March/April Spring Rainbows

[klabro]

Feeling panicked today because my breast tenderness has totally disappeared. I don't think I can survive a 5th loss

I'm sorry Sophie, I completely understand why you would worry about that from your history. In my pregnancy with DD I had major breast tenderness until right at 7 weeks and then all at once it just disappeared too. Freaked me out as it was literally the only symptom I really had in that pregnancy, but it turned out to be fine. Will they get you in for a scan if you request one?

 

[Sophie2015]

Feeling panicked today because my breast tenderness has totally disappeared. I don't think I can survive a 5th loss

I'm sorry Sophie, I completely understand why you would worry about that from your history. In my pregnancy with DD I had major breast tenderness until right at 7 weeks and then all at once it just disappeared too. Freaked me out as it was literally the only symptom I really had in that pregnancy, but it turned out to be fine. Will they get you in for a scan if you request one?

That makes me feel a little better. We are on vacation and my Dr doesn't work Thursday or Friday so scan is Monday. Feels forever away.

 

[mrs unicorn]

So glad you've managed to get a scan Sophie. Breast tenderness is my only real symptom that I've had since my bfp so I'd feel the same if that disappeared. Fx all is fine. I was reading they're not supposed to hurt all the time, they are supposed to stop at some point in the first tri.

Klabro - I've been a touch emotional, nothing too ott. I was really grumpy on Saturday, snapping and whining at DH - he did mention it! Then I properly lost it whilst trying to get my stuffed peppers to stand up in the oven last night I'm not someone with a short fuse normally!

 

[Sophie2015]

My breast tenderness came back last night! Thank God!! I know it can be normal for symptoms to come and go but with my first loss my only symptom, breast tenderness, went away prior to 8 weeks and at my 8 week scan the HR was 42. That kind of loss sticks with you and I can't help but compare.

 

[mrs unicorn]

I know hun, I completely understand I'm glad it's back for you! It's great that you've got a scan in a few days too. xx

Only 2 days till my first scan. I'm excited but also terrified. I'm so scared I'll hear those words again 'I'm sorry I can't find anything' I know I'll be early but there should be something there if all is well. I'm dreading those few silent seconds where you're waiting for them to say something. Gotta think positive, must keep positive!

 

[babywebb]

Hey everyone! Cautiously joining this group. My husband and I lost our first baby back in March. We saw a perfect little baby with perfect heartbeat at 7w2d and went back in at 12 weeks when doctors told us baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. We just found out we are expecting again and don't have first scan until I'm 7 weeks on August 18th. I'm so nervous that the same thing will happen again. I know if it's Gods' will it will happen but I'm so incredibly nervous. Hope things are going well for all of you ladies!

 

[klabro]

Welcome babywebb, congratulations on the pregnancy. Hoping for a beautiful scan for you at 7 weeks! Will they be offering you more frequent scans afterwards because of last time just to put your mind at ease?

Mrs Unicorn-Totally understand your fear. As much as I want to get to the first ultrasound I hate the first ultrasound. Actually I hate the first 2 ultrasounds. Will you be getting more frequent scans in first tri this time or just the dating and 12 week scan? Its just worrisome when you are in first tri and don't really know what is going on in there. I'm still not sure how I managed to get through with my first pregnancy as I only had a scan at 7 weeks and then not again until 20 weeks. This last pregnancy I had bi-weekly scans up until my loss. I'm really having a tough time right now thinking that my next scan isn't for another 5 weeks.

I started feeling suddenly better yesterday so of course that is freaking me out. I was feeling so tired and just nauseated all day and then yesterday I suddenly wasn't as tired or nauseated and had more energy. I know its normal, I guess I was just hoping to feel like crap until my next appointment or at least until I can pick up a heartbeat on my doppler.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Welcome and congrats babywebb! Fx we all have sticky beans this time round. X

Klabro - I have two more private scan booked at 7+2 and 9+2 (12 week is NHS) Originally I couldn't find anywhere that would do them earlier than 7w but then found this clinic I'm going to on Friday, that's why I've got one at 7w too. I can move them though. I think we'll see how this first one goes before we decide whether to move them or not (I'm thinking move them to 8 & 10 possibly). Like you, I don't want too many weeks inbetween scans. It's only been two weeks but it feels like forever already! 5 weeks is a long time, can you get additional scans?

 

[klabro]

Mrs Unicorn-glad you are getting those extra scans! I think 8 and 10 weeks would be a good time to have them. Unfortunately no extra scans for me, I'll have to wait. I suppose it will be fine, I just hate having to wait that long. Just hoping that the time goes fast over the next month. Once I get to 12 weeks I have a feeling that things are going to start going much quicker as I will be having weekly appointments. Maybe I should try to sit back and relax a little bit right now knowing that its out of my hands. Easier said than done.

