MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[Mrs A]

Thank you for such a speedy reply x x x

 

[melann13]

Mrs A, I agree with Dannixo. Not enough info, but very high. My progesterone was 21 at 11dpo and that was also the same day I got my BFP. HCG was only 23 that day, so it was very early.

 

[Mrs A]

Thanks x x x

 

[Mme2kdee]

Ok all cd22 today. Fertility monitor still low and opks still negative. I had huge temp spike yesterday because I was sick..still have a sinus infection but no temp now. Went to the restroom and there was so much ewcm coming out (tmi sorry) but then after I decided to see if there was some internal and none all sticky cm. any thoughts?

 

[MzImpatient]

Tangerine I'm so sorry

 

[MzImpatient]

Hopeful can you please put me down for July 18th?

 

[Hopeful2014]

@zilla Absolutely; welcome to the group! Congrats on lo. Seven months is really a fun time! I hope your cycle is regulated now. It's a good sign that you had ewcm and a positive opk. Was this the first time you noticed either since lo? I'll add you to TBA (for testing day/expected af day) unless you want to choose a specific date to add to the front page. Good luck!



@Lala8 I'm sorry you are having a tough time. I know ttc is so hard and I imagine it's harder when your cycles are longer and you're not sure what's going on. I really hope your doctor has answers for you. It's okay to feel bad sometimes, but the positive thing is it will happen for you. You will be strong and dedicated for it, and when it happens it will be because of you!

@momwithbabies I am totally with you about the mindless tv show. There are times when I just love to sit and watch hours of bad shows or movies that I know are silly or mindless! It does help.

@River54 I'll move you to TBA for now. Fingers crossed for next month!

@Tangerine That's such a terrible thing to happen. I know people (usually) do not intend on hurting your feelings, but people can be so daft sometimes. I'm so glad your mom was there for you. I agree; it is very encouraging to read about people who seem to be more fertile after having a cp. There are a lot of stories online that seem promising. I definitely agree that I would rather it happen early, although it still hurts I know it would hurt me so much more if it was longer. I'm also glad my body knows to recognize a problem and that it can deal with it naturally. That seems harsh, but I think it's better than a baby or me having a harder time because my body didn't recognize it. I'm sending and crossing my fingers for both of us!

@Mme2kdee I've heard to record the most fertile cm that you have of the day so ew should be a good sign that it is coming. It might be a bit behind since you were sick. Sometimes illness can delay you a bit. I'd continue to monitor cm. I hope it comes soon!

@MzImpatient Date updated. Fingers crossed for fireworks and two bright pink lines!

@ClandestineTX That's a great way of looking at it! Your body will let one implant and very soon I hope!

That research has me feeling slightly more positive. It offers some positivity to all of us. Like ClandestineTX said, if you haven't had an early loss then perhaps your body is being very selective and it will happen once you get the right, perfect combination. If you have had early losses, perhaps it's good because it shows your body is capable of conceiving and starting the process, and might even be considered super-fertile. I know having one implant and stay is what will really make us all feel good, but it's a good point while we are waiting!

 

[Lala8]

@Hopeful2014 - Thank you, I too have found that reading about early loss is very therapeutic because it helps to not feel so alone. I think that both times, for me, the hardest thing to deal with has been this lonely, empty feeling that I don't think anyone else understands unless they've experienced it.

Yesterday the hospital was having a very busy day so I had to wait quite a while in the waiting room for an empty bed. The waiting room volunteer just had a new granddaughter so she was showing around newborn pictures, talking about her daughter's pregnancy and birth, other grandchildren etc. etc. All right in front of me while I sat there with my own mum. I just tried to close my eyes and not listen but I couldn't stop the tears from coming. The triage nurse noticed what was happening (bless her!), apologized and quickly found us an empty exam room to wait in instead. There was no way for the volunteer to know what I was going through and I felt so alone because everyone else was so happy for her while I was so sad.

It helped a lot having my mum there for support - she has had 8 pregnancies but only 2 surviving children, my sister and I. I called her in the morning and as soon as she got off the phone she took the rest of the day out of work to be there with me. She said she was very sad that I had to experience this too, unfortunately it happens far too often and to far too many women, as we know here. She and the doctor both said that I will feel extra emotional and teary for a few days, and a lot of it is due to pregnancy hormones that still need to come down.

I found this study that also mentions chromosomal abnormalities, and that autoimmune diseases may actually cause these problems in an embryo:

https://www.emaxhealth.com/4214/miscarriages-may-be-caused-autoimmune-disease

It's also somewhat reassuring to know that maybe if there was a problem with this pregnancy, whether it was caused by my autoimmune disease or not, I feel like my body might have done the right thing in detecting it and letting it go so early. Everything I've read also reiterates that as painful and disappointing as it is, having a chemical pregnancy (or two!) means that future healthy pregnancies (and babies!) are very likely for all of us.

@Lala8 I totally agree with chulie! We all want to be positive most of the time but let's face it - TTC can be a HARD and BUMPY road. I think most of us are here because we all have our own unique struggles, and we know those negative feelings all too well. I am very happy that you're seeing your doctor about your long cycles, like Clandestine said it's very likely that your doctor will be able to offer some help with them!

@Tangerine I am so sorry that you are going through such a tough time but you are so lucky that you have your mum supporting you through it. Family are so important and by the sounds of it, your mum knows exactly how you are feeling. I really hope you start to feel better with time, I'm thinking positive thoughts for you.

