May 2013 Babies

[manuiti]

Oh Mizz, big hugs sweetie. I agree, you do have the patience of a saint!

Iluv - yay for a date.

Tour - what a pain! Things always get stuck in customs for about a month for us. But like you say, without a tracking number, how do you know that's what it is.

I had my 30 week OB appointment yesterday. Dr's very happy that baby's looking very healthy, though he is now measuring 3 weeks ahead (last month he was 2 weeks ahead). My weight's fine though I gained 2kg in the last month with is a little over what is should be, so I have to be a little careful. Next up is meeting the midwife next week & having a tour of the hospital & then also a private clinic, so we'll see which we prefer since my insurance covers the same for both.

 

[MizzPodd]

Manu great news then! Wow a hospital tour! That should be nice! This will make it even more real for you. I've never experienced one before but they sound exciting (always on bedrest lol)
Tomorrow I'll fid out if baby is still 2 weeks ahead or not... Hmm I think my baby will be an 8 pounder. My prediction

 

[Courtney917]

Aww Mizz, can't it ever go smoothly for you?? Big hugs . I hope you get closure soon .

Manu that's great about a tour. We wanted to go on one but they rescheduled for this weekend and we already had prior plans so it looks like it simply wont happen.

Not a baby topic but just looking for some advice: My husband has been chatting with a distant friend of his from high school on facebook (he told me this) and she began telling him about problems she's having bc she wants a baby and her boyfriend is 51 and doesn't want anymore. Well I decided to look at the actual convo by logging into his FB page. On it she says that she's very "sexual" and only gets it "once a month." DH did tell me she said this stuff prior to me looking as well, he was laughing bc he said he didn't get why she was telling him such personal stuff. So today I log onto his account again today and she says "if you really want to talk here's mu number, I just don't want any issues with wifey" his reply was "me either" she went on to ask him where he met met blah blah blah. To which he hasn't responded to. I checked the phone records and he hasn't called her nor did he give his number to her. Now should I be pissed or just leave it be since he hasn't called her? Should I just keep watch on the phone and see if she tries to say more things to him? I don't know if its just an innocent convo on her part? I just don't like how she told him that she's very "sexual" seriously??? WTF??? I see that he's not responding much aside from basic answers...so I can't fault him (yet).

Just wanted to get an opinion/advice from you ladies

 

[ILuvBabies200]

Tour-What a mess! UG!!!! Where the heck is it?!?!

Courtney-I'd be telling him to cool it now before he gets himself in some real hot water!

 

[Tournesol]

Court, I'm with Iluv. I'm sure everything is perfectly innocent on your hubby's part, but this woman does not sound innocent.
I think the fact that he's told you everything means he has nothing to hide. Does he know you've seen his Facebook?
I would tell him to keep his distance and definitely NOT call her.

As for my Moses basket, I am so annoyed! It still hasn't shown up, I've been to the post office here and they haven't got it either. I'm sure it's stuck in customs, but what do I do? Do I get a refund and order another one somewhere else, or do I wait a bit longer?
This happened to me before once, I bought a guitar on ebay for OH and it never showed up, got a refund and then it arrived 6 MONTHS later! I definitely can't wait 6 months!

 

[padbrat]

Hey Mizz! I am so pleased that the bedrest is working wonders for your baby! 30 wks down chick... 3/4 of the way there!

Tour... pah to it. Get a refund and buy elsewhere I say, who needs the hassle!

Court... hmmm interesting dilemma... as others have said your Hubby seems to have been honest with you, however, I would question the woman's motives. Have a chat with him and let him know that you love him, that you are not far off having the baby and that the situation is worrying you as you don't know this woman. Would he mind not contacting her again? He will probably laugh and tell you it is your hormones and not to worry and delete her off his account... especially if he knows what is good for him! LOL

Manu... how cool having a hospital visit! I won't be doing one as I will be in the del suite and they only tour birthing centres.. no point wanting what you can't have eh!

I luv cool you have a date!

Mizz... how bloody crap are this organisation that are dealing with the urn??? I would be looking for compensation for emotional distress if I were you! Pah to them!

I had a scare.... Leo had gone quiet for a few days so I went to the hospital and got his HB monitored. Of course the little bugger is fine, but whilst I was there I told the MW how concerned I was that my Mat Leave has not been confirmed, especially as I have been moved forward and will be induced possibly as early as 37 weeks... which would mean that I would be at home for a week before he came... I also said I was tired from my hips keeping we awake, my GD and thyroid... she said go and see your GP, as your baby's health is more important and that I should be resting and not stressing.

So I went this morning and have been signed off for the remainder of my pregnancy! Thank heavens I can relax finally! Have just broke the good news to work... pah to them! Sod work!

 

[Tournesol]

Brilliant Pad! I got signed off too, making the most of the sofa at the moment as doc said I have to rest as much as possible until I see him next Tues for my 3rd tri scan.

I just had an email from the people I bought the Moses basket from saying that they will send me a replacement via express ASAP... weird. Either the original didn't make it to me and has gone back to them for some reason, or someone messed up and they never sent it in the first place! Whatever, as long as I get one soon, that's all I care about!

