March/April Spring Rainbows

[Sophie2015]

Omg it never occurred to me to volunteer at a sonography school!!!! 😂

 

[dreamingmom]

Hi ladies, I have been reading through your posts and I feel like this is the right thread for me, if you'll have me. I got my BFP this Monday and I am currently about 5 weeks. This has been a very long road for me and my DH. We have been trying for just over 3 years. After year one DH was diagnosed with Varicose Veins and told he was running too hot. He had surgery to correct the issue and I had my first pregnancy two months later. I lost that pregnancy only two days after getting my BFP. It was considered a blighted ovum. Since then we had no luck getting pregnant again even after three IUI's, it was very stressful since the only diagnosis the doctors could give me was "unknown infertility". We were just about to start planning for the IVF when I decided to try acupuncture first. The acupuncturist diagnosed me with "Cold Uterus" in other words my body temp was too low to incubate properly. At the same time DH saw a new doctor that felt he was still running too hot. So while I worked to heat myself up, he worked to keep himself cool. After only two visits with the acupuncturist I got my BFP! I want to be super excited about this but I can't seem to allow myself to accept that it is real or that it will last after all that we have been through. DH is super excited and has already told his parents and most of his coworkers. I told one friend that has been my go to through out this whole process and of course the acupuncturist but I am afraid if I tell anyone else it will all just go away again. At the same time I have reached out to so many people for support over these last three years I don't know if I'll be able to keep it quiet for too long. I have my first scan and Ob appointment on September 2nd, I will be about 8 weeks by then. I have had a mix of pregnancy symptoms but the biggest one is that I am "extremely stupid" LOL. It took me 15 minutes to figure out that I took the Parmesan Cheese from the fridge and put it in the cupboard rather than on the counter when I was making lunch today. I know pregnancy brain is a real thing but I didn't think it hit this early. Is anyone else experiencing this symptom?

 

[klabro]

Welcome dreamingmom. I'm sorry for the long process you have had to go through to get here, but glad you are here! If you have shared your struggles with people and you want to tell them you are expecting, I say go for it. You should celebrate this pregnancy and let yourself enjoy it as much as you can and if you have a strong support system I am sure that they will help you maintain your positivity throughout. We're always here for the venting as well! As for pregnancy brain, I don't think I've really noticed anything yet. I'm just a little more sluggish/tired than usual so that has a tendency to make me a little slower than normal at times haha!

 

[Sophie2015]

Welcome dreamingmom! So sorry about your loss and struggle with infertility. But glad you found us. FX'd for a H&H 9 months.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Welcome dreaming! And congratulations! So happy to hear you've finally got your bfp after that long journey. Fx it's a sticky bean this time. These first few weeks are tricky, like you I'm scared to all out celebrate like last time just incase. I'm hoping once I have my next scan, probably at 8 weeks, I'll feel confident enough to get excited.

I told my brother and SIL last night. They had a MMC in May, just 2 months after mine. I'm going to a spa at the end of next week with my SIL so she would have worked it out pretty quickly. They're very happy for us but totally understand why we are approaching with caution!

 

[dreamingmom]

Thanks everyone, I am feeling a little more positive today. Just getting on here and sharing this news was a good first step for me. I am planning on breaking the news to my sister tomorrow. I figured if I tell a few close friends and family over the next few weeks, I can ease into it so I will be ready to tell anyone I want once I hopefully get positive news at my first appointment.

Klabro- I have been very fatigued lately as well,by two o'clock I am ready for a nap, which is not the norm for me since I don't usually like naps at all! I'm sure this isn't helping my mental alertness either. DH also thinks its because I am stressing about the pregnancy and if I tell people I will be able to keep my focus better. This is one of the reasons I am going to tell my sister, I know she is going to be very supportive and positive.

 

[angel4eva]

Is this a BFP? Convinced it is, and if it is will be our 3rd baby, our rainbow baby after losing our boy last September. If so will be due April!

Opinions please.

 

[Sophie2015]

Angel4eva- it looks BFP to me!! Did it come up within the time frame?

 

[angel4eva]

Angel4eva- it looks BFP to me!! Did it come up within the time frame?

Yes, within 5 minutes and I took a second one and that came up the same within a short time too, under 5 minutes.

