March/April BFP's who's going for it!! NEW LADIES COME JOIN IN!!

[ab75]

Hi,can i join? Started miscarrying on sun night,i was 4+1. Went to doc yday,was completely insensitive and basically said i shouldn't have tested early then i would've thought this was a period! It is nothing like a period! I also had 4 mc b4 i had my 2 beautiful dd's. Hope i catch the rainbow next month. Amanda xx

 

[Unexpected212]

Of course you can join!

Hello Ab!

Sorry to hear your doctor was so nasty and I'm so sorry you had four miscarriages in the past and this one as well.

Sending hugs your way x

 

[nevergivingup]

Hi,can i join? Started miscarrying on sun night,i was 4+1. Went to doc yday,was completely insensitive and basically said i shouldn't have tested early then i would've thought this was a period! It is nothing like a period! I also had 4 mc b4 i had my 2 beautiful dd's. Hope i catch the rainbow next month. Amanda xx

Hello AB, and so sorry to hear of your most recent loss as well as the previous ones. Regardless if you hadn't tested early you would've known. We gals know our bodies when it comes to a m/c, sadly out body dosent play roller coaster with us when it comes to getting rid of the baby but I guess it's doing it's job at least that's what I have to think what happened. Hope these sad days end for you and better days pop up soon

 

[Ladyycamper]

Hi Ladies.
So Im now 15dpo today.
i was so sure when i got of bed this morning i had started.
I had all the normal signs, horrible headache cramping, and a little nauseous now.
But when i check, absolutely nothing.
I didnt really have any CM yesterday but have some this morning, a bit of a yellow color.
checked my cervical position last night and it had lowered a little but checked again this morning and its back up way high again, cant barley reach it.

 

[Mummy to be x]

Hi,can i join? Started miscarrying on sun night,i was 4+1. Went to doc yday,was completely insensitive and basically said i shouldn't have tested early then i would've thought this was a period! It is nothing like a period! I also had 4 mc b4 i had my 2 beautiful dd's. Hope i catch the rainbow next month. Amanda xx

Oh my goodness how insensitive of the doctor. Hugs to you and I'm so sorry for your loss xx

 

[ESwemba84]

Garfie.......I joined this thread in the summer of 2012 and I'm still trying......

I can't imagine the feeling ES and Garfie, but I'm one of the oldies that's hanging in here with y'all rooting yal on bc I know it's got to happen and I want to be here to jump up and down for ya when it does!!

ES are you still on the weight loss goal? I need you to motivate me bc I completely gave up fatty food is wayy better but I've gained weight from it.

Yes ma'am! I am now down to 184 (remember my starting weight was 240) so I've now lost a total of 56 lbs! But trust me.....I still dabble in the fatty foods, but sparingly. I really hoped the weight loss would help with my short cycles.....and trouble getting pregnant.....but I haven't seen a drastic improvement in that department.

My goal weight is 150-160, so just a short 24 lbs to go!

 

[Unexpected212]

Wow congrats on the weight loss that is impressive!

 

[Mrs W 11]

AB I am so sorry to hear what your dr said, completely insensitive.

Ladycamper - its sounding good for you! I hope this is your bfp, keep us posted.

ES well done on the impressive weight loss! I had lost a stone earlier this year but have put it all back on since being pregnant and miscarrying anmd now I just dont feel in the right place to loose it even though I feel really down.

As for me.... cycles completely messed up following my mc. Last cycle I had spotting for a week after AF, I then had spotting for 4 days over ov. Spotting started again 5dpo and carried on until full blown af tipped up at only 9dpo

This cycle I am trying agnus castus, star flower oil and acupuncture and I have a drs appointment friday. I am going to ask for a scan to check the bleeding isnt being caused by retained tissue but i suspect its hormonal.

 

[MamaTex]

Garfie.......I joined this thread in the summer of 2012 and I'm still trying......

I can't imagine the feeling ES and Garfie, but I'm one of the oldies that's hanging in here with y'all rooting yal on bc I know it's got to happen and I want to be here to jump up and down for ya when it does!!

ES are you still on the weight loss goal? I need you to motivate me bc I completely gave up fatty food is wayy better but I've gained weight from it.

Yes ma'am! I am now down to 184 (remember my starting weight was 240) so I've now lost a total of 56 lbs! But trust me.....I still dabble in the fatty foods, but sparingly. I really hoped the weight loss would help with my short cycles.....and trouble getting pregnant.....but I haven't seen a drastic improvement in that department.

My goal weight is 150-160, so just a short 24 lbs to go!

Wow! 56 lbs! That is amazing. You go girl. If you ever feel comfortable I would love to see before and after photos. What kind of exercises have you been doing?