 

[MizzPodd]

Court- hellllll no! Don't trust the girl... She is slowly moving in on him trying to draw him in. I'm glad your hubby was honest with you, but dot trust er intentions. She wants to stir things up and plus she's obviously not happy in her own relationship. So I agree with the other ladies... Make sure he doesn't call her!!! You and your family have so much to look forward to with a new baby an do not need this drama in your life. Omg this girl is the typical home wrecker lol let us know how it goes mama and always go with your gut in these situations.

Tour wow! I would be soooo annoyed!! The worse thing to do is to piss off a pregnant woman lol If you can just get a refund and buy it from another reliable place. Sorry you can't get your baby stuff in peace!!!

Pad Awww I'm glad all is ok with Leo. You are good for speaking up about it and now you get to relax for the remainder of your pregnancy!!!!!

AFM- yay! Hubby dropped off her urn and try are going to correct it!!!! I'm soooo happy because it will be done before I deliver
My apt went great!!! I have my apts all booked... 32 weeks for check and nst, 34 weeks for baby growth scan and they will check my stitch to prepare for removal!! I also get off of bedrest at 34 weeks!!! And then 36 weeks they remove the stitch and I will probably deliver soon after
They redid my pre e labs and if it shows normal then they are ruling out me even havin it. Altogether which means I won't be in the magnesium for delivery which would mean I have to stay in bed the whole time and can't move or walk. Sooooo I'm hoping test are normal and if they r I will be induced May 14 but I honestly think I will go before then because my baby's head is right there with the water sac on my stitch so once the stitch goes I think baby will continue to come down lol if I do have abnormal results, then I will be induced April 30 at 37 weeks.
Ladies I am soooo excited because I am still pregnant and I have all my apts already set and I'm going to be seeing my three docs that have been following me the whole time omg I can't believe I made it this far and try said once I get to 34 weeks if I go into labor they won't stop me but I won't have to transfer because they have nicu from 34 weeks and up!!! Oh I'm so estatic ladies! Please keep me and my baby in your thoughts to get to 34 weeks at least!!! Please!!!!!!!! as you can tell I'm very excited LOL

 

[MightyMom]

Courtney: I wouldn't say anything if I were you. Your DH has handled it well by himself, if you say anything to him it may imply that you don't trust him to continue to do the right thing. Even if you absolutely don't trust her, if you do trust him then he can manage on his own.

Tournesol: Sounds like they just forgot to ship it in the first place, that is why they were quick to offer a refund and then ASAP shipping. Despite it all, I would wait for the item and then leave negative feedback on Amazon detailing their communication failure and unsatisfactory service.

 

[MizzPodd]

Mightymom you brought up a good point I must say! for me tho, I've seen this happen and it breaks my heart when it ruins a marriage because of no intervention I do like and respect your suggestion tho this is y I love talking to different people because I like to hear other views that I hadn't thought of

 

[Courtney917]

Thanks ladies. My initial reaction is HELL NO! Especially when she referred to me as "wifey," ummm no b*tch I am his WIFE. I keep checking phone records and he hasn't called her. However today he DID message her on FB asking how her day was.

He DOES have a history of being an IDIOT when it comes to talking to other women. He has always hidden it from me and it has caused a lot of problems in our relationship...so I always told him to TELL me and he has this time. He's never cheated on me but I feel like its because I always intervened. But I could be wrong and they too could've been convos like this. I am happy he was upfront and don't want him thinking that I am monitoring him, especially since he was upfront and hasn't called her. If he does I think I will say something bc I feel like that is crossing a line especially since he wasn't really friends with her in HS.

Lots of luck to all of you signed off of work!!! That's awesome, now its time for some relaxation before baby arrives.

Thanks again ladies for all your different perspectives, I truly appreciate it

 

[MizzPodd]

Well said Courtney especially if it has happened in the past... You said exactly what i would say "ummmm no b*tch im his wife."

Sorry but I've experienced that in a relationship before and it caused major issues. You trust your instincts girl!!! hmmm I'm starting if wonder if we r related lol we think alike.

 

[Courtney917]

Lol!!!! Maybe we are!! ;-). Remember great minds think alike!!

Yeah it can cause major issues. I'm gonna keep monitoring and see if he calls. If he does then its on and I'll rip him a new one. However if it stays this way I'll let it rest. Time will tell. He does the dumbest crap. I'm glad he actually told me this time so that's why I'm a little calmer. Of course he hasn't mentioned the number or subsequent small talk. I hope he doesn't dig a grave for himself bc I almost left him the last time. That was much worse where he gave a strange girl a ride to the bus stop bc she looked cold. Numbers were exchanged and she started calling him. Long story short, I called her, confronted her and found out he gave her a ride and said that they should "hang out sometime." I lost it and threatened to leave, kicked him out and everything. That was the worst. There was a couple of other incidents too but I'll be here all night listing his stupidity. Lol ugh sometimes I wanna choke him out!!!!

