March/April BFP's who's going for it!! NEW LADIES COME JOIN IN!!

[eyemom]

Eye - Grrrr so will you get a chance to test again or will it be a New Year baby



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Lol I'll probably ov just before Christmas, so I'll be testing again early January (like 4th-ish, DH and I will be on vacation...also means I can expect AF for the last half of our vacation).

 

[Unexpected212]

Thanks for the kind words guys. I think I always just 'know' when I'm pregnant. I haven't given up hope of course but I'm not getting my hopes up either. My boobs are mega full and sore today but again SOMETIMES I get that before my period. Have no idea when I'm due either really because this cycle is a bit weird compared to normal.

Eyemom- Sorry the witch showed

Pink - You know your baby best. I have got so much stick over bottle feeding but I let it wash over me now. I knew what was best for my sanity at the time and although I regret not trying harder I know I can try again someday. Don't let it get to you. People can come across a bit strong sometimes and sometimes it feels you can't do anything right. BUT you do what your miwife and you are comfortable with.

 

[Unexpected212]

Sailors Girl - I don't really know! I didn't chart but I took the first day of my miscarriage as the first day of my cycle but it didn't really work out as I had recurrent bleeding. Good luck and FX'd you get a BFP soon x

Garfie - Pulling around belly button could be promising. As could gas! It says that gas and twinges are sometimes a pretty good indicator of pregnancy. FX'd for you!!

Mamatex- I trust my gut instincts a lot. Although sometimes I'm way off mark. I just don't want to get my hopes up. Especially as I ovulated so late I worry if I am pregnant the egg was of low quality of my luteal phase won't be long enough so I'm a bit wary this cycle. Also what a lovely thing for your husband to say!! As stressful as it can be I am really enjoying TTC in some ways.

 

[babiiblu]

Hello ladies!
I haven't logged on in ages, but when I went to the ttc after loss this was the first thread. I am hoping for a Christmas miracle. We Mced in Sept. and I had bleeding for WEEKS after. So this will be my 2nd "normal" cycle since. We are currently BD-ing like rabbits!

 

[Starry Night]

pink - any of the baby forums are filled to the brim with hormonal ladies and any topic about breast feeding tends to lead to some sort of fight and/or thread closure. So try not to take what those ladies say too personally. I am not even sure what it is about breast feeding that gets some people so wound up. Breast-feeding is hard! I ended up not being able to do it and switched to formula. For me, that was the best decision I could have made, but others fight through the tough times and get through.

I do agree with eyemom that during the day 4 hours should be the maximum. My son wouldn't get up for feeds either so during the night I would set the alarm so I could get him up. Some feed cues include wriggling about and smacking or pursing their lips. If you brush your pinkie finger at the corner of her mouth and she starts to root around then that's also a good sign she's hungry.

Don't beat yourself up. We're all still figuring things out. Each baby rewrites the rules so even experienced mommas have to relearn a thing or two by the time the next baby arrives.

 

[Unexpected212]

Welcome babi hope you get your BFP soon

 

[nevergivingup]

Hello ladies!
I haven't logged on in ages, but when I went to the ttc after loss this was the first thread. I am hoping for a Christmas miracle. We Mced in Sept. and I had bleeding for WEEKS after. So this will be my 2nd "normal" cycle since. We are currently BD-ing like rabbits!

Welcome babiiblu!!!! Sorry about your loss, I know it's still hard but I did the same thing as u are like crazy!! My FX for you and your Christmas BFP!! Stay hopeful and positive!! And u joined a great group these ladies are addicttably (is that even a word) AMAZING!!!!!

 

[Pinkcasi]

pink you are a wonderful mommy, you're just doing as you were told. I think it's every 3 hours, my daughter's ped didn't want her going more than 4 hours in the early days. That 6 hour rule may apply for overnight, but I don't think you should go that long through the day. I'd recommend learning the hunger cues (it will come even if it's confusing at first), and consider nursing on demand. She may be hungry for a while before she starts to actually cry. It's common in the early days for them to want to cluster feed. You'll be like what the heck, I just nursed her like 15 minutes ago. But it's good for your supply and baby's happy too. If she gets angry at the breast it might just be normal fussy infant, but she might be so hungry she's hard to console. Don't beat yourself up dear, it's a learning process.

