March Mamas 2012 Baby Group (Closed Group)

[wondertwins]

OMG, Loo!!!!

 

[Nicnak282]

Bloody hell Loo that is just appalling.

Like Ft - I just don't know what else to say apart from some mothers hate to let their little boys go, esp to a strong, capable (not least lovely and kind) woman.

Keep strong mama and good on you for letting her know, you know.

Xxxx

 

[emera35]

Hi Lads!

Sambles , we used Hipp Organic when we were combi feeding Roh, i think someone else said, its good if you aren't full time ff as the 2 sachets are smaller, so you don't have the whole batch open all at once.

Vitfa, some green poos are ok, especially with the combi feeding/ transitioning to ff it can happen. It could be a little bug or something also. However, i'd personally say, if its something you are worrying about, and you don't feel its right, then take her to the doctors, don't just ask the HV. I find sometimes the HVs fob you off a bit with standard answer, i guess because they assume you'd go to the docs if you thought it was serious.

Nic, Nightmare teething I'm sorry to tell you it can last ages. The problem is, the teeth don't always move down at a consistent speed, so they can move down so they are pushing the gums and sore, and then stop there for a while! It is really not fun! All i'd say is, don't have calpol as your last resort, use it when she's in pain, and don't feel like you shouldn't. It says on the bottle not to use for more than 3 days unless you see a doctor, but my doctor explained that its on there so that people take their babies to be checked if they are ill for too long. Also, do try baby ibuprofen, i've found it can work better for teething pain than calpol. I'm not saying go crazy dosing A up unnecessarily, but if she's screaming and inconsolable in pain, then give her painkillers. As a rule the really uncomfortable phases tend to last a maximum of a few weeks, and hopefully (but depressingly not always) result in an actual tooth!

Mitch, F isn't interested at all either. Well... Sort of, i put some chunks of sweet potato infront of her on her highchair tray this evening. She fixated on them for ages and i could see her trying to co-ordinate so she could pick one up, it was very cute! Eventually she grabbed one and completely squished it to bits instantly, then put her covered hand in her mouth all excited and sucked it then froze! What followed involved looking absolutely appalled and horrified and pushing everything out of her mouth and spitting everywhere! Very funny, i think she was pretty miffed that her new fun looking toys turned out to be all mushy and weird tasting and not chewable! Roh thought it was the funniest thing he'd seen ever too!

Um, what else???

Uhh, i had pizza yesterday, had veg and bean casserole tonight, yum. Would have preferred japanese take away though!

WT, loving the piccies on fb, your boys are looking cuter and cuter, if that's actually possible?!? They do look pretty different though!

Oh, MsC, you asked what i planned to do with routine? I just want to set times for feeds and naps and then try to stick (reasonably loosely rather than to the minute) to them. I've looked at what F does already and pretty much gone with that, just shifted it about a little. What i've come up with will be really easy to add mealtimes to in a month or so too. So, the first is Roh's routine currently and the second is what i will do with F:

Roh:-
7am wake up, milk
8am breakfast
10.30am snack
12pm lunch
1pm-2.30pm nap
2.30pm snack
5pm dinner
6pm bathtime, milk
7pm bedtime

F:-
6am feed nap until 7am
8am feed
9am - 11am nap
12pm feed
1pm -3pm nap
3pm feed
4pm cat nap (hopefully drop in a couple of months)
6pm bathtime, feed
7pm bedtime
12am feed

Only thing i'm really debating is whether to wake for the 12am feed always, or to leave it and see. I plan to drop that one once she's having solids 3 times a day. I'm quite prepared to be flexible with it if its not working, so it might all change around by next week. It should work though as its not a million miles off what she's already doing, just with an extra feed in the day and one less at night!


Edit : Jeez Loo, that's the last thing you deserve! Seems to me that she's just being unpleasant as she's jealous because she's not the number 1 woman in her son's life these days. I'd be fuming too in your position, but keep in mind that Al is with you because he wants to be, and you know that. If you were actually doing any of the stuff she's accusing you of then i seriously doubt Al would have proposed, eh? Really Al needs to tell her that you have a baby and you are getting married, so if she wants in on any of that, she needs to wind her neck in and be happy about it!

