MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[newbie2013]

Profwife, he wants to try iui first because, in his opinion my complete lack of appropriate cm was more of an issue than the tubes. He's not sure about the fingery things at the ends of my tubes based non the hsg results but he's sure the lack of cm would be an issue. I have asked if of this worthwhile doing a natural cycle before a medicated one and waiting for him to get back to me. I am going away over the holidays, right around when I'd need to inject and it would be difficult, if not Impossible to keep it quiet from d's family which I want to try to do.

He Is sure I'm ovulating so I don't really know why he suggested medicating. I was too overwhelmed at the appointment yesterday to remember all the questions I should ask. I sent a follow up email but no response yet. First question dh asked was "how much?"... I had no idea! I hadn't asked! I forgot to

I'll keep you posted.

 

[ClandestineTX]

@newbie: in general, they will give ovulation induction meds to women who ovulate on their own to make a stronger ovulation/ more mature egg.

 

[newbie2013]

Thanks clandestine, I didn't know that!

 

[ClandestineTX]

That's why ya'll keep me around... all this random stuff in my brain!

 

[ProfWife]

Same reason why they want me on meds - stronger egg...

Looks like we'll be able to start in January as long as my principal lets me have some time to do the ultrasound the first week back from Christmas. I'll likely only miss a class (or two if they're running late).

 

[ClandestineTX]

FX ProfWife! I honestly hope we all get legit BFPs before May rolls around. As much as I love this thread, I would love it a lot more if we can retire it before it's second anniversary.

 

[ProfWife]

I completely agree with you on that!

Starting to think this is going to be a weird month. Had a + opk on Sunday. Negative Monday, but no temp rise. Temp was still down on Tuesday, + opk again. Today I had a mini-rise, but + opk again. Not sure what is going on...

 

[Hopeful2014]

@ProfWife Does DH really have a offer for the Netherlands? That would be cool. "Infertility doesn't define me." --Very true! I love this attitude and how you are thinking. I am trying to live every day and be appreciative for everything. That's a terribly hard thing to consider or do in my situation, but I do it as a way to honor her. I hope this cycle brings you a BFP, but I'm excited for you to start in January if needed. This could be just what you need!

@ClandestineTX I know you'll make the decision that's best for you. I see great things for you. I hope it starts with a BFP soon and leads to you accepting a position you like next year. I hope you get it all.

@melann13 That's one of the hard things about being a woman. I wish we didn't have to decide between work/education and children. I think that's one reason a lot of women wait to have children. Then the cycle of regret or blame starts when it doesn't happen easily or for a long time. There are women who have the career and are missing out on the family and women who have the family and are missing out on having a career. Good luck in making your next decision. Have you submitted your paper yet?

@momwithbabies I'm sorry. I know it's a tough situation. I really hope he literally woke up or metaphorically wakes up and talks to you. I think it's important that you told him how you feel. I hope he thinks about it and works with you to make it better.

@lesh07 I'm sorry that you are struggling. You are always welcome here. We'll try to help you.

@newbie2013 I can never relax during a pap smear. I'm glad that your ovaries and uterus look good, but sorry about the news. I hope your husband and you decide on your plan and that insurance covers it. I'm still positive for you because I believe it will happen! This could be the first step!


AFM Ovulation is near. I'm excited and hopeful for this cycle. I want to send super positive vibes out for all of us. 2015 will be a year of new beginnings and more BFPs!

 

[ClandestineTX]

I was having maybe positive OPKs yesterday, but finally went full blown blazing this morning. We are going to try to get in another day or two, but I think we have worn ourselves out this week!

I've been working this week, after I swore it off, because I can't help myself and love the people I work with and what we do. I'm going to the office but only for half a day today (I promised myself) and then I am really taking a break until Jan!

 

[ProfWife]

@Hopeful - We had a potential, but it wasn't feasible at the time. We both want to be a bit more mobile if needed.

@Clandestine - I love how passionate you are about what you do...so much that you actually WANT to go to work. I'm like that most of the time. Today, I'm emotionally drained from students stressing, etc. 100 teenagers can really take it out of a person!

 

[ClandestineTX]

I could not teach students of any age, all day every day. I'm honestly quite introverted and need to decompress between extrovert activities. I think you teachers are all amazing people. I am just a lab rat with some fancy samples.

 

[newbie2013]

You do an amazing job clande! I love being a teacher, though. I couldn't teach middle or high school - 24 kids are enough! in saying that, I'm enjoying my new role as vice principal.

Good news - pregnancy and birth resulting from fertility treatment is covered by my insurance, but treatment itself isn't. Will hopefully see my doc again between Christmas and New year and set a plan in motion. I will go armed with questions like one of you did one time. I want to be more informed.

 

[ClandestineTX]

@Newbie: not perfect, but definitely super good news!!! And vice principal is definitely a big job, especially for little ones!

 

[ProfWife]

You couldn't pay me enough to do an administrative job beyond department chair!

And, Clandestine - who knows...your work in the lab may end up changing a lot for everyone else

 

[ClandestineTX]

@ProfWife: that's actually the plan, plus my samples are a big deal in some circles. I just can't get more detailed with that on here and stay anonymous.

 

[ProfWife]

It's cool. I think we all need that bit of anonymity to keep our sanity in this whole process. I really respect people like you. So many will be able to have better lives as a result. Without people in the labs, neither of my parents would have survived cancer.

 

[melann13]

Hey Clande! I officially finished my PhD! Just had to say hi to a fellow doc

 

[newbie2013]

Congrats melann!

 

[ProfWife]

Congratulations, Melann!

 

[ClandestineTX]

Hey Clande! I officially finished my PhD! Just had to say hi to a fellow doc

Well done, Dr. Melann!!!

PS. It still does not feel real yet, probably doesn't help I'm staying at my PhD campus as a post-doc for now, so my work looks similar to before.