 

[Sophie2015]

Congrats and welcome!!

 

[Sophie2015]

So odd question. I think unless you've lost a pregnancy you might not understand this, but anyone else feeling overly cautious? I'm avoiding all kinds of things I'm told are "safe". Sunscreen, coloring my hair, manicures, etc. Am I being silly? I've had 4 losses. Two of them for unknown reasons. And I find myself trying to live in a bubble at least until the first trimester is over.

 

[angel4eva]

Congrats and welcome!!

Thanks, I couldn't believe that when I saw it this morning, I still don't believe I am really but for 2 tests to be the same it more then likely is! 😯

 

[mrs unicorn]

Congrats angel and welcome!!

Sophie - yep, I'm the same. I'm going to a spa on Thursday and have changed my massage to a manicure even though my midwife said it would be fine. DH is cleaning the bathroom and doing the hoovering (not sure how long that will last though!!) I won't eat pepperoni even though it's on pizza and I know it's safe! But then on the other hand I'm still going to the gym. I thought I'd be too scared to. My midwife said to carry on going but do 'no sweat workouts' I go every other day but it totally wipes me out!

 

[klabro]

Welcome and congratulations angel!

dreaming-I hope you get positive news at your first appointment too. I know the days leading up to that point can be stressful, filled with worry.

Sophie- I am extremely overly cautious. My overly cautious things center around not straining myself as to not disrupt my cervix since that was my issue. I instantly quit carrying or picking up my DD. Which wasn't a big deal because she is 4, but the second I got the positive I quit. I make my hubby carry all of the groceries in, quit taking a bath and only take showers to lower the chances of getting any sort of infection. There are so many little ways that I have altered my routine. Most of the things aren't considered necessary at this point in the pregnancy but I don't care, I still need to feel like I'm doing everything that I can the "right" way.

 

[dreamingmom]

Angel: Its light but I definitely see a second line....Congrats

Sophie: I am definitely being overly cautious. Since my issues getting pregnant seemed to center around my temp not staying warm enough on its own, I wear socks to bed and sleep under a blanket even the last two days when it has been extremely hot and humid. I am also still taking my temp every morning to make sure it is not dropping and to make sure I am not overdoing it and raising it too much. In addition, to that I made DH carry in all the grocery bags and passed on the Tabouli salad because it has Parsley and I heard parsley can cause contractions. I've done more research and it said to only worry if your having a ton of parsley(like pounds) and/or Parsley seeds or oils but I still didn't want to take a chance. I am also writing down everything I eat and drink to make sure I am having a balanced healthy diet. I know there was nothing I could have done about my original loss but I am so afraid I'll do or won't do something that will harm the pregnancy or the baby.

I took the next step today and told my sister about the pregnancy. She was very excited, I did have to tell her to slow down because she was ready to run out to the store and start buying baby gear. I am glad I told her though, I am starting to allow myself to be a bit more positive and she told me that she is filing for divorce in the same conversation so I am glad I could give her something else to fixate on and look forward too.

 

[Sophie2015]

8+2 week ultrasound is tomorrow. Oddly I'm not super nervous. I'm more worried about my genetics test in 2 weeks. I will be so glad to be out of 1st trimester!!

 

[mrs unicorn]

Eeeeeek Sophie, so exciting! Good luck for your scan! I cannot wait for my 8+2 scan - only 2 weeks to go - urgh! Please show us your picture.

Dreaming - Yey for telling your sister. I know what you mean about not wanting everyone to go all out celebrating. I think if your family know of your loss it kinda makes them want to do it even more. I know it'll be the same with our parents. There will be tears I know it! But hopefully if we get past the 12 week mark it will be celebrations all round.

 

[angel4eva]

Thanks all for your congratulations, and to you all too.

I'll be really anxious until 12 weeks because last time I had mine it was high risk.

I will be having regular scans, but still won't be able to do the test until the 12 week mark.

Only positive is I've been taking 5mg folic acid since November, or though this last month I've been forgetting most days, but i imagine I've still got high doses in my system...I hope!

 

[klabro]

Thinking of you today Sophie! Can't wait to see your scan pic!

 

[Sophie2015]

Thanks ladies! I wasn't nervous but now I am. Appointment is in 3 hours.