Thanks for your kind words for me, this support group is amazing and I am so glad to be a part of it. Everyone on here inspires me as they are all so strong and everyone is going through something but we are all here for each other which means so much xx

 

[zilla]

@zilla Absolutely; welcome to the group! Congrats on lo. Seven months is really a fun time! I hope your cycle is regulated now. It's a good sign that you had ewcm and a positive opk. Was this the first time you noticed either since lo? I'll add you to TBA (for testing day/expected af day) unless you want to choose a specific date to add to the front page. Good luck!

Hopeful: Thank you I think so! I'm a bit useless at reading the OPKs but these were in the evening and definitely positive. I need to stop doing them when I wake up as I know that can throw out a few false positives.
I think I'll stay TBA just in case got my dates wrong or something! xx

Tangerine: So sorry you sound lucky to have such a supportive family! I know no words will make a difference but thinking of you xxxxxx

 

[Hopeful2014]

JUNE , HERE WE COME!!!

Ladies, Remember
1. That it's not over until AF comes
2. That many ladies get false negatives
3. That implantation happens 6-12 dpo
4. That we are here for you no matter what


June is here and we are ready for some more BFPs! Some of us got a BFP in May and we are starting to see BFPs in June! Some of us are continuing on our journey into June and July. I look forward to hearing more about the pregnancies already taking form and the upcoming pregnancies soon to be announced. We started this group in April-all with the same goal-wanting a BFP. Since then we have expanded on that goal. I want us to have a thread where we all know each other and can help each other along. I want to see a BFP blinking by each of our names. I want it to be a place we can look back on in time (while cradling baby!) and remember our struggle and and share our happiness. We will keep adding to the list from May and on until we can see everyone have that beautiful beside her name. Good luck and fingers crossed!

TESTERS:
June 26: kksy9b

 

[Ruskiegirl]

Haven't been keeping up on the thread so sorry ladies for the losses and congrats on the new 's !
I am not sure why my temps are so high still , But I am in my fertile period with O pain and all

 

[lesh07]

Well ladies tested today and bfn again only about 8 dpo though. But am losing hope for this month. Xx

 

[ClandestineTX]

Still waiting and now... CD 20. Seriously stopped exercising to see if that was interfering with ovulation this cycle. More promising last night and this morning's OPKs. Close enough to positive for me, that I'll consider them positive if they would start getting lighter! At least they look like things are getting closer!

 

[MamaPeaches]

Hi ladies How is everyone today? Me and Hubby are in the middle of our bding marathon and its been a relaxing fun time. After this last loss my Husband has kind of taken a bigger lead in ttcing, I bought some really good OPKS and they are so much easier to read especially with my Husbands opinion. Today's opk was almost positive but not quite, FF predicts Oing on Friday so we will keep up the bding thru Sunday for sure. It's so nice to have dh involved, he really helps keep me calm.

And I am in the middle of packing up the house which is currently halfway done! I am excited to get into our new home and it's been a fun summer with the kids with lots of fun activities and parties. What has everyone else been up to?

 

[chulie]

Still waiting and now... CD 20. Seriously stopped exercising to see if that was interfering with ovulation this cycle. More promising last night and this morning's OPKs. Close enough to positive for me, that I'll consider them positive if they would start getting lighter! At least they look like things are getting closer!

That sucks you had to stop working out but...ya..you gotta do what you gotta do girl to that +opk!!!!

 

[MamaPeaches]

Still waiting and now... CD 20. Seriously stopped exercising to see if that was interfering with ovulation this cycle. More promising last night and this morning's OPKs. Close enough to positive for me, that I'll consider them positive if they would start getting lighter! At least they look like things are getting closer!

I hope you get a confirmed positive soon! My cycles seem to go smoother when I'm not doing heavy exercise, I just keep up running once a day. You would think our bodies would respond with smoother cycles when we are exercising vs not exercising.

 

[ClandestineTX]

@chulie: I stopped as a precaution - this is just rivaling my latest ovulation on record and that's the only newer thing.

@MamaPeaches: technically "moderate" exercise everyday is recommended while ttc and during pregnancy (assuming normal/ no complications). I've been super sedentary for a long time and am trying to get back into exercise - was really just walking on the treadmill every day, but for me (and my really out of shape self) - it appears to be enough to throw things off. I'm just waiting to see signs of ovulation, then I'm getting right back to the exercise.

 

[kksy9b]

Out for the month...AF arrived right on time. I felt good going into the month but my ovulation was a day or two late this month and our bding schedule was all messed up, and for the last week I have felt out. No worries, onto July! I think this next month rather than trying to predict ovulation and time it that way, we will just bd every day with fertile cm. If that doesn't work, I think I'll start temping next month to confirm that I am ovulating. At least I have today off work so I can have the morning to wallow for a bit, LOL

Hopeful, please move me to July 22nd. 22 has always been my favorite/ lucky number so hopefully this month it brings a BFP!!

 

[Mrs A]

I had a temp drop today with some brown spotting.

 

[momwithbabies]

Well ladies tested today and bfn again only about 8 dpo though. But am losing hope for this month. Xx

I hate that feeling of hopelessness, but of course, 8DPO is pretty darn early. Speaking as a hypocrite, try to keep your mind busy with other things and retest in a few days. I know it sucks waiting. Sending you best wishes.