 

[raine87]

Klabro-- I understand trying to relax and let things be. Sometimes I wonder why I would allow myself to schedule my ultrasound so far out and then I remember it's so I can just let it grow. We told my MIL today she literally said, "oh, ok". I was hoping she would be more excited than that.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Yes, I am trying to do that too - accepting it's out of my hands. It does help, I've only freaked out with fear once so far! I think DH is surprised at how calm I am! I'm not a patient person and if something bothers me, it really bothers me - not much did till we started TTC! I still want all the scans though. Waiting till 10 weeks to see an empty sac was horrendous. I can't actually believe we waited so long. Scan is tomorrow morning so fx we see something!

 

[Sophie2015]

Klabro- I hope your symptoms have returned and you are feeling better about things!

Raine87- your MIL's response sounds a little like I expect my own mom (and pretty much all our family) to respond. We haven't told anyone except a few supportive friends so far. The negativity and lack of support and excitement overwhelms me. I'm sorry you have people like that in your life.

Mrs. Unicorn- I can't wait to see your scan! It's going to be great I just know it!

Babywebb- welcome!!! H&H 9 months to you!!

AFM, we are home from the beach. Next ultrasound is Monday. I'll be 8+2. Week 8 is when we usually get bad news so I'll be glad to be past that.

 

[klabro]

Excited to see your scan today Mrs Unicorn!

Raine87-I'm sorry for the lackluster response. I kind of feel like that has been my response so far too. Mostly for me I think it is because people are really unsure of what this pregnancy is going to entail and so they just don't know what to say. Hopefully when you decide to tell more people you will get some more supportive/excited responses.

Sophie-I'll feel relieved for you after your scan. I can imagine that is a big milestone for you and I look forward to seeing your scan pics. Week 20-22 are going to be the hard ones for me this time and I can already imagine how you are feeling right now. I hope for your sake this next week goes quickly.

My symptoms did return. Should have enjoyed feeling good a little bit more than I did I suppose

 

[mrs unicorn]

Raine - sorry I missed that bit about your MILs response. I wonder if it's like Klabro said, people are not sure how to react. Like should they jump for joy or would that upset you type thing? I dunno. We haven't told anyone yet. I think we'll end up telling people before 12 weeks as its my birthday around 9/10 weeks so we'll be seeing everyone. My worry is that people will celebrate and I won't want them to at that early stage.

Sophie - not long to wait for your next scan now. Fx you'll see that little heartbeat again and you can relax a little.

Klabro - These milestones are hard right? I hate that yours is so much further away than the usual 12 weeks. But we'll all be here to help you through it and hopefully with all your appointments after 12 weeks you'll be so busy time will fly by. Xxx

 

[klabro]

Just got a call from my OB office and they moved my first appointment up to August 29. That will put me at 10 weeks instead of 12, feeling much better about that. It won't be a scan, but she will listen to heartbeat at that appointment, so that will be something! Feeling much better after that call. I was struggling a bit with the thought of having to wait so long for my first appointment.

 

[Sophie2015]

Klabro- that's awesome! Just a few more weeks.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Klabro - that's great news!

My first scan went well! We couldn't see baby but saw a big lovely round yolk sac and a nice thick lining. Doc thinks I am under 6 weeks by a day or two as I predicted. Shame we could see baby but I am feeling much more reassured now. Debating on whether to keep my 7 w scan or push it back to 8 weeks now!

 

[Sophie2015]

mrs unicorn- glad you are feeling better!! You have more willpower than I do if you move your scan. I'd go every other day if they'd let me. 😜
There is a place right up the road that does private "fun" scans and records the HB and then you pick a stuffed animal and they put the HB inside. They do 2d/3d/4d scans all in the same visit from 9 weeks and up. We will go there at least once as the 3 scans I have booked before 12 weeks won't be enough for us. I basically trade my poas obsession for ultrasounds. Lol.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Haha! Sophie I totally get you there! I said to DH 'I'd love to have a scan everyday if I could, or at least every week' he just rolled his eyes, he's used to my obsessive nature. Like you it's switched from poas to wanting scans. Shame they cost a bit more!!

 

[klabro]

I'm so glad you got some reassurance Mrs Unicorn. Personally, I don't think it would matter much between 7-8 weeks as you should be able to see baby and a heartbeat either way, so you should go when you think it will provide you with the most comfort!

It is killing me that I have to go 6 weeks between scans! That is what I had to do last time with the twins too, so I was kind of expecting it this time. Once I can get my own doppler out and find the HB I calm down a little. However, I would take any ultrasound offered to me! Heck, I'd go be a volunteer at an ultrasound school and let them scan me all day every day haha!
Sophie-I have never had a 3D ultrasound! I'd love to do that this time if I end up making it past my previous loss I just might schedule one to celebrate!