March Mamas 2012 Baby Group (Closed Group)

[SeaThreePeeO]

Jess no longer likes to be swaddled, but when we did she would wear her vest, babygor/sleeper, swaddle me blanket and a thin blanket on toop that could be doubled over should it be cold.

I have calmed myself down after my panics over Jess's head. I'm now 99.9% certain nothing wrong, but at least I know what to look out for should there be.

Sorry I haven't been on much today. Bust day with the other two off of school.

 

[mitchnorm]

Mitch baby emery boards are great for smoothing nails and reducing the self mutilation! F sleeps in a sleepsuit (no vest) swaddle and then blanket if needed. Its about 19c in our room at night.

We got some emery boards and i used them the other day....just need to catch her in deep sleep so she isnt thrashhing around. Hate the nail clippers...have used on a couple of longer nails but either filed or bit off myself sharper nails

Rant time....its been a while....my parents finally left this morning....love them and everything but they are soooo set in their ways its unbelievable. There was a big hoo haa yesterday when i hadnt bought anything in for a sunday roast....so me and mum popped out to sainsburys for stuff. It became apparently.that OMG we werent going to.have dinner ready for their usual 2:30pm....dad stated the perhaps we should do some sandwiches and have roast later.....good grief its jot that long to wait and to.be honest my baby girl is governing when i eat, drink and sleep at the moment so cut me some slack.....its only going to be 1 hour late!!!!!! Plus i am jot being ungrateful here but they bought nothing for M...not even a gross pink fluffy outfit....its their first grand daughter i was at least expecting something like that. To be fair dad did say that me and mum should pop out to town and they would buy what i needed....but after getting M sorted, getting dinner stuff from supermarket the last thing i wanted to do was trek into town!!!! So they didnt buy anything for her......didnt even offer any money or vouchers. I must just say we dont need anything but still.....isnt it a bit weird that her grand parents bought nothing....not even a nice blanket or.something. I am probably being over sensitive

Muffin was lush......sitting watching tv on bnb with M in her carry cot....sort of feel i should be cuddling her to sleep ...but i want her to get used to both....she has been held alot in the last two days...oh and another thing...my mum smokes...not alot but this morni g she came in from outside smoking and wanted a last minute cuddle of M before she left.....fair enough but i could.smell smoke on her from the other side of the room...iam surprised i couldnt smell it on M when i got her back...at least she used the hand sanitiser before holdingher...thank god for.small mercies. I didnt say anything but i was p*ssed off.

Ok rant over...i sound like a right cow eh

 

[Skadi]

Mitch - While my parents have spent ton on Keira, OHs family hasn;t bought her a thing! I completely understand what you mean, to me it feels like they just don't care enough to bother!

 

[emera35]

Mitch I know what you mean makes me feel a bit ungratful grumbling about people and presents, but you can't help it really. I can understand you being a bit miffed about the nothing att all from the folks. Maybe you can go out with your mum to shop when Mia is a bit older and the presents have dried up? I feel simlar about my MIL. She just gets Roh totally random stuff. Like by the time a child is 2, anyone wth any sense will just buy them smethiing nice and small as a gift, or at least ask what they need, especially as a grandparent. My MIL however thinks differently. We said to her when she was here that we have asked everyone for Duplo for him as he loves it and its expensive so if everyone gets a little bit then he'll have a decent amount So suggested this and she says " oh, well I've bought him a trike" I was like ?? The one she's got costs like £70!! Why would she not check first if he needs one? We already got a trike secondhand so its soo silly to buy a new one for him! oh well, what can you do? Its so kind of her, so I feel awful moaning, but I wish she'd ask what we actually needs before she goes crazy spending money on stuff!
So yesn its different Mitch but I empathise

Also my Dad s the same with being really set in his ways. When they visited, they decided they wanted beans on toast for dinner, so. Was lke, great that's simple, I have that. But no, we had to go to the shop because I didn't have the right brand of beans, bread, or butter... mmmkay!? Life is hard enough trying to sort out a routine for the baby and fndng the time to take a pee ourselves, without having to cope with parents who are as twitchy as toddlers when you suggest having a non-routine day!
Oh well, visitors arw good. Its nice to have them over, and even better when they leave!

Ergh I sound a bit ranty now, ah well, I'm blaming hormones, feel free to ignore me!!

 

[waula]

Thanks for all the swaddle advice lads...hmmm... tried the swaddle for after his feed and N went mental!!! proper tears and jerky breath. hmmm....not convinced - maybe I should have tried him in it earlier?! Oh well, dummy in and he seems settled back in his pram with just his sleepsuit/blanket on.

Mitch - to be honest, I'd agree with you - I think that is a bit odd re your parents. Especially being the first girly one - I'd have thought you'd be inundated with pink frills!!!! And yes, I wouldn't have like the smoking thing either. Big hugs . I get on really well with my mum but after she was here every day for first couple of weeks I was ready for some "me" time. So you're not a cow (although, be nice to cows...remember I like them!!!).

ordered a playmat/gym thing from amazon for delivery tomorrow...N getting very active when he's awake - arms and legs batting in every direction - think he's going to like it!!!

dirty nappies - N normally had 4-6/day but past 2 days only had 1-2 (but hideous poonami one's) is this ok?? loads of wet ones... think he's a bit under the weather with a cold - he seems very snuffly - not sure if that's related?!

