March/April Spring Rainbows

[Sophie2015]

Hi ladies. Thanks for your support. There was no heartbeat at today's ultrasound. Baby measured 2-3 days behind so it was recent. D&C Thursday. It's our 5th loss in under 3 years. I think we may be done. Good luck to you all!

 

[raine87]

I missed a lot due to having to work the weekend! Welcome to the new ladies!


Sophie-- I am so sorry to hear about your scan. I'm glad they are doing the procedure quickly. I know what you mean about being done. DH and I have talked about not trying again if we miscarry this time too. How are you doing?

 

[klabro]

Sophie-my heart is broken for you. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. If you ever need to vent or talk feel free to message me.

 

[Sophie2015]

Thx ladies. I feel totally numb. Gonna self medicate today with a little Xanax. I figure I've earned at least one day of numb self pity. Tomorrow I'll start running. With my 3rd loss I ran over 100 miles in 3 weeks. It helped keep me sane. I'll be 44 in a few weeks yet my labs are good and my cycles still perfect 28 day cycles. My RE isn't ready to quit. I'm just not sure my heart and marriage can handle much more. We married in October of 2013. Started losing babies in January 2014. It's been a rough 3 years. No clue how we're even still together honestly.

I'm gonna hop off here. I don't want to be a downer for you guys. Sincerely wishing you all H&H 9 months.

 

[klabro]

Sophie- you are always welcome here to vent or if you need people to talk to about your loss. We all have been there before and while we may not fully understand your exact situation we are always here to listen.

 

[MessyTess2016]

Hello Ladies!

Just found out on Friday that we are expecting again. We had a loss @ 7 weeks 3 years ago. That was after 2 years of trying, two more years of trying after that yielded nothing but disappointment. We decided to stop trying, we were even preventing, but not very well apparently. So this is a big shock and a roller coaster of emotions for sure.

I've read through the thread and would love to join you ladies!

Sophie: I'm so sorry for your loss hun, keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[klabro]

Welcome MessyTess and congratulations on your BFP! Looking forward to having you join us here! Have you set your first appointment yet?

 

[mrs unicorn]

Oh Sophie I'm so so sorry. I'm devastated for you. I'm glad you're not having to wait too long before the procedure (I found the wait hard). Like Klabro said you are welcome here anytime, please don't feel you shouldn't be here. We all need support in times like this and we'll help as best we can. Take a few days to absorb this. Don't throw yourself back into 'normal' life straight away. Give yourself a break, you've been through a lot. Sending healing thoughts your way. Xxx

 

[mrs unicorn]

Welcome messy and congratulations! PAL is certainly a roller coaster of emotions. I think we're all desparate for August and September to be over!

 

[dreamingmom]

Sophie- I am so so sorry for your loss! I am sending up prayers for your babies in heaven and for you and your DH.

Messy- Welcome, I had a similar situation with a loss two years ago followed by to years of trying each month with no results. Congrats on your BFP!!

 

[raine87]

So for some reason I woke up today regretting scheduling my first scan so far away. However, I feel like I can really start counting down. 9 days! At least I'll be busy at work these 2 weeks. I think DH is starting to finally come around. Last night he was getting onto the dog for trying to walk across me.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Yeah I'm regretting moving mine back a week too. I know it's the right thing to do but I'm feeling quite anxious and grumpy about it all today. It's not till the 27th, feels forever away.

Glad your DH is coming round. I guess it takes a bit of time to feel confident enough to even mention it!

 

[MessyTess2016]

Thanks for the warm welcome ladies!

My doctor is on holidays, so I won't see her until August 31. I will be biting my nails until then, and hopefully she will get me in for an scan right after I see her!

Yesterday I started feeling ridiculously hungry... like every couple hours I had actual hunger pains... it seems a touch early for this symptom. Any of you feel that?

 

[klabro]

Raine-9 days will pass so fast! It sounds like its a long ways right now, but before you know it you'll be in the waiting room. Glad to hear DH is coming around too!

Mrs Unicorn I know how you feel, my appointment isn't until the 29th and it is driving me crazy too. I've been a little grumpy about the wait. Although I know realistically there is no real reason I need to go in any earlier.

MessyTess-I've been pretty hungry throughout this pregnancy, only problem is that I feel kind of blah after I eat. Its been a non stop cycle.

 

[raine87]

Eating is tricky for me. I'll eat and feel ok and then BAM nausea. My first appointment is Sept 1st. I can't decide if I want to bring up announcing to DH on our anniversary (Sept 8th) which we would be right around 11 weeks or wait until my birthday which we would be around 14 weeks or do it on a day that has no other significance. I've also thought about doing it on Sept 19th which was my EDD with my last miscarriage.

 

[Kazy]

Hi ladies. I'm already in another April group but can I join you? My lmp gives me March 25 but I know I'm at least a week later. I have dating scan tomorrow.

My.last.pregnancy I saw two strong heart beats at 7w4d only to lost one twin. I found out at 11 weeks but it looks like I lost it right after that scan. The pregnancy before that was a mmc at 11 weeks (baby measured 7ish weeks). So needless to say I'm nervous.

 

[klabro]

raine-when to announce is such a big decision!! Very exciting time I'm still standing by my making a public announcement once I have a healthy baby in my arms. I have told my parents and will tell my in-laws the next time we see them. I can't hide my pregnancy anymore, I look obviously pregnant. Nobody lives in the same town as us though so its been pretty easy to keep quiet thus far.

Welcome Kazy and congratulations! Sorry for your previous losses, but glad to have you joining us on the journey!

 

[raine87]

I'm a fluffy girl so I won't show for quite a while. We already know how we want to announce, it's just the when that's super tricky. We have a pretty good group of friends that I know will want to celebrate with us.

Kazy-- welcome! Let us know how your scan goes!

 

[mrs unicorn]

Welcome Kazy! Good luck for your scan. They are so nerve wracking after a loss. I think I have a love hate relationship with them!

It is so tricky to know when to tell people. Maybe just see how you feel at the time, whether it's after a scan or not. You might find it helps to get through your original EDD or it could make it worse. I guess you'll know when the time is right.

If we could I would wait till at least 12 weeks, which weirdly is the day after the EDD of the MMC. But since the MMC people know we're TTC and as soon as they see me not drinking it'll be obvious. Also, I'm wearing baggy clothes because of the bloat!! I'm seeing my mum on Friday for her birthday and I'm pretty sure she'll know. I would love to tell all our parents because I know how happy they will be, but if it ends in mc again it'll be so hard so I'd rather wait.

 

[dreamingmom]

I have a question: I am on cd 42 counting from my LMP. Mathematically 42 divided by 7(days in a week) is 6, so I figured I was 6 weeks pregnant but my pregnancy calculator says 5 weeks and 6 days. Where did the 4 days go?