 

[MizzPodd]

Lol I had a feeling this wasn't his first rodeo that's y I honestly would say something it they began talkin in the phone. Positive side is that it seems like he is doing it differently this time by telling you stuff. I just don't agree with the friendly talk with someone you don't really know. But that's just my opinion lol
Oh and I think if you have had some trust issues in the past its only natural for you to have your guard up and it's not your fault those feelings are there. He created them when he did past things. Stay strong!! (speaking from persona experience lol)

Btw I don't know if you read my post but I'm so happy about my pregnancy and how it seems to be going good still! Oh and the funeral home has her urn and is correcting there mistakes with no problem

 

[Courtney917]

So happy they are correcting the urn! I must've overlooked that post! Yes and you're over 30 weeks!!!!! That's awesome!!!!! So beyond happy for u!

Yeah he's a dumbass to say the least. I'll let ya know how it turns out. Hopefully I won't have to see that number show up on my phone bill bc I'll seriously kill him;-). It's so annoying bc he did cause the mistrust. Hopefully he's learned from past mistakes!

 

[ILuvBabies200]

I bet you can't wait to get that stitch out Mizz! I am to stop procardia at 36 weeks and although that's only 2 weeks with no meds, it still scares me. Just took one a bit ago because I've had a tough night. I'm so over being in pain.

 

[Courtney917]

Mizz: Just have a question about the cerclage; when will they be removing it? Do they think this will cause you to go into labor? I'm asking bc a friend of mine recently had one put in at 13 weeks due to threatened labor. I am so happy things are progressing so nicely for you. I know in my heart you will make it to full term . I'm sure you will be so happy once you are off bedrest!! Will you leave your daughter in full time day care or take her out? Get as much rest as possible before the baby comes, having two is a juggling act but its soooooo worth it .

Thanks again ladies for all the advice the other day.

Hope you're all doing well. I have a growth scan tomorrow. Although I am looking forward to seeing baby I'm not looking forward to the scan bc they have an old machine and have to press down so hard on the probe. It's actually somewhat painful :/. Let's hope baby is progressing nicely and catching up on size, he was a little guy at the last scan.

 

[MizzPodd]

Kelly you have no idea!!! I am counting down to that day! I'm assuming that because you'll be basically around a full term delivery time is why they want you to stop. Don't worry remember if baby goes around then, at least you know baby is going to have great chances of no problems that's what I'm talking myself I do wonder if you keep contracting after you stop meds, will they deliver you?? Two weeks is a long time to be having painful contractions! Hell, a day is!

Court- I hope he keeps on the straight and narrow for his sake! Lol
But I get my stitch removed at 36 weeks. However if I go into labor at 34 weeks or 35, they will take it out then and I will deliver. For me my stitch was literally the last option and done at 23 weeks when I started dilating. I still think they usually remove around 36 weeks. If everything stays normal for me that's the day! according to everyone in the ob clinic who knows my situation along with my mom and hubby.... They think once the stitch is removed I will be having the baby soon after! Lol I believe it too because my baby's head is literally sitting on my membranes which are sitting directly on my stitch! My cervix is soft and the only reason baby is still in is because the stitch is holding what's left of my cervix together lol some women don't dilate and their membranes don't fall to the stitch so it will depend in how her cervix is once she gets closer to 36 weeks. And also I've been having the preterm contractions that made my cervix above stitch disappear lol
Can't wait to get off of bedrest in four weeks!!!!!! Oh my Jayla is coming back home once I deliver! For one we want to save money until I get a job, plus I'm in school but since its online I can watch the kids like I did before bedrest. And mainly because I don't like the way they run. It is a great daycare but I guess my mama instincts won't let me trust them fully. Some days she eats nothing according the daily sheet they give us. She's a picky eater like her mom but the foods will sometimes be stuff I know for a fact she would eat! But once I'm off bedrest I think I'll still have her in daycare only because I'm not allowed to lift her still
I hope you have a good scan and baby has grown more ouch! I think I had an old ultrasound machine once thankfully, but it did hurt! Pleas update us on your baby's status!!! We r all getting soooo close!!!

 

[Tournesol]

Court, you know your hubby better than any of us of course. However, if I were in your situation, I would have to say something now, before anything potentially happens. I couldn't be doing with the paranoia!

I don't know if any of you remember, but my OH had an operation on his shoulder a few weeks ago. Well today his physio sent him to the hospital for an Xray as he's been in a lot of pain and it turns out the op was unsuccessful and he has to have another, bigger op on Tuesday. Tuesday is the day of our 3rd tri scan, so he can't come. Plus he's going to have at least 3 weeks recovery, it's open surgery this time, last time it was keyhole. Time is flying by now, I feel like we've got nothing ready and because of all that I got so upset today that I ended up having a panic attack and couldn't breathe! What a nightmare.

 

[Courtney917]

Aww Tour, I can imagine how stressful this all must be on you . Everything will come together with the baby. I'm keeping you and your husband in my thoughts . Wishing him a speedy recovery!