 

[emera35]

Waula their guts are gradually maturing so poo habits can change over time or suddenly. As long as they don't seem uncomortable and don't have poo that's hard or dry seeming, and like you said plenty of wet nappies then there's nothing to worry about. With BF babies pooing 10+ times a day, or a couple of times a week is all normal only other thing to look out for is green poo as that can indicate that its passing through their system too fast so they are not fully digesting the milk.
F poos all the time, with Roh it was just poomageddon twice a week, now those were scary poos!!

 

[Skadi]

Mmmm beans on toast, now I want some!

 

[emera35]

Skadi!

Yay the professional grade ear thermometer we ordered just arrived! I so should have bought a bloody good one 2 years ago!! The one I've had till now is sooo crap!! Roh's had a blatant raging fever before and its always read that he's fine Anyway, now have a fast infra-red one lke they have at the doctors with the little plastic covers for the end of it. Figured it was bound to be invaluable at some point!

F is teasing me! She's in the bedroom in her basket, she keeps crying, and then by the time I get there to check on her she's just lying there peacefully asleep!! Cheeky girl!!

 

[SeaThreePeeO]

Mitch you don't sound like a cow. She's your baby and they're very valid points you're making. For what it's worth I don't think you're being over sensitive at all.

Parents, what can you do with them. It was my mum that started me off panicking about Jess. The other day I mentioned that I had put Jess down on her playmat for a wiggle and my mum commented, 'the do need some form of human contact you know.' This is from a woman who in the same breath would accuse me of spoiling her for picking her up to much. I did point out if I never let her have time on the floor to wiggle she'd never learn to roll over.

Oh and apparently what my attention seeking 6 year old needs is a good smack. She was plainly playing up because everyone was fussing over Jess and she felt ignored.

My dad bless his heart on the first day we brought Jess home told me to not leave the dog in the same room as her and to watch those cats. Because of course the first thing a cat does when it sees a baby is sit on it's face and smother it. Any wonder my two eldest survived with all these cat assassins about.

So I understand where you're coming from about parents

 

[mitchnorm]

Thanks ladies....just annoyed with them....but as my hubby says...we know what they are like


Ok..really silly question but whens the best time to give baby a bath i terms of around feeding, sleeping etc not time of day. Going to give M one this evening but at the moment she is sleeping post feeding frenzy.......now she'll wake in anywhere between 2-3 hours maybe earlier......then change and feed again. So dont think its a good idea to bath when shes hungry hmmmmm...advice pls

 

[SeaThreePeeO]

I always bath before a feed.

 

[citymouse]

Ooh, I can't wait to add my MIL rants to this thread!

She's going to go insane when she hears that SIL is going to get to meet the baby before she does. But SIL leaves for a seasonal job thousands of miles away soon so it's now or never.

Plus my stepmother is going to be in California (from Florida) next-next weekend and wants to stop by. It's kind of okay because her daughter (my little sis) lives five minutes away and she'd see her even if I weren't having a baby... but I can only imagine how my mom and MIL will react.

Oh well! Not their baby. Not my problem.

 

[waula]

same here mitch, bath then feed unless its an impromptu "clean up" bath in which case i have to deal with cottage cheese spew bet Mia will LOVE it!! You doing baby bath or getting in with her? xxx

 

[MissyBlaze]

Ha ha ha at cat assassins.

While we're all being ungrateful and cows... my friend had s baby today. My friends are arranging to go see her on Friday... fine. But they've not even met Ted yet. Am I stupid for being sensitive? I kind of don't want to go. They're also the ones who asked me what present I wanted... I told them. They bought me something totally different and rubbish...

 

[emera35]

Hmm playgym is currently upside down in the fireplace... I wonder if Roh will be more careful when F is actually in it??

 

[mitchnorm]

Think we are going to do the baby bath tonight.....i am keen to bath with her....but first things first.... Hubby a little scared to have her in bath with him whilst she is still quite delicate, small and floppy. To be fair she can hold her head up a bit already.

Blimey timing has to be spot on if we need to get it done before she gets starving after she wakes up...to be fair she gives us plenty of.warning and doesnt wail.

Wish me luck....she likes having her hair washed....well rinsed through with warm water which we have done over the sink a couple of.times whilst she is wrapped in a towel

Excited and slightly scared

 

[loolindley]

We did bath then feed just in case she needed soothing if she hated it (she didn't!), but she slept for ages afterwards, so think we are going to do it early evening from now so we perhaps can eat our tea together if she is sleeping.

Btw, all these rants are totally justified! Keep them coming, it makes me feel less guilty for all my dad rants!!!

Put D on her baby gym before. First she cried a hell of a lot, and then she fell asleep. Charming!!!!

 

[emera35]

Aww Missy maybe you should be "busy" on friday and then go and see your other friend with her new baby another day? sounds like your friends are a bit thoughtless

 

[citymouse]

Yeah, Missy, your friends are a little clueless!

 

[emera35]

Mitch bathe with M then you can feed her mid bath if needs be. Its what I do