MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[Kwaggy]

I think Im out Tested this morning BFN. My temp dropped and I have AF cramps, looks like the witch may make an early appearance.

Ur temp is still way above coverline and 11 dpo is still early for a bfp! Cramps dont mean its over! How long is ur luteal phase normally?

Thanks, maybe there is still hope. Im not sure how long my luteal phase is, this is the first time Ive confirmed ovulation in nearly three years of trying, so Im waiting to see

 

[pennymarie]

@RaeChay Don't take it out on yourself. I understand the feeling and worrying. The man and woman both feel somewhat responsible and frightened when it doesn't just happen. However, it might be nothing at all. It might just take a while to get everything perfect all at the same time. What I do to stop with this paranoia is think of things that worked better from the cycle before and what can I do to give us more of a chance next time. Have you thought of anything that you might like to try differently or did you find something last time that will be even better this time? Feel better.

@pennymarie I'm sorry. It's really good that the cream lengthened your lp! That will be very good once you do get your little egg in there. As far as DH just tell him how you feel. He may want to protect you from the disappointment and worry it causes you. Let him know it's something you want badly and that's why it bothers you. Then try to think of things you can do next time to ease the stress. Perhaps planning something for next month that you can also look forward to in addition to testing and hopefully getting pregnant!

@River54 I'm sorry. I always count it as next day if it's after midnight. When I went to bed earlier I would always count it as the next day if it hadn't came by the time I went to bed and it came during the night. I've updated your date. I'm glad you are sticking with us.

Well, at least it lengthened my LP....did it do that for you too? You aren't taking it anymore, any reason? I think I remember you saying that there was a reason

Thanks...really wish DH was here. I just feel like there is no one here to comfort me. On top of that, he says maybe we should take another break from TTC because next month might be the same hours, and he doesn't want me disappointed again. I think I'd be sadder if we quit trying again. I don't know how to express this to him

I took it because of luteal phase spotting. I thought maybe my progesterone was low and thats why id start spotting at 6 dpo, so i used it for 2 months. I decided to stop taking for a month and no spotting. So i just dont use it anymore.

Im sorry about ur dh. Maybe stick with strategically timed bd without telling him u are actively trying this month? Lol. Im sneaky like that. Too much pressure on hubby when he knows its fertile time.

That's good advice. It's just when we are not TTC we use the pull out method because he knows about my temping and poas obsession, and if there is no chance, then I won't be worried about my temperature staying high etc. I still may try and convince him. Its a "we'll talk about it when he has time" matter. The only reason he says we should do this is because he keeps trying to take off days he shouldn't around the time I'm ovulating; then he has to drive all the way back here just for sex.

CD4 for me and crazy amounts of queasiness.

Congrats to everyone and I'm glad people are staying around for June too

 

[AllStar]

Congrats Ruskiegirl!!! After 13 years that is amazing! Happy and healthy 9 months to you.

AFM - 9dpo and had to seriously resist going to get a test this morning! Silly I know. 6 more days until AF/testing. Not sure what my chart is like as its my first month temping, had a couple of dips, not sure if that's good or bad? Not had that pain again since 7dpo so who knows?

Loving how lucky this thread is and also love how everyone is sticking around for June as Pennymarie said. It's such a helpful, supportive thread I know I'll be glad to have it next month if AF arrives.

Babydust to all still needing it and congrats again to the x

 

[AllStar]

I think Im out Tested this morning BFN. My temp dropped and I have AF cramps, looks like the witch may make an early appearance.

You're not out yet! I had terrible cramps before my bfp with DS. Good luck and babydust! X

 

[omgbaby]

Good luck kiki!!

 

[Fallen8905]

Did anyone know the answer or have advice for my question....

I dtd on Saturday as oh went away. I had ewcm and positive opk today am I still in the running

 

[littlesteph]

i wouldn't say you are out sperm can live up to 5 days

 

[pennymarie]

Did anyone know the answer or have advice for my question....

I dtd on Saturday as oh went away. I had ewcm and positive opk today am I still in the running

If you had a positive opk today, that means you can ovulate today or tomorrow, or even thursday. I think if you had ewcm Saturday last time you had sex, then yes you are. If not, then you are "still in the running", just a very small chance. Is there any way to dtd today or tomorrow?

And Ruskie: Thank you so much for your story. I made my day and probably week. I've been trying since 2008, and its just so many ups and downs. I am so happy for you. I will be thinking about you for the following weeks. Please update!!

 

[allforthegirl]

Did anyone know the answer or have advice for my question....

