nice to just feel good about yourself as a pregnant mum and those clothes made me feel like a big fat heffer and just wanted to rant about it to my fellow pregnant mums.

Anyways, I'm rambling! What's going on with everyone else?

 

[CherylC3]

Aw hey ladies. Xx

Bailey I totally agree with u Hun if I disagree I always just move on but there are total bitches out there tht can't keel the trap shut. Don't let it bother u Hun xxc

 

[baileybubs]

Hi Cheryl how are you doing Hun? How's that little bean doing? Did Leo enjoy his first Christmas?!

Thanks Hun I know I probably do sound ungrateful to some people but I think everyone wants to be spoilt sometimes don't they? Plus my main point wasn't that I didn't want the present he got me (I didn't of course) but my point was that someone bought me clothes that are 2 sizes too big suggesting that I look like a big fat heffer, that's why I was upset. I'd rather get no present than one that makes me feel like that lol! Oh well i guess it's like you say some people just have to say something, I guess the woman who commented would have just smiled and appreciated the thought but sorry my hormones make me a little more sensitive at the mo, I can't be that cool headed lol!

So what have you been up to?

 

[MrsDuck]

Aw bailey I agree people should just not comment if they are going to upset people with their reply men are useless at buying clothes for their other halves can you exchange them for the right size or something else? xxx

 

[CherylC3]

Hey we had a fab Xmas loved it and my scan is thurs 9th jan and I've booked a private gender scan for 3rd jan.. Il hav to return the top my dh got me as it's too small xx

 

[baileybubs]

How have you got a gender scan for 3rd Jan Hun? Won't that be too soon? Sorry about your top Hun, I wish mine had been too small lol! Huge isn't the word lol!

Mrs d yeah I suppose I could see if there's anything I can get in my size but my bellys already getting too big for normal clothes, and bigger sizes fit my belly but not my chest or legs if it's pants lol. It's that horrible in between when people think I'm just fat lol!

 

[cupcake1981]

Bailey people can be very judgemental on here, and on any forum where they are anonymous in fact. I think people like to argue for the sake of it rbh. And don't worry hubby had to return my present cos I didn't like it, he bought me some jewellery which was totally not my style, rather than him spending loads on sonething I will never wear I was honest and he's got his money back and I'll chose something I do like...we don't have enough money to waste it on sonething that'll just sit in my drawer! Maybe I'm ungrateful to!

Mrs d hope that house is getting sorted out!!!

These scans are all so exciting, I'm a little envious x

 

[baileybubs]

Thanks ladies i do feel better now. That was part of my post too that we dont have the money for him to waste on something I wont use, coz what I wanted was actually a practical thing, a pair of ugg-type boots coz mine are knackered and I need some for when the snow comes, so I will have to buy some anyway. Anyways I also ordered some clothes off asda online, I want some things that will cling to the bump so that I dont just look fat lol! And I am going to try and return the other clothes tomorrow and just tell them the truth, df got me the wrong size coz I am pregnant and I dont like the style so can I get money back/store credit. Hopefully I can find something else I like.

Did you get some other jewellery cupcake?

And thats how the baby fever starts cupcake lol, you'll be ttc before you know it haha!!

 

[cupcake1981]

No we were supposed to go shopping today but had a huge fight instead! Might go shopping Monday instead.

No babies for us for a while....things aren't great at the moment, we need to work on stuff before we even thing of having another sadly

Hope you can take back your stuff x

 

[CherylC3]

Oops I meant 3rd of February aw sorry cupcake u must be going thru wot me and hubby went thru and I think bailey and her df went thru a tough patch think every cpl goes thru it after a baby cos it's such hard work and I think ur relationship changes me and hubby are now reAlly good so it shud get better xxxxx big hugs xxx

 

[baileybubs]

I was gonna say the same thing as Cheryl Hun. I don't know anyone that hasn't struggled as a couple, if you wanna talk to us about it we are here, rant and vent to us anytime. I hope you are ok Hun

 

[CherylC3]

Yeah bailey it's a hard few months with a baby. Xx

 

[cupcake1981]

Thanks guys, I'm ok, things came to a bit of a head yesterday and I almost moved Zach and I up to my mums for a few days, but I didn't in the end. He says I'm not like a wife anymore I'm just Zachs mummy

 

[baileybubs]

Oh dear Hun I think I'd smack df if he said that to me! But I hear a lot of men feel like that, it's like they don't like the idea of sharing their wife, and for the first few months you do stop being a wife and just being a mother, because that's what you have to do! I don't think they realise how having a baby is more life changing for us women. It's life changing for them too of course, but not in the same way. We completely lose who we are and it's not just that we are no longer their wife, we are no longer a worker, a socialiser, we are no longer ourselves and what goes a long way in helping that is if they take a little more time to be daddy so we can feel like human beings again!
I know there's been several times where I have said I'm not Bailey anymore, I'm just Emilia's mum. We lose our identities and we need their help getting it back.
Does he ever give you time to not just be Zachs mummy, that's the question?

 

[cupcake1981]

He's right in a way, Zach is all consuming but I don't mind, I adore my baby and I want to be with him all the time. But like you say we make more of an adjustment and they just don't get it. I think things will get better they are just hard at tho mo x

 

[CherylC3]

Aw cupcake my dh was just the same I really thot I wud hav left too but now me and hubby look bak and say it was a rough time and our life will never be the same as we hav Leo but when we get time just the 2 of us we really cherish it now. I'm sure u will get thru this I agree with bailey saying how we change everything and we do nd to just be mummy's the first few months. Xxx

 

[MrsDuck]

Aw cupcake I'm sure me and hubby are going to struggle as its just been the 2 of us to think of for the past 10 years, doing what we want when we want. I hope things improve very soon xxx

Cheryl are you feeling any better yet?

Bailey are you still ill too?

Afm the boxes are slowly being emptied and we can see more carpet haha

 

[baileybubs]

How've you been today cupcake?

Hey mrs d yay for getting boxes cleared! It is a good feeling once you get stuff sorted despite all the hassle of moving lol!

And eurgh no I feel worse today, it's gone onto my chest now so I feel terrible. But I don't wanna go to bed coz I know I won't be able to sleep as I'm so uncomfortable lying down! I had another mini meltdown earlier too, crying my eyes out coz Emilia has been super cranky today again and I don't know how many more bad days like this my hormonal, pregnant, sick body can take lol!! I feel better now I've cried (and not to scare you ladies here coz I think I just have a high needs child) but I found the newborn stage easier than this! And I feel like a terrible mother coz my poor little munchkin fell and whacked her head on the shelf under the coffee table and now has a massive bruise on her head

But on a better note, my scan is tomorrow yay!

 

[MrsDuck]

There are still o'd knows how many boxes to unpack but we are getting there

Aw bailey feeling really ill is bad enough when you just have yourself to sort out, I can't imagine having a baby to look after too I bet Emilia feels ill too that's why she is cranky, I hope you both feel better soon xxx

Yay for your scan tomorrow, I can't wait to see more scan pics

 

[cupcake1981]

Aw bailey is she having a wonder week? I was ready to scream when Zach went through ww12 he was bloody awful. The newborn stage is easy! All they do is eat and sleep!

Yey for scan tomorrow.

Today has been a better day but now I'm pissed as he asked if I want to go out on NYE, which I don't and we'd not get a sitter anyway, so I said he could go on his own expecting him to say ok I'll go for an hour or so just to show his face, but no he was gonna go all night and leave me here alone in NYE