MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[Hopeful2014]

@MamaPeaches I used opks for a couple months, but I was slightly discouraged so I stopped. I do understand the need/desire to use them. I think they can be very beneficial especially if someone is not sure when she ovulates. I think they are also good for someone who plans bd mainly around ovulation. I start bd a day or two after af and then usually go every day until I see a temp rise. A day may be missed every now and then, but I know my past days were day 13, 15, and 16 so I always have a window of when I know I should be prepared. One side says to use them if you are afraid you will reach a point in the cycle when you are more worried or more stressed about missing it than you would be without using them. The other side says just make sure you are bding EOD and as much as possible around your usual ovulation time if you know when it is. I forget, do you temp as well?

@nikkilucky77 Thanks so much! How about we get a pair of BFPs! How's everything going for you?

@ProfWife I'm sorry. I'll move you to July 21st for now and you can update when you know.

@chulie Go until too tired! That sounds about right. Feel better and good luck!!

@Lala8 Thanks! I really appreciate it. Fingers crossed for us all!

@River54 I hope it's not af. If so, I hope your next cycle is shorter and that it's easier to plan and interpret. Did the fs give you a reason for the second O?

 

[River54]

I hope it is not af either. I am just impatient today.
FS did not give a reason - we are fairly on our own about stuff, they just get me to do bloodwork some days, and they call and tell me what to do. We are ok with this approach right now, as we can't take too much time off work for all of it. They didn't seem too worried about it all, though they did say to keep testing
Soo glad I had a stash of ICs this cycle...have gone through alot of them, with not too many more left.

 

[MamaPeaches]

@Hopeful I do temp and use FF I am usually pretty good about my body signs and knowing when I'm oing. I like that idea, I know I can run out and get some OPKS around the time just to confirm. It's when i use them everyday that stresses me out especially if I'm late oing! Like my Hubbs told me, as long as we are bding everyday as possible thats the most important part so if we focus more on that then stressing about the exact moment of oing then we should be good. The only thing is my cycles sometimes differ between 28 days to 34 days. So we will just have to keep up the bding until we are sure I'm passed that window. I really hope you get your BFP this cycle! Your awesome about keeping positive!

 

[Hopeful2014]

@MamaPeaches Thanks! I hope we both see two bright, dark lines very soon! I agree, take a break from using them every day. You can always decide around o time if you want to take any. I would look for the range of your usual ovulation and then make sure you bd as much as possible within that window. I hope the relaxed approach helps!

Ladies, I was looking at the news (real and fun gossipy-silly news). I saw this and had to share it with you all. Click here to read about the 9 best times to have sex such as when you're too busy, when you want the best orgasm, and when you want to relieve pain, etc. It's interesting. I always like to look at the comments as well. One man said the best time is when she says yes and before she changes her mind.

 

[chulie]

Hahahaa @hopeful! I love that article! So funny!! Thanks! I do have to say....having my SIL stay with us, at first I thought it would be a crutch and get in the way of baby making..... Turns out its quite the opposite...we're having fun "sneaking around" and I think it's been good for us! Hahaha

 

[burgbrandy]

Lol! Great article! I know we tend to bd more when all of our kids are home cuz we know we have to be quiet. It tends to be a big turn on! Lol!

 

[Lala8]

Can I ask you all, does anyone feel like they are constantly boiling hot all the time? I feel like I am waking up in a sweat and I feel so hot. I always radiate heat my husband says but at the moment, I feel so hot and I don't normally feel this way.

I am constipated again as well. Does anyone feel the same?

I have asked my hubby to buy a couple of hpt today so we can maybe try one in the morning. I am so nervous though as I do not want to see what it says as I have only ever seen it say the words, 'not pregnant'. It's the worst feeling and now I dread taking a hpt.

 

[nikkilucky77]

KatyW: I'm so sorry to hear that . Hugs and prayers to you!

River54: Hopefully some good news soon? Good luck and hope you get a clear bfp

Chulie: Get feeling better and good game plan...

Hopeful14: I think a pair of BFPs would be wonderful . Thanks for the article too! BDing is functionally for making some babies but most of all FUN! I sometimes wonder if I am too concerned about babymaking when I should just have fun with it . (even though I tell myself I am having fun and not thinking babies...I am totally thinking babies lol)

 

[nikkilucky77]

Can I ask you all, does anyone feel like they are constantly boiling hot all the time? I feel like I am waking up in a sweat and I feel so hot. I always radiate heat my husband says but at the moment, I feel so hot and I don't normally feel this way.