I dtd on Saturday as oh went away. I had ewcm and positive opk today am I still in the running

There is always a possibility!! GL FX

 

[Fallen8905]

just done another one and its a darker positive than this morning

 

[gabbygabz]

Wanted to pop in and update with a June 8 testing date. Starting Clomid on Friday and assuming it doesn't change things too much, by 6/8 I should have some answers. Fingers crossed for us all!

 

[FrancoRie710]

I got my this morning !!! After 13 years this is the earliest I have gotten a line dpo wise . I am in completley shock and soooo on

Congratulations! Happy and healthy nine months. Did you do anything different this cycle?

MORE and it is an HSG cycle And progesterone starting at 2 dpo

SUPER happy for you, congrats!!! This is my HSG cycle, I hope I have the same luck!

 

[J_Lynn]

Well my CM changed tonight and it is becoming more stretchy and fertile-type.

I'm hoping, soooo hoping maybe I'm ovulating. But I'm only on cycle day 9 :/ So I don't even know if it's possible to ovulate that early.

 

[Hopeful2014]

@RosyPosy5 Welcome to the group! I'm so glad you joined us. I added you to TBA for now, but I'll update if you have a specific testing date. Fingers crossed for a BFP!


@Fallen8905, @stephj25, @gabbygabz Dates updated. Good luck ladies!

@Fallen8905 I'd say you have a chance especially if you had good cm to keep it there longer. Sometimes it can stick around a while. Honestly it is so much earlier than your last cycle, I would keep an eye out for temps to go higher after this. Sometimes you can get positive opks when gearing up to ovulate, but it doesn't happen. I would keep testing around time of last cycle's ovulation if temps do not elevate. Good luck!

@OurLilFlu Fingers crossed!

@newbie2013 Thanks for all of your support as well.

@Kwaggy Your temp is still really high above coverline and she is not here yet! Fingers crossed she gets lost.

@kiki13 That's such great news about cm. I'd say you will be covered since you are seeing the ewcm now. Fingers crossed!

@pennymarie I always want to poas as well, but I keep myself from it. I've noticed that my temperature starts to fall on 13 dpo, so I tell myself if on 13 dpo my temperature is just as high or higher then I will test. My temp was down on 13 dpo so I didn't test, although I wanted to so badly. It wasn't that I wanted to test so badly, it was that I wanted my temp to still be up and it to be a BFP. Suggestions for getting some peace of mind and for dh to know you will try not to stress yourself as much: Can you give yourself a dpo that you will commit to waiting to test until unless you have intense symptoms? Do you think it could help to temp all through the cycle and then stop after ovulation is confirmed so you don't have to see the temperature fluctuations? I know it's so hard.

@AllStar I think your temps are looking good. The pain on 7dpo was followed by two higher temps! I'm so hopeful for you! Fingers crossed!

@J_Lynn Ovulation might be early in cycle if you have shorter cycles. Bd just in case. Good luck!

 

[OurLilFlu]

Thanks! We'll see what the temp does but AF seems to be on her way out, just spotting today after only 2 days of light pinky-red flow... Who knows, I know it's only a flicker of hope but still...

 

[pennymarie]

@RosyPosy5 Welcome to the group! I'm so glad you joined us. I added you to TBA for now, but I'll update if you have a specific testing date. Fingers crossed for a BFP!


@Fallen8905, @stephj25, @gabbygabz Dates updated. Good luck ladies!

@Fallen8905 I'd say you have a chance especially if you had good cm to keep it there longer. Sometimes it can stick around a while. Honestly it is so much earlier than your last cycle, I would keep an eye out for temps to go higher after this. Sometimes you can get positive opks when gearing up to ovulate, but it doesn't happen. I would keep testing around time of last cycle's ovulation if temps do not elevate. Good luck!

@OurLilFlu Fingers crossed!

@newbie2013 Thanks for all of your support as well.

@Kwaggy Your temp is still really high above coverline and she is not here yet! Fingers crossed she gets lost.

@kiki13 That's such great news about cm. I'd say you will be covered since you are seeing the ewcm now. Fingers crossed!

@pennymarie I always want to poas as well, but I keep myself from it. I've noticed that my temperature starts to fall on 13 dpo, so I tell myself if on 13 dpo my temperature is just as high or higher then I will test. My temp was down on 13 dpo so I didn't test, although I wanted to so badly. It wasn't that I wanted to test so badly, it was that I wanted my temp to still be up and it to be a BFP. Suggestions for getting some peace of mind and for dh to know you will try not to stress yourself as much: Can you give yourself a dpo that you will commit to waiting to test until unless you have intense symptoms? Do you think it could help to temp all through the cycle and then stop after ovulation is confirmed so you don't have to see the temperature fluctuations? I know it's so hard.

