March Mamas 2012 Baby Group (Closed Group)

[kymied]

HAha! I just found out that the in-laws are afraid of my dog because she once nipped one of hubby's uncles. She didn't draw blood or anything, just nipped him for coming into our house without us getting the door. That's fine, I certainly don't mind them not coming over all the time.

Here comes the "I don't want to sleep, don't want to eat, don't want to sit still" evening time.

 

[vitfawifetobe]

Emera - how does the co habitting work with the bed. mines doesnt have sides and not having hubby here isnt an option. breastfeeding advisor suggested we it im not so sure,zhe thinks it would hive ud longer than an hr between feed as this is all e sleep in moses d

 

[citymouse]

Ah... Had a lovely series of breakdowns today... At home, at the pediatrician's office, almost at the sandwich place we stopped to pick up lunch, and then a massive one at home.

On the plus side, I think DH finally understands that I need more help from him. He took the baby, sent me to bed, and cleaned up the house.

The doctor wants G to sleep in her bassinet. Not that we should let her cry it out but that we should do everything we can to get her comfy in there. She slept there for a while tonight while I was napping, hurray!

 

[MissyBlaze]

Poor old mouse. Great that he started helping. Sometimes hormones are handy things! I hope he's aware of what a Willy he's been.

Hope you feel better for a nap and a tidy house.

We managed 11pm until 3.30... now been awake for an hr and a half and is showing no signs of relenting to sleep. Bum.

 

[loolindley]

Mouse, I'm not surprised you've had a series of breakdowns, you must be exhausted! I'm so glad that your dh has got his act together though.

Another bad night for us. Decided on this feed not to change her first as she wasn't dirty only maybe a little wet and she has just been impossible to feed she is that sleepy (she was crying before the feed too!). Fed up that we have to get her to screaming point by changing her to get a decent feed.

 

[KellyC75]

All round

 

[wondertwins]

Sorry I haven't been around, but this parenting thing sure can be time consuming.

Happy birthday Roh! Yesterday (4/11) was also my DSs birthday. He's 12!!!! I wanted it to be special so he knows he's still my baby. He wanted chili cheese dogs and chocolate pie for dinner, and I feel pretty proud that I managed to make both from scratch while wearing Baby K. Side note, DS is officially my height - 5'4"!! I look at the twins and remember when DS was that small. Sigh.

Glow, love the cards. I still need to get something done, but free time for things like that seems non existent.

City, don't beat yourself up over cosleeping! As for getting her to sleep in the bassinet... Don't overlook the power of swaddling. Even if she acts like she doesn't like it, she will sleep better. Also, I think it's easier to transfer a swaddled baby from arms to crib without waking hom/her up.

Loo, sorry about the screaming fests. My boys have started doing the same thing in the evenings. Fortunately, it's only been lasting about an hour. Still exhausting, but nowhere near as long as what you've described. I think I will video the episode tomorrow for posterity sake.

Breastfeeding question.... For the past two nights the boys have missed a nighttime feed. They eat at 8ish, and then sleep till 1ish. Thus, my boobs have been extremely full/hard when they wake up. Should I pump off the extra milk after they eat at 1 so my body doesnt decrease my overall supply of milk? Or will my body just adjust the time of production? I've worked hard to get milk production up, so I don't want to jeopardize it, but I'm not looking forward to pumping after a nighttime feed either (they take so long already).

 

[6lilpigs]

All round

From me too

 

[mitchnorm]

just a quickie to Mitch - yes like postcards so I'm writing a personal message on the back x

Thanks glow....just trying to choose a photo use....we have them on camera and both our phones..need to get all in one place!

Hi everyone else....emera - glad party went well and no wonder you are tired
I do night feeds in bed....have done in nursing chair in her room before but find it easier and less disturbing for us both.to.stay here....espec if i.am not doing a nappy change
So M was very grumpy last night and wanted to.be constantly on boob for 2hours solid but not normal feeding....chomping and not swallowing as much.....question.is was she:-
A. Comfort sucking? She will not take a dummy and it hurt
B. Really that hungry cos of growth spurt?
C. Just chewing at boob.to.increase my milk supply for night and today?

Or all of above.....it really hurt and was not usual bf'ing for sure. When do you know if you have enough milk...what if she was constant feeding as there wasnt enough? Could that be the reason? My boobs dont normal hurt but i feel like she was havibg a fight with

 

[mitchnorm]

Fight with my nipples (stupid phone). Considered getting formula out last nigt!!!!