I am constipated again as well. Does anyone feel the same?

I have asked my hubby to buy a couple of hpt today so we can maybe try one in the morning. I am so nervous though as I do not want to see what it says as I have only ever seen it say the words, 'not pregnant'. It's the worst feeling and now I dread taking a hpt.

I tend to get boiling hot after ovulation. Sometimes my temps are 98.7-98.9...only after ovulation. I also get constipated before AF but I hope that isn't the case for you. I don't know about you but it is SUPER irritating that pregnancy symptoms are basically the same as PMS symptoms . I just try to remember from month to month what is normal. Good luck hun!

 

[Lala8]

I tend to get boiling hot after ovulation. Sometimes my temps are 98.7-98.9...only after ovulation. I also get constipated before AF but I hope that isn't the case for you. I don't know about you but it is SUPER irritating that pregnancy symptoms are basically the same as PMS symptoms . I just try to remember from month to month what is normal. Good luck hun!

I never get constipated, like ever. I really can't remember when I last was. I am normally very regular with my bowels. After researching online it says it can be a symptom of pregnancy. I am being optimistic but my husband told me to not get my hopes up. I know he is always trying to protect me but I need to stay hopeful. I am on day 43 of my cycle so I will either test tomorrow or Monday, depending how long I can wait

 

[Tangerine]

Oh no, KatyW. That's terrible news, I'm so sorry. Chemical pregnancies are heartbreaking; I also had one last Summer. The BFP was an unexpected but welcome surprise before we were ready to TTC. I really admire the positivity that shines through your post even at what must be a very difficult time for you. I am so glad that you're going to stick around this month even if your TTC plans might be delayed. We will all be here rooting for you too! Please take care of yourself, and know that support is here if you need it

 

[KatyW]

Hopeful,
Thanks for your kind words - I am feeling better about it all today (breakfast with a great friend and a stroll around a German village can lift the spirits). I hope you are doing well after your early loss, I know it is hard, but time and distraction help.

I agree that there may be something to increased fertility after a loss - this is unfortunately my second loss (2011 had a loss at 5 wks 5 days, and that was a more painful, physically and emotionally, experience) - but I went on to conceive my daughter two months later.

I'm hoping that this is the case for you (and me, again!).

 

[KatyW]

Tangerine, thanks . I definitely want to lurk a bit to see good news. How are you? Lines better on the test?

 

[Hopeful2014]

@KatyW That first day hurt so bad, but I accepted it and I am focused on the future. I'm so happy you had a friend there to offer support as well. Fingers crossed for us both.


Okay ladies, I found another fun article to add to the other. I think this one is something that we can all relate to and I undoubtedly agreed to many/most of them. It's 'you know you're ttc when...' Click here to read. Can you think of any more?

 

[nikkilucky77]

That is a great article too...the part about the 3rd bedroom is true right now. We are remodeling our upstairs room and it should be a spare bedroom but I want it to be the nursery

 

[momwithbabies]

This article is sad but true. Just last night, my husband told me that it would be cool to paint our kids' rooms. The whole house has beige walls right now. Normally, I would be excited to update the kids' rooms, but I didn't say much to him because I want a little baby to move in soon My sister is having a baby in October, and I've already picked out the baby's bedding and colors. I think my sister knows I'm living vicariously through her. I probably should just paint the rooms because that is when I'll get pregnant! It's kind of like when you decide to wash your car...it's going to rain!

 

[burgbrandy]

Heres my "u know ur ttc when..."

Bedroom talk consists of cervical mucus.
Hubby gets depressed when ur temp drops near af.
U have opks laid out on ur bathroom counter in order to see a progression and its ww3 if someone messes them up.

 

[ClandestineTX]

KatyW, I second everything Hopteful said about CPs. There's no science that says anything that you should expect another.

ClandestineTX: If I use any temp on FF under 34C they say its to low. I'm guessing I'm just really odd. Today it was a bit higher at 35.1

Hopeful2014: I'm not really sure when I o. My guess was yesterday, but I haven't had any of my usual o symptoms. I guess my body is just being weird as normal.

Thank you so much Hopeful2014 for asking me to join this thread.

I am just getting used to all the terminology used on this website and how the website works as I only joined yesterday.

I am 28 years old and have been married nearly a year.

I already feel better knowing that there are so many other women going through the same stresses and strains of TTC.

We started TTC in February 2013 and I think I always took it for granted that it would be easy to get pregnant. I have extremely irregular cycles which have ranged from 35 - 51 days this year alone. I am currently on day 41 of this cycle. I have tested once on Monday 17th June 2013 and received a big fat negative.