@AllStar I think your temps are looking good. The pain on 7dpo was followed by two higher temps! I'm so hopeful for you! Fingers crossed!

@J_Lynn Ovulation might be early in cycle if you have shorter cycles. Bd just in case. Good luck!

So this is not entirely related, but husband discussed a seperation with me tonight. Then said he was staying with friends, and left. It came out of left field. Even though we've been through so much, and he has supported me through all of this, and he was as devasted as I was. I don't know. I really don't know who else to talk to about this. All my in life friends and family just don't know what to say. And they have been standoff-ish since my miscarriage because they don't know what to say. I'm falling to pieces now

 

[RaeChay]

@RosyPosy5 Welcome to the group! I'm so glad you joined us. I added you to TBA for now, but I'll update if you have a specific testing date. Fingers crossed for a BFP!


@Fallen8905, @stephj25, @gabbygabz Dates updated. Good luck ladies!

@Fallen8905 I'd say you have a chance especially if you had good cm to keep it there longer. Sometimes it can stick around a while. Honestly it is so much earlier than your last cycle, I would keep an eye out for temps to go higher after this. Sometimes you can get positive opks when gearing up to ovulate, but it doesn't happen. I would keep testing around time of last cycle's ovulation if temps do not elevate. Good luck!

@OurLilFlu Fingers crossed!

@newbie2013 Thanks for all of your support as well.

@Kwaggy Your temp is still really high above coverline and she is not here yet! Fingers crossed she gets lost.

@kiki13 That's such great news about cm. I'd say you will be covered since you are seeing the ewcm now. Fingers crossed!

@pennymarie I always want to poas as well, but I keep myself from it. I've noticed that my temperature starts to fall on 13 dpo, so I tell myself if on 13 dpo my temperature is just as high or higher then I will test. My temp was down on 13 dpo so I didn't test, although I wanted to so badly. It wasn't that I wanted to test so badly, it was that I wanted my temp to still be up and it to be a BFP. Suggestions for getting some peace of mind and for dh to know you will try not to stress yourself as much: Can you give yourself a dpo that you will commit to waiting to test until unless you have intense symptoms? Do you think it could help to temp all through the cycle and then stop after ovulation is confirmed so you don't have to see the temperature fluctuations? I know it's so hard.

@AllStar I think your temps are looking good. The pain on 7dpo was followed by two higher temps! I'm so hopeful for you! Fingers crossed!

@J_Lynn Ovulation might be early in cycle if you have shorter cycles. Bd just in case. Good luck!

So this is not entirely related, but husband discussed a seperation with me tonight. Then said he was staying with friends, and left. It came out of left field. Even though we've been through so much, and he has supported me through all of this, and he was as devasted as I was. I don't know. I really don't know who else to talk to about this. All my in life friends and family just don't know what to say. And they have been standoff-ish since my miscarriage because they don't know what to say. I'm falling to pieces now

Oh penny. I don't have any appropriate words. Get your finances in order- I know that sounds insensitive and cold, but it is something you may be grateful for at some point. I am so sorry you are going through this. Much love to you.

 

[pennymarie]

Its not insensitive. Its practical. I respect practical. I just happened a couple hours ago. It went from discussing if we would try this month because he has been so busy with work, then his story wasn't matching up about when he was out of town for work. Like he worked all last week, he came back home Wednesday for a bit. But he said something about only working 5 days, and I asked where the heck was he then....I don't know. Then it just got crazy from there and he just left. I think I just feel worse cause there was no resolution.

My limited insurance is through his work.
I'm not working right now because I'm finishing up school.
I'm just overwhelmed. I don't even know where to start being upset.
I feel betrayed. After everything this? Is he just upset? Is this actually happening?

 

[kiki13]

I'm so sorry penny

*hugs*

 

[Hopeful2014]

@pennymarie I'm so sorry to hear this. It's hard to know what is going on with him. It is clear he is being dishonest with you, but I'm not sure to what extent. I don't want to assume the worst so perhaps he is really struggling with this process and was staying away because of it. If so, I hope a night away helps him come to his senses and realize he shouldn't leave you alone to deal with it.

It seems that he has been making excuses to you about why he wants to pause this. Either he is truly worried about ttc for fertility reasons that you both know or reasons just he has or he is not sure about continuing it right now. TTC is so difficult, so time consuming, and so heart breaking when it doesn't work out. Sadly it adds extra stress to relationships.

I truly hope it works out for the best. Remember you are a special person and you can still achieve all your dreams, school related and baby related. We are here for you.