Thanks everyone, I am feeding in demand she just didn't demand it very often, I know the ques tho how I'm not sure common sense perhaps, in the hospital I thought I odd that the other ladies would wait till their lo was screaming to feed then wonder why they wouldn't take, cos they were so wound up but Stella sucks her fist and snacks her lips it input my finger near she sucks it so I don't let her scream for it but last night she screamed anyway.
Cluster feeding is that feeding for a little bit 10 mins or do then sleeping then feeding again like 10 mins later? I'm having a bit of that so I'm not putting her down she feeds 10 mins sleeps on my chest we enjoy a lil cuddle then have maybe another 10 mins in the other side, she just had a 5 min feed and fell asleep after 20 mins she's still asleep weird it was just a snack I guess.
Ivrhink I'll just stay away from that forum starry, sorry as it means that you guys will cop it all lol
I have a breast feeding support worker, she's going to come over this week hopefully and there's a group that meet on Tuesdays, I can't go tomorrow as we have to go register her but next week maybe, it'll just be nice to get out the house and meet other mummies,

Anyway thanks for the support girls I knew I could count on you, I feel better about things today, my oh and I are ok, we're had a nice day, we went for a walk (that was painful) to see a friend who's offered him a job that will mean he doesn't have to work evenings so he'll be here with us more, I fed Stella while out and it was fine, good even so a good day all in all.

 

[Left wonderin]

Pink sounds like your doing a wonderful job !!!! Your coping so well !!!! I'm preparing myself for the fact that having a LO will be the BIGGEST shock to the systems nd the BIGGEST adjustment ill ever make in my life !!!! I'm trying not to have too high expectations of myself for the first weeks / months and just take ach hour / day as it comes ...... Be nice to,yourself mammy , its all new to you and sounds like your doing a great job ! By the time its my turn you will be handing out expert advice

 

[mackjess]

Pink I think your baby may have needed to recover from birth at 3 days old! I was in labor for 2 days with Finn then had him with C Section, and I remember it was day 3 in the hosp that the lactation specialist had to come by several times to catch him when he was awake enough to eat! He wouldn't eat for nothing that day. We did the diaper change, cool cloth to wake him up, and he'd look at us, make some cute faces and nod right back off! He finally woke up later that night and did cluster feedings then and the next day to make up for it. I didn't worry too much because he was a good healthy weight, and one of my BF classes told me they may not eat as much the first few days because the baby doesn't know what being hungry means, they're used to being tube fed 24x7 in utero, and in a few days when they did figure out the tummy twinges meant hunger they'll have no problem letting you know. I think that was right and you're doing just fine. After that I did every 3 hours during the day, and every 4 at night. IF he let me go that long. The first few weeks it was more like every 2 hours around the clock. UGH I'm tired just thinking about that.

 

[qwk]

welcome babi, best of luck!

pink - I love how we are all chiming in with our stories - I remember them telling me to wake Q up in the middle of the night to feed him and.. well I tried, I set an alarm clock and I just turned it right off and slept through! This was when I was still in the hospital, before milk came in. I do remember the MWs saying I needed to keep feeding every couple of hours to make my milk come in. I did the best I could, but when you're tired, the baby's tired, and just a couple of days old, there's only so much you can do!

 

[Starry Night]

I've definitely slept through my son's crying. I've even put him back in his cradle in the middle of a scream session because I was so tired I was about to drop him. We're only human and it's OK to take care of yourself too. All this "you must give up everything for baby" is a little over the top.