 

[Left wonderin]

Wow ES that is no small achievement !! Congradulations I've battled to loose the same 2 stone for years !!! Never quite succeeded ! But will give it another go soon !

 

[Ladyycamper]

Hi ladies
Af is on her way.
So im out this month.
Can I join for next months BFP?

 

[ESwemba84]

Mamatex, sure I'll share photos! I'll post tomorrow!

 

[Little_one]

Hello ladies sorry to have been so quiet lately. My levels are nearly back to normal so no medical interference is required. Still some bleeding however it's now spotting so I'm hoping it's coming to an end. It's a raw painful reminder.
We are taking a break this month and will be trying from April. It's my birthday and hoping it will bring us a little luck or distraction either way!!
Hello to all you lovely new ladies and sorry to hear of any losses I don't know whether a miscarriage makes us stronger or weaker I'm still trying to decide what I feel other than crap!
I plan to use OPK's this month to check whether I ovulate as normal and see how affected my cycle is this month.

How are you all? How are those lovely babies baking, who's testing this week? I'm keeping my fingers crossed we have some nice news soon on here it's all been a little sad lately.

Brunette I guess you may be lurking but I have been thinking of you ❤️

 

[Starry Night]

I don't know if my miscarriage experiences have made me stronger or not either. I had a friend tell me that my trials were making me into a beautiful person but I don't really see it just yet. I feel like they have made me into an ugly person. Not physically, of course, but selfish, jaded and fearful and depressed.

Right now my miscarriages are simply something that have happened. I guess I'm not ready to think of a 'reason' or all that I have learned. Not sure I can take anything away until I put the TTC/pregnancy world behind me. Hindsight will hopefully give me some perspective.

 

[Little_one]

That's the thing with hindsight it's a wonderful thing! I do think even those who don't miscarry must be just as strong on this TTC journey. Every loss or AF and we all somehow manage to pick ourselves up time and time again. I think it helps having a support as lovely as you girls though. If only we could be given a guaranteed date for it to happen by, that would be amazing no more piecing your heart back together with every new month or loss.
Our OH's as amazing as they are they just don't quite understand it all, as women we know exactly how it all feels.
Starry how have you coped with 4 losses? X

 

[Starry Night]

It's been hard, to be honest. There have been times I felt that I wasn't coping. I got post partum depression after my first loss and my last one. I always got a bit of depression after a loss but those two were especially bad. Once I was able to give it a name, though, I was better able to cope. I think the hardest bit has been the anger and feeling isolated from the world. People can say the meanest things without ever intending to and I think people in my neck o' the woods didn't understand that I really wanted my privacy to grieve. I think they resented I wasn't out and about or inviting them to come help me with things. But I wasn't inviting them because I was sick of hearing "it's God's will" or "keep trying" or "it wasn't the right time" or "you need to let it go", etc, etc.

I do have an older lady friend who had 3 miscarriages and also struggles with depression on a regular basis so I did have someone to talk to. That always helps. And after awhile, you learn to carry the grief. I got pregnant again fairly quickly after each of my losses and since it seems I"m keeping this one it has helped with the healing. It gives me a positive focus. I don't think I've properly said 'good-bye' to my latest angel yet and I'm waiting for that, but I do feel closure on the others. I can think of them with a smile now. I've given them names and imagined little personalities for them (I like to guess at my babies' personalities very early on in the pregnancy based off of my symptoms).

And officially I have had 3 miscarriages but I did lose a twin with DS. I feel like I have to put that little asterisk by my four angels. My son's twin doesn't "count" to the medical community and I didn't even acknowledge him/her until after my son was born (it was too hard while I was still pregnant) and I'm afraid others won't count it either as I still got my happy ending out of that pregnancy. But that baby very much counts to me.

Not sure I could cope with another loss though and that is why we want to stop after this baby arrives. We had even contemplated not trying anymore if we had miscarried this one as well. It gets to you after awhile.

 

[Little_one]

I don't think people know what words to say when they learn of someone's heartbreak of miscarriage or stillbirth. I find however that sometimes a hug is all that's needed. You sound like my mum, she had 3 miscarriages one was at 22 weeks he was a little boy she called him Daniel and the 4th again doesn't count was a town at 11 weeks, she started to bleed and was told she was miscarrying turns out only one was lost. My brother is the only left handed child in the family it's pretty odd how things go: we often sit together and talk about it. Just because they happen not to be with us doesn't mean they didn't happen.
I have had two now within 8 months! Both very early this one literally a few days after AF was due and the first one at 6 weeks. It's sad to realise that had I of never miscarried i would have a second child now. It hurts but I am thankful they weren't later, this past year I have known 4 people to have stillborn babies past 28 weeks. Their first anniversaries start from April through to July. I don't know how they muster the strength to continue trying my heart breaks for all these little lost souls.