I'm still remaining optimistic as I do not have my usual signs for my period yet. I usually get a lump appear in my right breast a week before I am due but so far it has not appeared yet.

I am just trying to believe that I will get pregnant when it's meant to be.

It is so difficult though as I am extremely impatient and I am so desperate to be a mummy.

I do not chart my temps nor do I use OPKs as I have an extremely obsessive personality and I think it may do me more harm than good. When we first started in Feb, we did use a OPK and it showed my LH surge on day 22, needless to say we did not get pregnant and my doctor told me that she believes they are unreliable at showing when a woman ovulates. She advised us to have sex every 3 days as I have an unreliable cycle.

Anyway, I apologise for the rambling, I just wanted to update you all on my situation.

Both mummy2o & Lala8: you might want to look up the symptoms of hypothyroidism and consider getting a thyroid test. Both very low temps and long, irregular cycles can be driven by an underfunctioning thyroid and it's a critical hormone to getting pregnant, staying pregnant and having a healthy baby. Just my $0.02.

Welcome, Lala8! We all feel your pain as far as why hasn't this happened yet - I'm on cycle 9 - so I definitely have been where you are. It gets easier (at least it has for me).

Hi ladies, I have a question for you. Do you use OPKS or not? I found they tend to stress me out and i want to try and stay as relaxed as possible this time. Do you think I can still figure out my o date without the use of them or should I just go ahead and use them? Any opinions would be appreciated!

I used OPKs since January and I think they do stress me out too. (Not a good environment for a potential egg wanting to be fertilized ) This is the first month I am not going to use them (but I am going to temp). I know some people can pinpoint ovulation from temping so I am hoping that is what I can do . Hope that helps!

...I don't use opk... I just know my body's signals so I know "around" when I do. For example, this month I've had some back cramps and when I wiped today there was some cm..not an insane amount but enough for me to know I'm in the ovulation phase....so well be bd every day from now on until we get too tired. Hahahahaha.

I've been doing research on all the ovulation prediction methods. Temping is highly unreliable for pinpointing ovulation, like 30-40% accurate. 96-97% of women will ovulate on the day of a positive OPK or in the three days following one. CM is more reliable then temping, once it's gone, you've already ovulated (we can call it the Chulie method, here). If you are trying to be low-stress, I would suggest using something other than or in addition to temping. Temping, alone, will likely make you more stressed out if you are prone to stress.

Can I ask you all, does anyone feel like they are constantly boiling hot all the time? I feel like I am waking up in a sweat and I feel so hot. I always radiate heat my husband says but at the moment, I feel so hot and I don't normally feel this way.

I am constipated again as well. Does anyone feel the same?

I have asked my hubby to buy a couple of hpt today so we can maybe try one in the morning. I am so nervous though as I do not want to see what it says as I have only ever seen it say the words, 'not pregnant'. It's the worst feeling and now I dread taking a hpt.

When I first stopped BC all the progesterone-drive, post-ovulation "symptoms" made me CRAZY as the are all identical for the second half of a cycle and early pregnancy. If you dread early testing for pregnancy, you can always wait until after you expect a new cycle to start to test.

AFM, 100% sure I did not ovulate early this cycle - my temps have FINALLY gotten down to normal pre-O range. Slight increase in LH on OPK... so FX O is on the way (SOON)!

 

[burgbrandy]

I'm officially in the dreaded tww! My temp spike today makes me fairly confident that i o'd yesterday! i know it will be early, but I'm testing starting next Saturday before we head to cedar point!

 

[chulie]

@hopeful....omg now THIS is an article that I can relate too!!! Especially the last two points ...infertility vision! Hahaha. And yes. Many times I've gone to write and email to a friend and written DH instead of my hubby's name!

Another one I could add:
"You know your in the ttc when your husband is the one whose "too tired" tonight!" Hahahahaha.....even though my hubby will still solider on..it's funny to know I've finally exhausted him for once. Hahahahaha

Oh and...I know we're always talking about making sure we have some "us" time so I just had to share!!! I am going out for dinner for a bachelorette tonight so DH just took my daughter out for the day. Their going to visit his sister who lives about an hour away. So it's 11:30 am and I'm not being picked up for dinner until 5!!!! I have the entire day to myself! Omg!!! I currently have a face mask on and am then going to take a nap, wake up, have a Suuuuper long hot shower, paint my nails and spend the rest of the day getting ready for dinner out!!! I'm in heaven!!!!

Do something nice for yourselves ASAP ladies!! We're worth it!!