 

[Pinkcasi]

Oh mack thank you so much that us the exact post I've been needing, not that the rest if you aren't helpful lol but I think that the 'ladies' on the other thread a just aren't listening to me they seem to think that I'm forcing Stella to go 6 hours in between feeding that's ridiculous, the point is in hospital she chose to go that long there were medical professionals who didn't have issue with it, she was very newborn AND I had pethidine during labour which can make baby drowsy after, now she's older she's not going that long at all, THat was my bother that all of a sudden she's wanting food every 2 minutes.
Anyway night 2 and she went from about midnight till 4 so I think that's good, I'll take that, it's now 5.15 if I can now get to 8 or 9 I'll be winning but she only had 10 mins so I'm not expecting a miracle.
I saw a friend yesterday and Stel started grisling and she said 'is she due a feed' to which I said 'I don't know' there is no due and the moment there's no patten or routine were just getting to know one another and making it up as we go along, I'm ok with that, I think I was just thrown by how different night 3 was compared to nights 1 and 2 but I guess I should have expected it.
Anyway I'm rambling it's cos it's 5am and I'm sleep deprived lol best get used to it.

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Hey Ladies

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Oh mack thank you so much that us the exact post I've been needing, not that the rest if you aren't helpful lol but I think that the 'ladies' on the other thread a just aren't listening to me they seem to think that I'm forcing Stella to go 6 hours in between feeding that's ridiculous, the point is in hospital she chose to go that long there were medical professionals who didn't have issue with it, she was very newborn AND I had pethidine during labour which can make baby drowsy after, now she's older she's not going that long at all, THat was my bother that all of a sudden she's wanting food every 2 minutes.
Anyway night 2 and she went from about midnight till 4 so I think that's good, I'll take that, it's now 5.15 if I can now get to 8 or 9 I'll be winning but she only had 10 mins so I'm not expecting a miracle.
I saw a friend yesterday and Stel started grisling and she said 'is she due a feed' to which I said 'I don't know' there is no due and the moment there's no patten or routine were just getting to know one another and making it up as we go along, I'm ok with that, I think I was just thrown by how different night 3 was compared to nights 1 and 2 but I guess I should have expected it.
Anyway I'm rambling it's cos it's 5am and I'm sleep deprived lol best get used to it.

Pink- I think you are doing a pretty good job! Stella is beautiful and sooner than later you two will be in sync with each other! You guys are just getting to know each other which takes time, NOTHING wrong with that at all...

Congrats again!!! I hope that one day I will actually be able to take my baby home just like you, and not have to say goodbye again to another one of my little angels 😩🙏

 

[Pinkcasi]

Thank you Mariah's mom I'm finding myself getting ever more annoyed with that other thread I do hope I manage to stay calm lol I've already told them off I can get away with it tho by blaming hormones right lol

Don't worry you'll get your take home rainbow I just know it!

 

[Pinkcasi]

Oh and left just with reference to your comment about by the time you have your lo I'll be giving expert advice, firstly pah! I don't think so lol
But I do have something already, I pass it on because I really wish if had it beforehand my cousin have me this tip, after our first bad night home she said did you use your own blanket in the hospital? I didn't, I had my blanket but the hospital had several so I just ended up using them, my cousin said if you use your own blanket in hospital then when you get home it's not such a shock for baby as they have the same smell rather than going into a new weird smelling everything also she said if you rub the blanket on you so it smells of you or express a little milk on it, it's all about your smell.

This might all be common sense to some but I didn't even think and t was all strange and weird for her and she screamed all night, that might have happened anyway but who knows.

It's 8.50am and we've had a better night, still feeding lots but avoided the unnecessary screaming.

 

[Left wonderin]

Great tip,Starry thanks ... See an expert already

 

[Pinkcasi]

My hormones must be in check I'm not even going to take offence that you gave starry credit for my tip lol
Baby brain huh, my baby brain hit an all time high since she's been here lol

 

[garfie]

I'm sure left can be forgiven - she has mega baby brain at the mo

As for you Pink - sorry to say but you never get rid of baby brain - it just gets worse or that's my excuse anyway.

I also used to swaddle my boys - not sure if ladies still do that though - it gives them a feeling of security. Have you seen when Stella jumps in her sleep it wakes her up - if not you will

Has hubby changed her bum yet?



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