 

[waula]

your MIL in a word Loo?? KNOB. So sorry. Glad you said something though. Completely not on. I'm so p***ed off for you both. Hope Al is ok too MIL hey. Idiots.

Niknak - oh hun sounds horrid! No idea on timing for this teething thing...N nowhere near I don't think... Hope you enjoy your wine

Not had any funny coloured nappies here...just voluminous and yellow...and it gets EVERYWHERE. Got N in size 4+ nappies which are a lovely fit but it still escapes!

Food porn...today...plum, apple, yoghurt, drop scone (with a lot of butter) then (2!!) sundried tomato on toast with cheese and oregano then cake with a friend (naughty) and just done the shred (feck it hurts today...) and had longhorn beef pie and loads of veg...no potatoes or anything but I do have a white chocolate and raspberry cupcake if I feel faint later!!!

Emera how did it go with F last night and the bottle?? Hope you had some sleep N was up at 10pm and 1-3am then up at 6. We both went back to bed from 9-10 which was nice but it doesn't quite cover the disturbed night does it!!!

Sambles good luck with the transfer to combi - how's his vom? Hope its getting better

FT hilarious that they thought G was your brother!! Is that what the shred does to you???!! and about the 6lbs extra cuppie!!!!! muscle weighs heavier right to be honest not bothered about losing weight just want to have less wobble. Mitch I'm impressed you found it easier. I didn't.

N had/played with a bit of plum today which he loved...and just steamed some extra carrot batons for him to play with tomorrow...he's MUCH happier just sitting on my knee and grabbing stuff whilst I have lunch rather than booster seat/high chair...

WT your boys look sooo cute on FB!!! Love the idea of a parents evening for them already!!!

 

[loolindley]

Kat had to get it off my chest. I have been sobbing for hours. I had to leave the house because I know that I would have ended up saying more horrible things to Al about her. I went to my Parents empty house and just sat there with D for a couple of hours.

Al did put her right at the time, but instead of standing up for me completely, he agreed with her that I could be a bit bossy. Like she needed it cementing in her mind!

Im dreading speaking to her, but the way I feel at the moment I don't want to. I don't want to speak, see her or let her have anything to do with my baby right at this moment in time.

When we left Wales she broke down onto the floor sobbing and I picked her up, hugged her and told her I would take care of her son. I wish I hasn't bothered reassuring her now.

She is meant to be visiting this weekend, but Al has told her the circumstances aren't right for her to come.

 

[emera35]

Loo, more hugs to you! (edited my post above )

Waula, it went well with the bottle and F! She slept 7pm to 1am and then fed and straight back down until 6am when she fed and then we dozed until 7.30am as Roh decided to have a lie-in! Given her 7oz again tonight which she downed, so hoping it will repeat!

 

[Mrs Cupcake]

loo - shocking! thats awful. the main thing is that you and Al are happy with each other and your financial arrangements, its nothing to do with your MIL. grr...

 

[waula]

oh and Emera - 2x2hr naps??! How??! N refusing to do any more than 40mins. But seems quite happy with 3-4 x 40mins per day... glad the bottle worked.

 

[wondertwins]

When we left Wales she broke down onto the floor sobbing and I picked her up, hugged her and told her I would take care of her son

OMG. This makes me dislike her even more. That is emotional blackmail and it seems pretty clear that she is the controlling person in Al's life. I swear right here and now that I will never coddle my boys like that. Poor Al for being manipulated by his mother like that, poor D for having an underhanded grandma like that, but mostly poor you!

Take the time you need to calm down, and don't feel like you need to resolve this with her. You will probably reach a happier, more comfortable place with her at some point, but it doesn't need to be right now.

 

[waula]

WT I couldn't have said it any better. Exactly right.

 

[firsttimer1]

WT is spot on Loo....im angry for you hunni.

well i just did my last day of level 1 shred. it WAS easier but never go easy. im dreading tomo

 

[emera35]

WT, dead right!