Starry were all here whenever your having a down time, it's good to talk! ❤️

 

[nevergivingup]

Garfie.......I joined this thread in the summer of 2012 and I'm still trying......

I can't imagine the feeling ES and Garfie, but I'm one of the oldies that's hanging in here with y'all rooting yal on bc I know it's got to happen and I want to be here to jump up and down for ya when it does!!

ES are you still on the weight loss goal? I need you to motivate me bc I completely gave up fatty food is wayy better but I've gained weight from it.

Yes ma'am! I am now down to 184 (remember my starting weight was 240) so I've now lost a total of 56 lbs! But trust me.....I still dabble in the fatty foods, but sparingly. I really hoped the weight loss would help with my short cycles.....and trouble getting pregnant.....but I haven't seen a drastic improvement in that department.

My goal weight is 150-160, so just a short 24 lbs to go!

184!!!!!!!! (my mouth dropped opened ) WHAATTTT!!! O my I feel horrible you are doing AMAZING!!!! Now ES are you sure you're still eating bc my dabbling in fatty foods is no help or maybe my dabbling is more "mauling" ES I know you look GREAT!! The weight lost has to count for something towards TTC, right?!! Or rather I would like to think so with all that hard work, it will help out ES. Thanks for sharing I am officially motivated! Diet here I come.....again

 

[Tricia173]

It's been hard, to be honest. There have been times I felt that I wasn't coping. I got post partum depression after my first loss and my last one. I always got a bit of depression after a loss but those two were especially bad. Once I was able to give it a name, though, I was better able to cope. I think the hardest bit has been the anger and feeling isolated from the world. People can say the meanest things without ever intending to and I think people in my neck o' the woods didn't understand that I really wanted my privacy to grieve. I think they resented I wasn't out and about or inviting them to come help me with things. But I wasn't inviting them because I was sick of hearing "it's God's will" or "keep trying" or "it wasn't the right time" or "you need to let it go", etc, etc.

I do have an older lady friend who had 3 miscarriages and also struggles with depression on a regular basis so I did have someone to talk to. That always helps. And after awhile, you learn to carry the grief. I got pregnant again fairly quickly after each of my losses and since it seems I"m keeping this one it has helped with the healing. It gives me a positive focus. I don't think I've properly said 'good-bye' to my latest angel yet and I'm waiting for that, but I do feel closure on the others. I can think of them with a smile now. I've given them names and imagined little personalities for them (I like to guess at my babies' personalities very early on in the pregnancy based off of my symptoms).

And officially I have had 3 miscarriages but I did lose a twin with DS. I feel like I have to put that little asterisk by my four angels. My son's twin doesn't "count" to the medical community and I didn't even acknowledge him/her until after my son was born (it was too hard while I was still pregnant) and I'm afraid others won't count it either as I still got my happy ending out of that pregnancy. But that baby very much counts to me.

Not sure I could cope with another loss though and that is why we want to stop after this baby arrives. We had even contemplated not trying anymore if we had miscarried this one as well. It gets to you after awhile.

Losing a twin truly counts! My son started out as a twin and it destroyed me when lost the second baby! Though it hurt I just focused on my healthy little boy!

Miscarriages are terrible, I don't know why we have to suffer through them, when we lost our first one in 2011 I dud not think I could ever pick up those pieces, it hurts still to think about that lost angel!

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Hello ladies sorry to have been so quiet lately. My levels are nearly back to normal so no medical interference is required. Still some bleeding however it's now spotting so I'm hoping it's coming to an end. It's a raw painful reminder.
We are taking a break this month and will be trying from April. It's my birthday and hoping it will bring us a little luck or distraction either way!!
Hello to all you lovely new ladies and sorry to hear of any losses I don't know whether a miscarriage makes us stronger or weaker I'm still trying to decide what I feel other than crap!
I plan to use OPK's this month to check whether I ovulate as normal and see how affected my cycle is this month.

How are you all? How are those lovely babies baking, who's testing this week? I'm keeping my fingers crossed we have some nice news soon on here it's all been a little sad lately.

Brunette I guess you may be lurking but I have been thinking of you ❤️

HAPPY BDAY

It's good to hear that your levels are going back to normal and you don't need medical interference. Taking a month off is a good idea and I hope it will be a peaceful and prosperous month for you. I know NOTHING can take your mind off or make a loss less painful but time is the best medicine to gain clarity.

I hope your bday is a great one!!!!!