 

[emera35]

Mitch I'd say if she's hurting you stop her! There may be a valaid reason for her wantng to suck (hungry and too sleepy to feed properly/growth spurt/stimulating supply) but if she's doing it not latched properly ts not achieving anything apart from your discomfort.

WT f you want to keep your supply one feed over what the boys need then you'lll need to pump the feed they've dropped. If you don't need the expressed milk then leave it, over a bit of time your body will adjust your production so you don't feel as full when they sleep for longer stretches.

Mouse glad your OH helped out sorry you had to meltdown to get him to help though!
to all of you!

Sure there were other things to comment on, silly crappy brain!

 

[mitchnorm]

Emera....i was taking her off but then she was just screaming....nothing would settle her apart from popping her back on the boob!! Vicious circle with no solution.....??

 

[loolindley]

Mitch, I know it's no solution, but D has been the same all of yesterday. Not hurting me, but lots of extra feeds that I'm not convinced she is actually swallowing milk for. She has done this so often in the night that I feel like crying. She's obviously feeding enough, but crying as soon as she falls off.

Most frustrating thing is that she is feeding extra feeds, but for less time each session

 

[emera35]

Oh, Vitfa- sorry, with co-sleeping for us F sleeps on the outside on my side of the bed with me sort of curled round her. OH is in the bed too, he's just had to get used to budging over a bit! Its a king size bed though so not too squashed up. My bed has a ledge round it so I have a foam bolster cushion wedged down the side between the matress and moses basket so F can't fall out. If that wasn't the case I'd use a bed rail. I sleep with a pillow but make sure F is well down from the pillows. I have a duvet up to my waist and then a cellular blanket over my top half which I'll put over F if its cold. It worked fine like that with Roh and again with F. When she's bigger we have a cot with one side taken off to attach to the side of the bed, so there will be a lot more room. Its going to fill a lot of our bedroom though so we are holding off until we really need it.

 

[emera35]

Hmm, Mitch and Loo if F does what you are both describing, half hearted sucking, not feeding well, then screaming when she comes off, then I assume its wind. I keep winding until she calms down the other night she was crying for about 2 hours, but I just keep winding in various positions, also massaging her tummy and cycling her legs and eventually she'll calm down. I usually check with my fnger if she's qanting to comfort suck, and if so I let her suck my finger instead (or try with the dummy, but she's not that fussed about it). Its s draining when they cry for long spells, but I think in general most of the reasons babies are upset after and during feeds is wind of some description so I tend to be stubborn and just keep rying to get the wind out! (Obviously I check its not nappy, genuine hunger etc!)

 

[waula]

mitch N does that sometimes...but he growls, brings his knees up, gets a red face and pulls on my nip (ow) - i can sometimes hear gurgly guts...i think its when he has an internal trump working through...

 

[Widger]

Sounds like lots of us had rough night. I can't wait to get to wt point of 5 hours between feeds. Didn't have to wait long for d to do it but this little man seems to have his own agenda. I know he's still very young but o was seriously spoilt last time.
M - b was up from 4 to 630, think his prob was wind but wanted to comfort suck... but who knows. If they feed a lot, then your milk will inctease and wt if you want to drop that feed, your boobs will regulate after a night or two.


To us all.

 

[wondertwins]

Widge, don't be too impressed. They dropped a nighttime feed which is great for sanity but they're making up for it with increased feeding during the day.

Mitch... Sounds like wind or other discomfort to me. My boys do that sometimes too. I find that feeding them a little more makes the discomfort worse, but it seems to make the burping easier because the build up of wind is greater.

 

[wouldluvabub]

Hey ladies hope your all well!! Just a quick stop by to say Think I may have figured out our problem today! Had a google round and I think all our vomit/gas issues are from overactive letdown! Am going to try block feeding see if it helps and once baby has latched onto the new side remove him and wait for the letdown to slow!! Alot of the time I can feel the letdown and it's painful so I assume this is the problem! Feels nice to have an answer for now anyways!!!

 

[Widger]

Wt - I'd love a stretch like that through the night as I'm getting a little concerned that I'm going to be looking after a newborn and a toddler next week on my own and I'm getting about 3 hours max I'm broken sleep at the moment. I know I will have to function on that but boy, makes it hard.

Infacol used to make D projectile vomit but will try with B, gripewater nowhere to be seen... What else is there?