Waula, yep, currently 2x2 hour naps and 1x40 mins(ish) nap. Technically its what they need, and its what i put F down for now. She sometimes has a 3 hour and a 1 hour one, but i think i'll wake her at 2.5 hours from now, as i need her to have enough feeds in the day really. If she doesn't do 2 hours, she then tends to try and have a long nap at about 4.30pm, which is a major pain for bedtime! Roh never napped well at this sort of age, but i suspect its because i've always just plonked F in her cot with her mobile on and left her to it that she settles down well (mostly!!!) Where as Roh always napped on me, or i'd fuss about trying to get him to sleep. I guess if she was only doing 40 mins naps in the day then i'd plan a different routine.

 

[Nicnak282]

Loo - WT is dead right. She is a very manipulative, passive-aggressive 'lady'.

Thanks lads on advice on teething. Emera - you are once again the voice of reason and brilliance, I bow down...and will purchase some kids ibruprofen!!!! Thanks again, it is really appreciated xx

MsCrow I'm so glad to hear that your father is slowly getting there. I meant what I said - just message me and I'll give you my contact number - if you need that ear. I can still remember everything about my first visit to critical care and seeing the horrific sight of my usually strong, capable mum wired up. Hubby (well boyfriend then) had to take me back out to the waiting room as I had a panic attack. I then found a strength I didn't know I had and made myself go back in. I am sending you virtual strength to you, OH and mum - you are such an amazingly courageous lady. Hope E is giving you the normality that you all need to keep going at this anything but normal time in your lives xxx

Everyone else - lots love - esp you shredders...maniacs the lot of ya!!

xxxxx

 

[waula]

amazing how all our babies are so different isn't it...from naps to sleep to feeds to development to weaning...i love "knowing" all you lads and knowing each of our babies despite being so close in age are so different...makes me feel better if i'm having a mini meltdown/first time mum moment!!! thanks!!

Glowie - not seen you on here for a while...hope all ok with you and J...xx

Nik - no words to say...just huge and I'm so glad you've got A - you're a brilliant mum. x

 

[citymouse]

Nicnak, did you try the "pacifiers in ice water" trick? That's the only thing that worked for us. G was super drooly and moany and painful last week but she's better this week. No teeth but I suppose maybe the pressure on her gums let up a bit? Hope things get better for you soon!

Loo, you're totally justified in being upset. I think Al should tell her in the future that he's not going to discuss you. The thing is that people often see their OWN faults in other people, especially if it's a "rival." So she's bossy and controlling and is projecting that on you. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the shell of her own personality! People who are into drama thrive on making other people miserable. I say don't even give her the mental real estate. You are taking care of her son and have given her a gorgeous grandchild, and if she chooses to be miserable in the face of that, let her stew in it!

 

[Skadi]

Loo - I don't think I could say it better than WT and quite frankly my first thought was: "What a b****!". I'd be beyond irate!

 

[Nicnak282]

Thanks Waula aand City xxx you lads are just the best. Fact. Xxxx

 

[loolindley]

To cheer myself up, I have put all our holiday pics on Dharma's website. If anyone wants to be bored by them, the website is dharmagrohl.com and I have created a username of ***ask me if you want them xx***

Please excuse my brothers sarcastic comments from the fist post when he was setting up the website. Fairly amusing though...

 

[emera35]

Loo, love all the photos! You look so fab, as does D! Your bro's blurb made me chuckle.

 

[mitchnorm]

Loo...i am fuming for you and totally agree with the others. She is sooo out of order...you have a child together and are getting marries....Al isnt 10 years old anymorw??!! I feel a little sorry for him stuck in.the middle....dont let it affect you guys...she is not worth it. You have so much to look forward too x x big.hugs

Waula/emera....M has started to.change her daytime naps in the last couple of days...was 3-4 x 40 min naps...now she seems to.be doing a 40 min...then an 1.5 hour and 1 hour. Of course they are not exactly.in the order i.want them to.be ....i could do with.the 8:15-8:30 nap being a long one not 40 mins....gives me more time to shred.....shower...wash hair etc etc. Inconsiderate!!!

Nicnak.....sorry about screamy.A. M has her.fingers permanently.in mouth.and drooling but no.obvious pain....but going.to.get.some ibuprofen too....just in.case. Hope shes better soon x x